chinadaily双语新闻：10种方法让你忘掉你的前任

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Breakups suck (Bieber and Selena, we feel you。

) But lots of times, they're for the best. (Repeat after us: It's for the best。

) Susan Elliot, relationship counselor and author of Getting Past Your Breakup, and Caryn Beth Rosenthal and Maryjane Fahey, authors Dumped and founders of , have tips on moving on。

失恋的感觉糟透了(刚分⼿的⼩情侣⽐伯和瑟琳娜，我们懂你们的感受)。

但是很多时候，分⼿其实也是⼀件好事。

苏珊-埃利奥特是恋爱关系顾问，也是《让失恋成为过去》的作者;贝丝-罗森塔尔和玛丽安娜-费伊是《分⼿》的作者和
站的创建者，她们⼀起给出了快速⾛出失恋痛苦的⼏个⼩贴⼠。

1. Go Cold Turkey
戒掉和他之间的联系
Staying in touch with him just keeps you stuck in the past, so at least in the beginning, break off all contact: Unfriend him, remove his name from Gchat, and delete him from your phone. If you have friends in common, take a temporary hiatus from them, too。

和他保持联系只会让你沉浸在过去，所以⾄少⼀开始时和他解除所有的联系：和他解除好友关系，把他的名字从Gchat联系⼈列表上去掉，把他的信息从电话中删除。

如果你和他有共同的朋友，暂时也和他们断开联系。

2. Travel Somewhere Fabulous
去美丽的地⽅旅游
Take a trip to a place that's the total opposite of where you live. So if you're in the city, head to a yoga retreat or spend the weekend at a spa in the country; if you're in a small town, party in Austin or Miami with your bestie. Travel not in your budget right now? At least hang out in a different part of town. When you're taking in a ton of new stimulation, you won't have a chance to wallow in the past。

去⼀个和你现在所住地⽅完全相反的地⽅旅⾏。

所以如果你现在住在城⾥，那你可以去瑜伽静养所或周末去乡村做spa;如果你住在⼩城镇⾥，那你可以和死党去奥斯汀或迈阿密聚会去。

现在没有预算去旅游?⾄少去城镇中的另⼀个地⽅玩玩。

如果你周围到处都是新鲜的事物，你就不会有机会沉迷于过去了。

3. Eat More Salad多吃点⼉沙拉
The iconic post-breakup image is a girl in her sweats with a remote in one hand and a pint of Ben & Jerry's in the other. But even though you might feel like scarfing a dish of Cherry Garcia and vegging all day, you'll move on faster by eating healthy and amping up your workouts (a natural endorphin booster, btw). It's cheesy but true: When you feel terrific about how you look on the outside, you'll feel better on the inside too。

分⼿后的⼥孩标志性形象是⼀⼿拿着遥控器，⼀⼿拿着⼀品脱的本&杰⾥冰激凌。

但即使你可能喜欢⼀天到晚吃樱桃巧克⼒冰激凌和蔬菜，但健康饮⾷和加⼤运动量会让你的动作更灵敏。

这句话虽有点⼉俗⽓但却是真的：当你对外表满意的时候，你的内⼼也会感觉良好。

4. Flaunt Your Body秀出你的⾝材
Ditch the breakup comfort clothes (college sweatshirt, boxer shorts) and rock outfits that amplify your hotness, like stilettos, a mini, or red lipstick. Every stare you get equals a confidence jolt.Check yourself out in the mirror, and give yourself props for your sexiest features。

脱掉宽松舒适的⾐服(⼤学的运动衫、平⾓短裤)，穿上能让你辣味⼗⾜的服装，⽐如穿上细⾼跟鞋、迷你裙或涂上红⾊的唇膏。

每受到⼀次注⽬，你的⾃信⼼就会提⾼⼀次。

照照镜⼦，找出⾃⼰性感的地⽅，夸奖⼀下⾃⼰。

5. Schedule a Massage
预约去做按摩
Getting pampering puts your focus back on you instead of the relationship. Plus, getting a facial or pedicure makes you feel and look fantastic。

享受⼀下舒服的全⾝护理，会让你把注意⼒重新放到⾃⼰⾝上⽽不是放在感情上。

另外，做个⾯部护理或修修脚会让你感觉好极了，看起去也很棒。

6. Fake It 'Til You Make It
假装忘掉他，直到你忘掉他
Trust us on this one. Even though you're not over him, act like you are…and it will eventually manifest. Force yourself to go to parties and flirt with other guys, and one day you'll realize you're not just pretending to have fun or playing along with the dude hitting on you-you're legitimately into it。

相信我们。

即使你忘不了他，你的⾏为要让⼈看起来你忘掉了他….。

最终会成真的。

强迫⾃⼰参加聚会，勾搭⼀下其他的男性朋友，有⼀天你会意识到你不是在假装享受乐趣或和喜欢你的⼈⼀起玩——这样做已经名正⾔顺了。

7. Make Yourself Busy
让⾃⼰忙起来
One of the hardest things about breaking up is no longer having a permanent buddy to hang out with every night of the week. To fill the void, make more plans-organize a weekly happy hour with coworkers and brunch dates with your girls. Take on a new hobby, like wine and painting classes or volunteering to walk dogs at an animal shelter。

失恋时最难的事情是每天晚上不再有⼀个⼈⼀直和你待在⼀起。

要想弥补这种空虚感，多做些计划——和同事⼀起每周享受⼀次欢乐时光，和⼥性朋友们⼀起吃早午餐。

找⼀个新的爱好，⽐如品酒、参加绘画班或去动物收容所做志愿者帮忙遛狗。

8. …But Also Let Yourself Cry
…但是也要允许⾃⼰⼤哭
Leave enough room in your sched for the occasional night when you stay home and process the loss of your relationship. Give yourself an hour or two to let it all out, because expressing your grief will help you heal. Just be sure to end
things on a positive note, like enjoying a bubblebath or chick flick。

在你的⽇程表上留下⾜够的时间，这样偶尔⼀晚上，你可以待在家⾥处理失恋的感觉。

给⾃⼰⼀两个⼩时发泄⼀下，因为表达悲伤可以帮你治愈。

但是要注意⽤积极的事情结束，⽐如享受泡泡浴或看看肥皂剧。

9. De-Clutter Your Life
清理你的⽣活
Toss his toiletries, send clothes he left at your place back to him, and put any gifts or cards he gave you in a box in your closet (decide later whether you want to keep them; if you purge everything right away, you might regret it). Beyond ditching his stuff, shed clutter in general. Clearing out your place helps clear out your mind and make room for the new。

把他的洗浴⽤品都扔掉，把他留在你家⾥的⾐服还给他，把他给你的礼物或卡⽚都放在柜⼦⾥的盒⼦⾥(以后再决定是否想保留它们;如果你现在就清理，你以后可能会后悔的。

除了清理他的东西外，也清理⼀下杂物。

清理房间能帮助你清空⼤脑，为新的事物腾出空间。

10. Take Off Your Blinders
不要⼀叶障⽬
Many women either demonize or idolize their ex post-split.But if you only focus on what an a-hole he was, you'll get bitter. And if allyou can remember is his amazing qualities, no other guy will be able to measureup. So take a relationship inventory: Make list of your ex's good and badtraits so you get a complete picture of him. Then remind yourself that theperson you're ultimately supposed to be with is out there, and the longer youstay entrenched in your ex, the longer it'll take you to find him。

很多⼥性在分⼿之后要么把前任男友妖魔化要么就偶像化。

但是如果你只关注他不好的⽅⾯，你会更加痛苦。

如果你只能想起他有多么好，那没有⼈能代替得了他。

所以开⼀张情感清单吧：把前任的优点和缺点都列出来，这样你能全⾯地了解他。

然后提醒⾃⼰，适合你的那个⼈在等着你。

你想前任的时间越长，你就需要更长的时间才能找到另⼀半。