争执、争辩、论辩的礼仪（Amannerofarguing,arguing,ordebating）

争执、争辩、论辩的礼仪（A manner of arguing, arguing, or
debating）
Arguments, arguments, arguments, etiquette,.Txt, upwind, better for flying. I am not afraid of all obstacles, but I am afraid I surrender. You lose 60 minutes of happiness when you're angry for a minute. Busy is a kind of happiness, so that we do not have time to experience pain; running is a pleasure, let us truly feel life; fatigue is a kind of enjoyment, so that we have no time to empty. Life is like "breathing", "call" is for a breath, "suck" is for a breath. Contacts with the outside world, everyone will encounter different from themselves, to ideas, to behave way; as for sb / views and evaluation. These varying degrees of difference will translate into arguments and arguments among adults, and any independent and independent person should face up to the problem.
Everyone look around yourself, you will find that almost omnipresent: a movie to argue, can cause a novel argument; a special event, a social problem can cause the argument; even, hairstyle and decoration can also cause the argue sb. The impression that the debate leaves us is often unpleasant because its point of view is clear: each side is using the other as "enemy" and tries to impose it on his opponent.
Is it possible to make debate a pleasant and peaceful exchange of ideas? Certainly. In life there are examples of this: "listen to Jun's words, better than reading ten books", "you let me sincerely convinced." We call it a positive argument.
The first point in getting a positive argument is to avoid
unhelpful arguments. When people realize that their ideas, opinions and other people disagree, when the words and deeds are criticized, many people's first instinct is probably rise up rebuttal. Many meaningless things happen at this time. In fact, as long as a little cool, consider a few questions, you can avoid going astray:
What is the point of winning the argument if it wins at last? What if it fails? What if you keep silent? Compare the three possible effects.
In his rebuttal a desire is based more on intellectual or emotional (vanity, desire or face down etc.)? If the latter can stop.
Is the other party hostile? Are there deep prejudices against each other? If so, then, in this irrational atmosphere, it is best not to add fuel to the flames. For the inevitable debate, before it begins, be prepared for guidance in the direction of "positive argument". The purpose of an argument is nothing but the search for truth or truth. Therefore, the first to have its own is a strong basis for this self confidence. The so-called truth or justice is not absolute but relative, everything has its two sides and multi-faceted, depending on which point to emphasize, and then argue. This principle can be seen in the defense of lawyers. This is a strategy of striking out on one side. When giving your reasons, pay attention to the points.
Reason is easy to understand;
Confident and decisive in tone;
Lay bare facts.
At the same time, there are also some arguments against war against each other in verbal confrontation:
Try to sum up the general idea or reason that leads to the conclusion of the other, indicating that they are wrong or biased;
Find out the loopholes and mistakes in the dialect, and refute them;
Expose the fundamental error of the "justifications" of the other party;
Contrast, make each other's mistakes and his correct contrast.
If you want to win in the debate, in addition to pay attention to some methods and skills, but more importantly, pay attention to increase their knowledge and accomplishment. A wide range of knowledge reasoning are not only abundant material, but also because of its high level of understanding, observation, analysis of angle and depth will be better than others. These two points should be the most important details of the debate. Otherwise, the "backyard" empty, must be on the surface to cope with poor, vulnerable to take things; if so, the result is one disaster after another defeat, as can be imagined. A poet said: the mind is like a knife all blade, to make use of it in full bleed. In the argument, "reason" factor is important, because it is the purpose of debate and the guarantee of victory.
However, people are emotional animals, and love and reason are intertwined. They are often related to each other and are difficult to decompose. If you can take this into account in your argument, you will get twice the result with half the effort. Daniel and move, like a train to the "positive argument" of the track, are indispensable.
The use of the offensive in an argument is based on two things: first, do not hurt your opponent's self-esteem. Wounding
self-esteem is a general common mistakes, such as a reproachful tone, condescending disdain eyes, sneer and even insulting words, seemingly agitated, actually reflects the speaker without training, then, even if he is right, but also fight back a little bit of convincing opponents. On the contrary, it also causes resentment among everyone present (not only the injured). It all decides that the man who is hurt is doomed to fail.
Secondly, it is to pay attention to protect and encourage the other party's self-esteem, which is higher requirement. Generally speaking, the following should be done:
(1) before resorting to force. Before the opening, just a gentle, or humble or sorry, and then confidently point.
(2) rational not many words, He that talks much errs much. Speak in moderation, as long as the key is enough.
(3) modulation section, not anxious. The other is offensive or bump off the reel, although allowed to play, his excenter is calm, this is a take things calmly, we will read.
(4) compassion. Every man has his or her own right reasons, but his opinions and opinions are different, but he still understands what he thinks and does. In this way, at least in the emotional unity with each other, virtually collapsed part of his fight.
(5) do not disclose privacy. A tree fears peeling. Everyone will have big privacy and little taboo, especially in that occasion, both with hostile consciousness, the more sensitive is thousands of times, once touched, pain pain is irreparable, so be careful and careful.
(6) tongue,
Not overdo sth. As the saying goes, a hare can bite when it is anxious. Seeing the other side losing has been set, rendered speechless, they should not kill the Spirit descending out to end confrontation scenes, give him a step down, return to peace.
(7) do not let an argument end in an argument. When the opponent hit the nail on the head, must not be a little vain, hang the banner on the face. When men are proud, restraint is virtue. Put an end to the dispute and give each other a cup of tea, with a "look at me like a child, so serious!" Or easily and naturally turn a topic. Remember: debate is a thing, friendship is another thing. Human nature is very fragile, easy to break down, it is easy to be propped up. As long as one or two good words, you can restore a person just lost the psychological balance, so that he returned to a happy calm, why not?
Looking at the above seven points, the gist of the passage is
only four words. That is "respect for others."".。