英语口语_自信

Can you describe the importance of self-confidence?
Can you give some examples or tell your own experience about it? Being confident will make you life more exciting and you will be happier .for one thing, being confident will make you be sure of your own ability. for another ,it will make you dare to persuit things you like.
(example)when i was in high school ,i always thought other people were better than me and i always got disappointed when i finished my task given by my teacher. The other day, I happened to find that all of the famous people have gleaming smile when they are in gloomy time. And confident is just a matter of attitude. Why don't I be confident and make myself happier. Confidence, in a broad sense, comprises self-trust, self-esteem
([ˌself-ɪsˌti:m]自尊), courage and indomitability（[indɔmitəˌbiliti] 不屈不挠;大无畏; 不气馁）. This definition, though somewhat vague and unsubstantial, can be appreciated through experience because iff our lifetime, we are always seeking to achieve something successful and are always longing. to attain a glorious goal, which can only be reached with the spirit of self confidence.
As is known, self-confidence is accompanied by will, and that as a twin, offers hope. Those who do not have a strong will often think themselves unable to carry out any thorny tasks, while those who have do not find the tasks unsurmountably difficult. In fact, when our heart is void of selfconfidence, every hope is gone, every thing on which we put our hands seems to be veiled in dark. For instance, according to experts, every year in the entrance examinations of all kinds, fully-prepared candidates lose nearly 5％to 10％of the full scores, and consequently meet their Waterloo simply because they underestimate their own abilities, on the one hand,and overestimate possible difficulties on the other. As a result, their fear to meet new challenge leads to helplessness in the examination.
Self-confidence（[selfˈkɔnfid(ə)ns]）can be regained (if you have ever lost it) by building faith in yourself. True, whatever you do, you will encounter hardships. Put success will come to you if you are
courageous（[kəˌreidʒəs]勇敢的，无谓的）enough to strive for it. If you are not, failure might be your life-companion.
Many people yearn（[jə:n] vi.渴望, 切盼, 向往）to be more self-confident. Yet they have no idea how to achieve that objective. They look at others who have
the gift and say, “Hey that’s what I want. I hate feeling unsure of myself. I wish I could stop obsessing（[əbˌses]）about what others think of me and quit worrying about disappointing other people. I want to stop anguishing over my decisions and torturing myself about my mistakes. I think it would be so great to feel self-assured, hold my head up high and stand tall. I’ve never been
self-confident. I wish there were a way I could be.”
There is a way. You don’t have to be born with self-confidence.
Self-confidence can grow and flourish（[ˌflʌriʃ]茂盛、繁荣）and ripen and blossom until you actually come to feel as though there is a different person inside of you. Here are some insights that might facilitate（[fəˌsiliteit]促进、帮助、使便利）the quest.
Learn what a self-confident person is really like. They are not cocky（[ˌkɔki] 骄傲自大的；过分自信的；趾高气扬的）, know-it-all people who don’t care what anybody else thinks. They have their doubts. And make mistakes. And are far from perfect. However, they are willing to acknowledge their inadequacies without dwelling（[ˌdweliŋ]居住、住处）on them. They do this by maintaining a sense of humor, putting problems in perspective, and focusing mainly on what they’ve done right, not wrong.
Though self-confident people do believe in themselves, they don’t try to suffocate（[ˌsʌfəkeit] 呼吸困难, 窒息；(使某人)窒息而死, (将某人)闷死）others with their ideas or beliefs. They are confident in what they know not only because they read, learn and think but also because they respect their instinct（[ˈinstiŋkt]本能; 天性; 直觉）, intuition（[ˈɪntjuˈiʃən直觉）and the unique body of knowledge that they’ve developed by living life. They realize that one doesn't have to be labeled an “expert” to believe in one's own truths.
Self-confident people don’t undermine （[ˈʌndəˈmain]逐渐削弱）their own worth by comparing themselve s with others, only to conclude that they aren’t “good enough”. They appreciate their strengths and accomplishments and can acknowledge, without embarrassment, their weaknesses. They don’t live in the “victim（[ˌviktim]牺牲者，受害者）” position. Even if something really bad has occurred, they turn it into a challenge, remembering to be grateful for the little things in life.
Self-confident people let the world know who they are. If they want something badly enough, they know they have every right to “go for it.”Yet, they also know that the path will rarely be easy. Mistakes, blunders and failures are part of the learning process. They seek to learn from their mistakes and do not waste time torturing（[ˌtɔ:tʃə] 拷问的;使受苦的;使痛苦的）themselves over what “could have been”.
Self-confident people are not obstinate（[ˌɔbstinit] 固执的; 顽固的, 倔强的）people. If they have an idea about something and it differs from the way another person is thinking about it, they will usually try to look at it from that
person’s point of view, see w hy it makes sense to them. Yet, a confident person’s sense of self is grounded. It does not blow in the wind. Their ideas do not fluctuate（[ˌflʌktjueit] 波动, 涨落, 起伏）based on what others deem（认为，相信）are important.
I hope these insights are helpful to you. If so, perhaps one day you will be able to say what the actress Phyllis Rashad once said, simply but eloquently, ” I am just myself and who I am is a lot.”
自信，是走向成功的伴侣，是追逐梦想的后盾self-confidence is a partner for success, which is the first step to pursue one’s dream. self-confidence should be the solid foundation for everyone’s life.。