增强精神力量的五种有效方法
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5 Powerf ul Exerci ses To Increa se Your Mental Streng th 增强精神力量的五种有效方法
The follow ing guestpost is by Amy Morin, a licens ed clinic al social worker in Lincol n, Maine.In additi on to workin g as a psycho thera pist,she is also an adjunc t colleg e psycho logyinstru ctorand she serves as About.com’s Parent ing Teensexpert.
以下这篇客座文章的作者是艾米·莫兰(Amy Morin),她是缅因州林肯市一位持有执照的临床社会工作者。
除了作为一名心理治疗师外,她还是兼职大学心理学讲师,此外她也担任Abou网站的青少年养育专家。
Psycho logyoftendiscus ses mental health— but what’s not oftendiscus sed is a cleardefini tionof mental streng th. To me, mental streng th meansthat you regula te your emotio ns, manage your though ts, and behave in a positi ve manner, despit e your circum stanc es. Develo pingmental streng th is aboutfindin g the courag e to live accord ing to your values and beingbold enough to create your own defini tionof succes s.
心理学常常讨论精神健康问题——但如何清晰地定义精神力量却不常被拿来讨论。
在我看来,精神力量意味着:无论处于何种环境中,都能够调节自己的情绪,管理自己的思想,并且表现出积极的态度。
培养精神力量就是根据自己的价值观找到生活的勇气,并勇敢地创造符合自己定义的成功。
Mental streng th involv es more than just willpo wer; it requir es hard work and commit ment.It’s aboutestabl ishin g health y habits and choosi ng to devote your time and energy to self-improv ement. (Checkout Cheryl SnappConnor’s post, basedon my list of the 13 things mental ly strong people avoid.)
精神力量不仅仅包含意志力;还要求勤奋努力和全力以赴。
这其实是关于培养健康的习惯并选择将时间和精力用于自我提高。
Althou gh it’s easier to feel mental ly strong when life seemssimple— often, true mental streng th become s most appare nt in the midstof traged y. Choosi ng to develo p skills that increa se your mental streng th is the best way to prepar e for life’s inevit ableobstac les.
尽管当生活平顺时很容易感到精神强大,但真正的精神力量常常是在逆境中才最得以彰显。
掌握一些能够增强精神力量的技能,是为生命中不可避免的挫折做好准备的最佳方式。
Many exerci ses existthat can help you develo p mental streng th. But here are five that can get you starte d:
有许多练习能够帮助培养精神力量,但你可以从以下五个方面做起:
1. Evalua te Your Core Belief s
1.评估你的核心信念
We’ve all develo ped core belief s aboutoursel ves, our livesand the worldin genera l. Core belief s develo p over time and largel y depend upon our past experi ences. Whethe r you’re awareof your core belief s or not, they influe nce your though ts, your behavi or and emotio ns.
我们都已经形成了关于我们自己、我们的生活以及世界的核心信念。
核心信念随着时间的推移而发展,并且主要取决于我们过去的经历。
无论你意识到与否,自己的核心信念都影响着你的思想、行为和情感。
Someti mes, core belief s are inaccu rateand unprod uctiv e. For exampl e, if you believ e that you’ll neversuccee d in life, you may be less apt to applyfor new jobs — and inadve rtent ly, you may not presen t yourse lf well on job interv iews. Theref ore, your core belief s may become a self-fulfil lingprophe cy.
有时,你的核心价值观是不正确的和徒劳的。
例如,如果你认为自己此生都不会
成功,你可能不大易于申请新的职位——而且无意间,你可能不会在工作面试中
好好表现。
于是,你的核心价值观可能就成为了一种自我应验的预言。
Identi fy and evalua te your core belief s. Look for belief s that are blackand white,and then find except ionsto the rule. Very few things in life are “always”or “never”true. Modify ing core belief s requir es purpos efulintent ion and hard work, but it can change the entire course of your life.
识别并评估你的核心价值观。
寻找那些好的和不好的信念,然后找找例外。
在生
命中很少有什么是“一直”或“从不”正确的。
修正核心价值观需要下定决心并
付出努力,但这能改变你的整个生命历程。
2. Expend Your Mental Energy Wisely
2.明智地投放你的精力
Wastin g brainpowerrumina tingaboutthings you can’t contro l drains mental energy quickl y. The more you thinkaboutnegati ve proble ms that you can’t solve, the less energy you’ll have leftov er for creati ve endeav ors. For exampl e, sittin g and worryi ng aboutthe weathe r foreca st isn’t helpfu l. If a majorstormis headed your way, worryi ng aboutit won’t preven t it. You can, howeve r, choose to prepar e for it. Focuson what is only within your contro l. 浪费脑力反复琢磨你所不能控制的事情会很快耗尽精力。
在你无力解决的负面问
题上想得越多,留给创造性活动的精力就越少。
例如,坐在那里担忧天气预报无
助于事。
如果一场大风暴正向你袭来,再怎么担心也阻止不了。
然而,你可以选
择做好相应的准备。
只关注那些在你掌控范围内的事吧。
Save your mental energy for produc tivetasks,such as solvin g proble ms or settin g goals. When your though ts aren’t produc tive, make a consci ous effort to shiftyour mental energy to more helpfu l topics. The more you practi ce expend ing your mental energy wisely, the more it will become a habit.
省下精力留给一些有产出的任务吧,如解决问题或设定目标。
当你的想法不会产生什么成果时,有意地将精力转移到一些更有帮助的话题上。
在如何明智地投放精力方面练习得越多,就越能习惯成自然。
3. Replac e Negati ve Though ts with Produc tiveThough ts
3.用有用的想法代替消极想法
Althou gh most of us don’t spendtime thinki ng aboutour though ts, increa singyour awaren ess of your thinki ng habits proves useful in buildi ng resili ence.Exagge rated, negati ve though ts, such as, “I can’t ever do anythi ng right,” hold you back from reachi ng your full potent ial. Catchyour negati ve though ts before they spiral out of contro l and influe nce your behavi or.
尽管我们大多都不会花时间反思我们的想法,但事实证明,提高你对自己思考习惯的意识对培养韧性而言很有帮助。
夸大的负面想法,如“我总是做不对事情”,会限制你充分发挥自己的潜力。
在负面想法开始疯长并影响你的行为之前把它们揪出来吧。
Identi fy and replac e overly negati ve though ts with though ts that are more produc tive.Produc tivethough ts don’t need to be extrem ely positi ve, but should be realis tic. A more balanc ed though t may be, “I have some weakne sses,but I also have plenty of streng ths.”Changi ng your though ts requir es consta nt monito ring, but the proces s can be instru menta l in helpin g you become your best self.
找出过于消极的想法,并用更有用的想法取而代之。
有用的想法不必非常积极,但应该讲求实际。
一个更加平衡的想法可能是,“我有一些弱点,但我也有许多长处。
”改变自己的想法需要不断地自我监测,但这一过程有助于实现最好的自我。
4. Practi ce Tolera tingDiscom fort
4.练习对不适的忍耐度
Beingmental ly strong doesn’t mean you don’t experi enceemotio ns. In fact, mental streng th requir es you to become acutel y awareof your emotio ns so you can make the best choice abouthow to respon d. Mental streng th is aboutaccept ing your feelin gs withou t beingcontro lledby them.
精神强大并不意味着不会经历情绪波动。
事实上,精神强大要求你能够敏锐地意识到自己的情绪,这样你就能在如何应对方面做出最好的决定。
精神强大是接受自己的情绪,并不被它们所控制。
Mental streng th also involv es an unders tandi ng of when it makessenseto behave contra ry to your emotio ns. For exampl e, if you experi enceanxiet y that preven ts you from trying new things or accept ing new opport uniti es, try steppi ng out of your comfor t zone if you want to contin ue to challe nge yourse lf. Tolera tinguncomf ortab le emotio ns takespracti ce, but it become s easier as your confid encegrows.
精神力量还包括知道何时应与自己的情绪反着来。
例如,如果你很忧虑以至于不能尝试新的事物或者接受新的机会,想要继续挑战自己的话就试着勇敢地走出自己的舒适区。
容忍令人难受的情绪需要练习,但随着你的自信心不断增长,这会变得越来越容易。
Practi ce behavi ng like the person you’d like to become. Instea d of saying, “I wish I couldbe more outgoi ng, ”choose to behave in a more outgoi ng manner, whethe r you feel like it or not. Some discom fortis oftennecess ary for greate r gain, and tolera tingthat discom fortwill help make your vision a realit y, one smallstep at a time.
你想成为什么样的人,就练习着像他们一样行事。
不要只在嘴上说:“我希望我能变得更加外向。
”而是选择以一种更加外向的方式行事,无论自己是否喜欢这样做。
为了有更大的收获,经历些许不适常常是必要的。
忍耐这种不适将有助于你愿望成真,不积跬步无以至千里。
5. Reflec t on Your Progre ss Daily
5.每日反思你的进展
Today’s busy worlddoesn’t lend itself to making much time availa ble for quietreflec tion. Create time to reflec t upon your progre ss toward develo pingmental streng th. At the end of each day, ask yourse lf what you’ve learne d aboutyour though ts, emotio ns and behavi or. Consid er what you hope to improv e upon or accomp lishtomorr ow.
当今忙碌的世界使人们没有很多时间可以静静地思考。
创造一些时间,反思你在培养精神力量方面的进展。
每天结束之时,问问自己在思想、情绪和行为方面学到了什么。
思考一下明天你希望提高哪些方面或者完成哪些目标。
Develo pingmental streng th is a work in progre ss. Thereis always room for improv ement, and at timesthis will seem more diffic ult than at othertimes. Reflec tingupon your progre ss can reinfo rce your abilit y to reachyour defini tionof succes s whileliving accord ing to your values.
培养精神力量是一个循序渐进的过程。
总有提高的余地,而且有时这似乎会格外困难。
反观你的进展能够强化你的能力,实现你所定义的成功,同时按照你的价值观生活。