B3U1课文翻译及课后练习答案

B3U1课⽂翻译及课后练习答案
Unit 1 Personality
In-Class Reading
羞怯的痛苦
1 对许多⼈来说，羞怯是很多不愉快的起因。

各种各样的⼈——矮的、⾼的、愚笨的、聪明的、年轻的、年⽼的、瘦的、胖的——都说⾃⼰是羞怯的。

羞怯的⼈会焦虑不安，感到不⾃然；也就是说，他们过分地关注⾃⼰的外表和举⽌。

脑海中不断盘旋着⼀些使⾃⼰不安的想法：我给⼈留下的是什么印象？他们喜欢我吗？我讲话是不是傻⾥傻⽓
我长得难看。

我穿的⾐服毫不引⼈注⽬。

2 很显然这种不安的感觉会对⼈产⽣不利的影响。

⼀个⼈的⾃我看法反映在⾃⼰的⾏为⽅式之中，⽽⼀个⼈的⾏为⽅式⼜影响他⼈的反应。

通常，⼈们如何看待⾃⼰对他们⽣活的各个⽅⾯都会产⽣深刻的影响。

例如，具有积极的⾃我价值观或很强⾃尊⼼的⼈往往表现出⾃信。

⽽由于⾃信，他们不需要他⼈不断地称赞和⿎励，也能使⾃⼰感觉良好。

⾃信者热情、⾃发地投⼊⽣活。

他们不因别⼈认为他们“该”做什么⽽受到影响。

有很强⾃尊⼼的⼈不会被批评所伤害；他们不会把批评看作是⼈⾝攻击。

相反，他们认为批评是⼀种提醒他们改进的建议。

3 相⽐之下，羞怯的⼈⾃尊⼼较弱，往往消极被动并且容易受他⼈影响。

他们（是否）在做“该做的事情”需要得到别⼈的肯定。

害羞的⼈对批评⾮常敏感；他们觉得批评正好证实了他们⽐别⼈差。

他们也很难因别⼈的赞美⽽⾼兴，因为他们相信⾃⼰不值得称赞。

羞怯的⼈也许会⽤这样的话来回答别⼈的赞美之辞：“你这么说只是为了让我感觉好⼀些。

我知道这不是真的。

”显然，尽管⾃我意识是⼀种健康的品质，过分的⾃我意识却是不利和有害的。

4能否彻底消除或者⾄少减轻羞怯感呢？幸运的是，⼈们能够通过坚持不懈的努⼒建⽴⾃信从⽽克服羞怯。

由于胆怯和缺少⾃尊是密切相关的，因此正视⾃⼰的弱点和正视⾃⼰的优点⼀样重要。

例如，⼤多数⼈希望每门功课都得A。

5 如果仅仅因为在某些领域有困难，就把⾃⼰列为差⽣，这不恰如其分。

⼈们对⾃⼰的期望必须现实。

⽼是想那些不可能的事情会令⾃⼰觉得⽆能，甚⾄产⽣嫉妒。

当我们嫉妒⽐⾃⼰成绩好的学⽣时，我们正在⾃我否定。

如果你害羞，这⾥有些具体有效的步骤帮助你树⽴信⼼并克服羞怯感：
6 1．认清⾃⼰的优缺点。

每个⼈既有优点⼜有缺点。

随着对⾃我的不断认同，羞怯感就会⾃然减弱。

7 2．确定合理的⽬标。

例如，在聚会时和⼀群陌⽣⼈在⼀起，你也许会怯场。

不要以为你必须和每个⼈交谈。

集中精⼒，仅和⼀两个⼈交谈，你会感到更⾃在些。

8 3．内疚和羞耻感是消极的情感。

不要把时间和精⼒浪费在这上头。

假设你伤害了某⼈的感情，（光）感到羞愧是⽆济于事的。

相反，应该承认你犯了个错误，并决⼼在将来更加善解⼈意。

9 4．所有问题都有许多种解决办法。

很少有完全正确或完全错误的意见。

要敢于公开表达⾃⼰的观点。

10 5．不要对⾃⼰做消极的评论。

这是⼀种⾃我否定。

千万别把⾃⼰描述为愚蠢的、丑陋的，或者⼀个失败者。

注重⾃⼰积极的⽅⾯。

11 6．接受批评时要缜密思考。

不要把批评理解为⼈⾝攻击。

例如，如果⼀位朋友抱怨你的烹饪技术，要把这当成对你的烹饪技术⽽不是对你本⼈的评价⽽接受下来。

放⼼，你们还是好朋友，但你的烹饪技术也许确实有待改进。

12 7．记住，每个⼈都会经历⼀些失败和挫折。

要把它们作为增长见识的经历，从中受益。

挫折往往会成为转机，随之⽽来的将是⼀段美妙绝伦的经历。

例如，你可能被你所中意的⼤学拒之门外。

然⽽，在你就读的⼤学⾥，你可能发现这⾥教育的某⼀特点⽐你料想的好得多。

13 8．有些⼈会使你感到⾃⼰⽆能，不要和这种⼈交往。

去设法改变他们对你的态度或者改变你对⾃⼰的态度，要不就脱离这种关系。

伤害你的⼈并不关⼼你的最⼤利益。

14 9．留出时间休息，享受⾃⼰的业余爱好，并且定期地重新审定⾃⼰的⽬标。

为此所花费的时间有助于更好地了解你⾃⼰。

15 10．多在社交场合中锻炼。

不要把⾃⼰同他⼈隔离开来。

设法⼀次结识⼀位朋友；最终你将能够娴熟⽽⾃信地在众⼈中周旋。

我们每个⼈都是独⼀⽆⼆、难能可贵的个体。

我们⾃有吸引⼈的地⽅。

我们对⾃⼰了解得越多，就越容易充分发挥⾃⼰的潜⼒。

不要让羞怯成为阻碍我们拥有丰富和成功⽣活的绊脚⽯。

After-Class Reading
看待⽣活的两种⽅式
你的⽣活态度是你个⼈⼈⽣观的深刻体现。

（让我们）更仔细地看⼀下⼆者的关系。

你是个悲观主义者，还是个乐观主义者？
你看待（⽣活）的⽅式确实影响着你的⽣活态度，你清楚吗？请记住：改变了你的⼈⽣观，就改变了你的⽣活态度。

1 ⽗亲低头年看着⼩床⾥睡得正熟的⼥⼉，⼥⼉出⽣没⼏天，刚从医院回家。

她的漂亮和完美使他⼼中充满了敬畏和感激。

2 这时孩⼦睁开了眼睛，直直地向上⽅望着。

3 ⽗亲叫她的名字，期待着她转头看他。

她的眼睛却⼀动不动。

4 他拿起系在婴⼉床围栏上的⼩绒⽑玩具摇起来，玩具上的响铃发出叮叮当当的声⾳。

孩⼦的眼睛还是⼀动不动。

5 他的⼼跳开始加速。

他在卧室⾥找到了妻⼦并把刚刚发⽣的事告诉了她。

“她似乎对声⾳毫⽆反应，”他说。

“好像她根本听不到。

”
6 “我敢肯定她⼀切正常，”妻⼦说着，⼀边披上晨⾐。

他们⼀起⾛进了婴⼉的房间。

7 她叫着孩⼦的名字，把铃摇得叮当响，还拍⼿。

随后她把孩⼦抱起来，这时孩⼦⼀下⼦变得活泼起来并发出开⼼的声⾳。

8 “天哪，”⽗亲说，“她是个聋⼦。

”
9 “不，不会的，”母亲说。

“我是说，现在这么说太早了。

你看，她刚出⽣不久，视线还不能集中呢。

”
10 “可是刚才你那么⽤⼒地拍⼿，她都没有⼀点反应。

”
11 母亲从书架上拿了⼀本书。

“让我们看看这本育⼉书上怎么说，”她说道。

她查到“听觉”栏，⼤声读道：“‘如果你的新⽣⼉听到响声不吃惊，或者不会朝向发出声⾳的⽅向，不必慌张。

因为对声⾳的反应通常要过⼀段时间才会出现。

你的⼉科医⽣可以从神经系统⽅⾯对孩⼦的听觉进⾏测试。

’”
12 “瞧，”母亲说道，“这是不是让你感觉好多了？”
13 “没好多少，”⽗亲说。

“书⾥甚⾄都没提还有另⼀种可能性，那就是孩⼦是聋⼦。

我只知道我的宝贝什么也听不见。

我有⼀种最可怕的预感。

也许这是因为我的祖⽗就是聋⼦的原因。

如果我们漂亮的⼩宝贝真是聋⼦⽽且是我这⼀⽅的原因，我将永远⽆法原谅⾃⼰。

”
14 “嗨，等等，”妻⼦说。

“你太多虑了。

星期⼀我们第⼀件要做的事就是给⼉科⼤夫打电话。

现在⾼兴点⼉吧。

来，抱着孩⼦，我把毯⼦弄弄好，全都拉散了。

”
15 ⽗亲接过孩⼦，但是很快地⼜把她还给了妻⼦。

整个周末他发现⾃⼰⽆法准备下⼀周的⼯作。

他跟着妻⼦在屋⼦⾥转，满脑⼦想的都是孩⼦的听觉问题以及失聪将会怎样毁了孩⼦的⼀⽣。

他只想到最坏的⼀⾯：没有听觉，⽆法学语⾔，他那漂亮的宝贝将与世隔绝，被困在⽆声的世界中。

等到了星期天晚上，他已经彻底绝望了。

16 母亲在⼉科医⽣的代接电话服务处留了⾔，预约星期⼀⼀⼤早与医⽣见⾯。

周末则⽤来让⾃⼰锻炼、阅读并尽⼒安慰丈夫。

17 医⽣检查的结果令⼈安慰，但⽗亲的情绪依然低落。

直到⼀周后，当孩⼦听到过路卡车的巨响⽽第⼀次感到吃惊时，他这才开始情绪好转，并⼜感到和新⽣⼥⼉在⼀起的乐趣了。

18 （故事中的）⽗亲母亲有两种截然不同的看世事的⽅式。

只要有丁点不好的事发⽣在⽗亲⾝上，如银⾏经理的⼀个电话、与妻⼦的意见相左、甚⾄是⽼板皱了⼀下眉头，他都会往最坏的⽅⾯想：破产、⼊狱、离婚、解雇。

他很容易情绪低落；经常感到很累；⾝体不好。

⽽与他正相反，她总是从最乐观的⾓度来看待坏事。

对她⽽⾔，这些事只不过是⼀时的考验⽽已，会克服的。

在经历挫折后，她很快就恢复过来，并⼜重新恢复活⼒。

她的⾝体⾮常健康。

19 在过去的25年中，我⼀直在研究乐观主义者和悲观主义者这两类⼈。

悲观主义者的典型特征是，他们往往相信坏事会持续相当长的⼀段时间，会危及他们所做的每件事，并且都是他们⾃⼰的过错。

⽽乐观主义者在⾯临同样的⽣活不幸时，则以相反的⽅式看待厄运。

他们会认为失败只是暂时的挫折，它的起因也仅限于这⼀例。

乐观主义者相信失败并不是他们的错，⽽是环境、运⽓不佳或其他⼈造成了⾃⼰的失败。

这些⼈从不为失败所困扰。

⾯临逆境时，他们会把它看作是考验并更加努⼒。

20 这两种考虑问题起因的习惯会产⽣不同的结果。

毫不夸张地说，⼤量的研究都表明悲观主义者更容易放弃，更经常感到情绪低落。

这些试验还显⽰乐观主义者⽆论在学校学习还是在⼯作中的表现都要出⾊得多。

他们的表现常常超出了能⼒测验的预测。

当乐观主义者参加竞选时，他们⽐悲观主义者更容易当选。

他们的健康状况出奇地好。

有证据显⽰他们可能更长寿。

21 25年的研究使我确信，如果我们像我们悲观主义者那样，习惯性地认为不幸是我们⾃⼰的过错，会持续很长时间，⽽且会危及我们所做的每件事情，那么更多的不幸就会发⽣在我们⾝上，⽽反之则不然。

我也确信，如果我们总是为这种观点所左右，我们将会更容易消沉，
将⽆法取得我们本应取得的成就，并且我们将更容易⽣病。

悲观主义者的预⾔会⾃然应验的。

课内阅读练习答案
Part One Preparation
1.Saying Things Sincerely or Sarcastically
STEP ONE
1 C (Sincerely)
2 A (Sarcastically)
3 D (Sincerely)
4 B (Sincerely)
STEP TWO
Sample
Picture 1
It is matched with Line C, because it can be seen from the picture that the man is splashing some dirty rainwater onto the lady’s dress.
Line C is sincere because the man in the picture is making an apology to the lady.
W: Oh, My goodness! What have you done to my new dress?
M: Ah, I’m awfully sorry. I didn’t mean to make such a beautiful lady angry. I should have been more careful!
W: Angry? No, I’m not angry. I can just put it in the washing machine when I get home.
Picture 2
It is matched with Line A, because the moon is in the sky and the man pointing at his watch tells us it is very late at night. Line A is sarcastic, for the man in the picture is obviously angry with the lady.
W: I’m back, honey.
M: Er, finally!
W: You seem so worried. Why?
M: Why should I be worried about you? It’s already past midnight.
W: Don’t worry. I won’t get lost so easily. I’m not an unsophisticated young girl.
Picture 3
It is matched with Line D, for the boy pushing the bike is just back from a ride.
Line D is sincere, because from their dialog we can see they are good friends and the boy must have had the owner’s permission to use the bike.
Boy A: Here’s your bike. It’s so kind of you to loan me your new bike.
Boy B: You’re welcome. You can use it whenever you want. Did you find it easy to ride?
Boy A: Not really. Maybe I need some more practice.
Picture 4
It is matched with Line B, because it can be seen from the picture that the lady is addressing an office boy who has hurt his wrist.
Line B is sincerely said, for the boy still comes to work even with an injured hand.
W: You’re late to work. You had a doctor’s appointment, didn’t you?
M: I’m sorry for being late. But how did you know that?
Communication Problems
W: I guess it’s the doctor who bandaged up y our hand. Are you all right?
M: Today’s my unlucky day! I had my hand hurt and my cell phone broken in a traffic accident. Teaching tips
In order to be sarcastic, Americans adjust their vocal tone by speaking flat, lengthening their vowel sounds and perhaps creating a facial expression.
Tone of voice: When communicating, the way the words are spoken may be more important than what is actually being said. The tone of voice can indicate whether a speaker is sincere or sarcastic, casual or impassioned, serious or humorous, and confident or uncertain. For instance, sarcasm occurs when the speaker pitches a stressed syllable lower than the other words in the sentence. For example, the pitch of the word “great” in sentence “Great weather,huh?” changes depending on whether you’re being sincere or sarcastic.
Volume and speed of voice: A loud voice or speaking quickly may be a sign of excitability or urgency. Slow or soft speech may indicate a relaxed attitude or uncertainty. To put emphasis on what is being said, speakers may also effectively slow their speech or pause, and they may raise or lower their voices.
Facial expressions: Smiles, frowns and other facial expressions can be used to express our feelings. For example, both eyebrows lifted can mean surprise or excitement, whereas a single lifted eyebrow may indicate sarcasm or disbelief.
2. English-Chinese Telephone Chains
Here are a few messages for your reference. You can have your own messages as well.
1. John is 17 years old, a freshman majoring in business management.
2. Forty boys and 14 girls have entered the English Speaking Contest.
3. Professor Wang used to teach physical education at a university in Austria.
4. I can’t stand him any longer because he tends to lose his temper easily.
5. I talked to an Italian girl in my class about her math homework on Thursday.
Teaching tips
Activity: English-Chinese Telephone Chains
Duration: About 15 minutes
Aim: Practice listening, pronunciation, and translation
Introduction: This activity not only entails listening, pronunciation and translation skills, but also enables students to be aware of misunderstandings in daily communication, such as message delivering.
Preparation: In this activity, the 8-10 students of each group should be seated in a line or circle for the message to pass from one to another without being heard by others in the group. And the message can be chosen either by the teacher (or made up by the first student in each group). Remember that the rest of the group should have no idea about the message in advance. Procedure: Make sure that students have a clear understanding of the goal and rules. The first student of each group will get an English message from the teacher, translate it into Chinese and whisper the Chinese version to the second student. The second student is supposed to translate it back into English and whisper it to the third student. This continues down the line until the message gets to the last student. Each student can only say “Can you please repeat that?” one time. When the message reaches the end of the chain, the student must speak out loud. In a big group you can send the message two ways and find out which team comes closest to the original message. Oftentimes the message will be completely different when it reaches the end. Try to find
out where the chain broke!
The point of this activity is not winning; rather, it is to see if the last student can say the message correctly. The interesting thing about this activity is that usually the last student never says the message correctly. It is also fun to hear the message all scrambled up, which naturally leads the students into cases of misunderstanding in the After-Class Reading passage. Depending on students’ proficiency in English, the difficulty of this activity can be adju sted. If the teacher aims to favor the demands of students with a relatively low level of English, it is advisable to make slight alterations as follows. The class will be divided into groups of 8-10 students.
The first student of each group will be given a message by the teacher. The message should be whispered from one person to the next. The last person should repeat the message aloud. The group that gets the message through with the fewest changes wins.
3. Enjoying a Joke
Sample
In the joke, the problem is that the boy always took what the man said literally. In fact, when the man asked “Where does this road go?”, he expected that the boy would tell him that the road went or led to a certain place. But instead, the boy didn’t know what the man meant or he meant to tease the man and his answer seemed irrelevant. The same thing happened with the question “How far is it to the next town?”. Therefore, the reader may think the boy is stupid. But surprisingly, the boy’s last remark was very clever: “I know I don’t know much, and I may be a fool, but at least I’m not lost.” This made the man seem stupid.
Part Two Reading-Centered Activities
In-Class Reading
Post-Reading
Reading Comprehension
1. Understanding the Organization of the Text
1) Introduction: (para.1)
Shyness is the cause of much unhappiness for a great many people.
2) Reasons why shyness can have a negative effect: (para.2—3)
People’s self-concept has a profound effect on all areas of their lives.
People with high self-esteem usually act with confidence.
People with low self-esteem are likely to be passive and easily influenced by others.
3) Ways of overcoming shyness: (para.4—15)
i) Recognize your personal strengths and weaknesses.
ii) Set reasonable goals.
iii) Don’t wa ste time and energy on destructive feelings such as guilt and shame.
iv) Don’t be afraid to speak up and give your point of view.
v) Do not make negative comments about yourself.
vi) Accept criticism thoughtfully.
vii) Profit from failures and disappointments by viewing them as learning experiences.
viii) Do not associate with people who make you feel inadequate.
ix) Set aside time to relax, enjoy hobbies, and reevaluate your goals regularly.
x) Practice being in social situations.
4) Conclusion: (para.16)
The better we understand ourselves, the easier it becomes to live up to our full potential.
2. Understanding Specific Information
1) F 2) T 3) T 4) T 5) F 6) T 7) F 8) F
3. Group Discussion
1) I think the most effective ways of overcoming shyness are the first and seventh ways.
Recognizing our personal strengths and weaknesses is useful because if we know ourselves better, we can feel more self-confident. We can be more objective, instead of being blind. The seventh way is to profit from failures and disappointments as learning experiences. If we allow ourselves to get discouraged and sad when we fail, then we will feel more unsure of ourselves. But if we think of a failure as a learning experience, we are adopting a positive attitude. By analyzing objectively why we failed and planning how to set about doing things differently we will be more likely to succeed next time.
2) Modesty is used to describe a reserved appraisal of one’s merits, abilities or success. The
opposite of modesty is arrogance or boastfulness. Modest people don’t want to talk about their abilities or achievements. Modest people know their strengths and their worth, but choose to downplay their greatness and be humble. So modesty is the result of confidence. Shyness is used to describe the uncomfortable feeling one has in the company of others. It often implies a lack of self-confidence and a timid, reserved manner. Modesty is a good personality trait while shyness in many cases is undesirable.
3) B eing shy isn’t necessarily a bad thing.It is appropriate and normal to be shy in some circumstances, for example, in the presence of teachers, your boss, your parents’ friends or your prospective in-laws; when you are dating someone, especially the first time; when you are with strangers; when you are in a new environment; when you’re facing a large audience. In fact, it can even be helpful to be a little shy. When you’re shy and keep silent, you may spend a little time observing the surroundings and people around before jumping right into the new situation.
Vocabulary
1. “Self-”is a prefix which means “of, to or by oneself or itself” .
Words with the prefix “self-” that appear in the text: self-conscious, self-concept, self-assurance, self-worth, self-confidence, self-esteem, self-destructive, self-awareness, self-acceptance, self-rejection, self-confident.
1) self-conscious (worried and embarrassed about what you look like or what other people think of you)
2) self-confidence (belief i n one’s own ability, power, judgment, etc.; confidence in oneself)
3) self-esteem (the feeling that you are someone who deserves to be liked, respected, or admired)
4) self-destructive (with thoughts or actions that are counter to one’s own best interests)
5) self-worth (the value you give to your life and achievements)
6) self-concept (one’s conception or general idea of one’s own basic character and nature)
7) self-awareness (realistic knowledge and judgment about oneself)
8) self-assurance/self-confidence (the belief that you are able to deal with people and problems easily)
2. Part A
1) G 2) I 3) A 4) F 5) C 6) D 7) J 8) B 9) E 10) H
Part B
1) profound 2) jealousy 3) overcome 4) eventually 5) compliments
6) diminish 7) reassurance 8) detrimental 9) isolated 10) accented
3. 1) reflected 2) concerned/worried 3) profound effect/influence 4) viewed/regarded 5) sensitive 6) respond/react 7) eliminated 8) overcome my fear 9) concentrate on 10) made no comment
Translation
1. Shyness can vary from feeling mild discomfort to high levels of anxiety that impact us in almost everything we do.
2. Despite his stubbornness, he knew in his heart that he should avoid arousing any suspicions.
3. It will be interpreted as criticism no matter what you say.
4. Let’s not allow ourselves to be upset by trifles (which) we should despise and forget.
5. Too much time spent dwelling on the past can get in the way of enjoying life as it happens.
6. People who believe they can accomplish goals and solve problems are more likely to do well in
school.
Further Development
1. Enriching Your Word Power
1) B 2) B 3) A 4) B 5) C 6) C 7) C 8) A 9) A 10) C
2. What Is Your Personality?
STEP TWO
The personality traits are listed below, from left to right and from top to bottom.
1) Introspective, Sensitive and Reflective
You are less satisfied with yourself and your environment than are most people. You hate
superficiality (表⾯⽂章，肤浅); you’d rather be alone than have to suffer through small talk (寒暄，闲谈). But your relationships with your friends are very strong, which gives you the inner
calmness and harmony that you require. You do not mind being alone for long periods of time; you rarely become bored.
2) Independent, Unconventional and Free
You demand a free and unattached life for yourself that allows you to determine your own course. You have an artistic bent (倾向，才能) in your work or leisure activities. Your urge for
freedom sometimes causes you to do exactly the opposite of what is expected of you.
3) Dynamic, Active and Extroverted
You are quite willing to accept certain risks and to make a strong commitment in exchange for interesting and varied work. Routine, in contrast, tends to have a paralyzing effect on you.
What you like most is to be able to play an active role in events. In doing so, your initiative (积极性) is highly evident.
4) Down to Earth, Well-Balanced and Harmonious
You value a natural style and love that which is uncomplicated. People admire you because you have both feet planted firmly on the ground and they can depend on you. You give those who are close to you security and space. You are perceived as being warm and human. You
reject everything that is showy (过分装饰的)or trite (⽼⼀套的).You don’t like fashionable
clothing. For you, clothing has to be practical and pleasantly elegant.
5) Professional, Pragmatic and Self-Assured
You take charge of your life, and place less faith in your luck and more in your own deeds. You solve problems in a practical, uncomplicated manner. You take a realistic view of the things in your daily life and deal with them without hesitation. You are given a great deal of responsibility at work, because people know that you can be depended upon.
Your remarkable strength of will projects (投射) your self-assurance to others. You are never
fully satisfied until you have accomplished your ideas.
6) Peaceful, Discreet (谨慎的) a nd Non-Aggressive
You are easy-going yet discreet. You make friends effortlessly, yet enjoy your privacy and independence. You like to get away from it all and be alone from time to time to reflect the meaning of life and enjoy yourself. You need space, so you escape to beautiful hideaways, but you are not a loner. You are at peace with yourself and the world, and you appreciate life and what this world has to offer.
7) Carefree, Playful and Cheerful
You love a free and spontaneous life. And you attempt to enjoy it to the fullest, in accordance with the motto (座右铭): “You only live once.”
You are very curious and open about everything new; you thrive on(以……为乐) ch ange.
Nothing is worse than when you feel tied down (牵制，束缚). You are always ready for a surprise.
8) Romantic, Dreamy and Emotional
You are a very sensitive person. You refuse to view things only from a sober(审慎的), rational (理性的) standpoint. What your feelings tell you is just as important to you. In fact, you feel it is important to have dreams in life, too.
You reject people who scorn (蔑视) romanticism and are guided only by rationality (理性).
You refuse to let anything limit the rich variety of your moods and emotions.
9) Analytical, Trustworthy and Self-Assured
You are sensitive. You like to surround yourself with little “gems,” which you discover wherever they are overlooked by others. Thus, culture plays a special role in your life. You have found your own personal style, which is elegant and exclusive, free from the influence of fashion. Your ideal, upon which you base your life, is cultured pleasure. You value a certain level of culture on the part of the people with whom you associate.
STEP Three
Sample: I chose Shape 7, which is very appealing to me. The personality traits described match me exactly. I think I am carefree, playful and cheerful. I love a free and spontaneous life. For example, I enjoy my college life very much, because I don’t want my parents to tell me what to do and what not to do. I want to lead my own life, to be my own boss. But there is one thing which doesn’t fit me; that is, I am not very curious. For example, I am not interested in knowing what’s happening around me. I am not crazy about trying new food. I am not curious about the affairs of other people. I am a bit self-centered. I hope to be the center of attention. I am also a bit bossy, hoping that others will do what I tell them. I am also very outspoken, but I do not get annoyed if my suggestions are not accepted.
3. Pen Pal Time
Sample
Dear Host or Hostess,
I’m a freshman from Northeast University, majoring in Electrical Engineering. I’m writing in the hope that I can make some new friends.
On the whole, I’m a lively, active and helpful girl, who enjoys staying with friends. I also have a sensitive and emotional soul.
I value friendship more than anything else. In my free time I enjoy listening to music, such as classic, pop, or light music. My favorite group is “Back Street Boys”. My Motto is “I believe I can fly”. But I don’t like sports, so those who enjoy watching games and talking about sports, do not write to me. Otherwise, they will be disappointed.
Anyone who is of a similar age and wants a friend to talk to or write to, please e-mail:
lanyue1222@/doc/45cfc1aa970590c69ec3d5bbfd0a79563c1ed4a8.html . Write to me and you will receive my reply immediately, especially if you write in English.
Yours,
Zhang Yan
4. Your Show Time
A sample for “selfishness”:
S: Hi, Mr. Li. Do you have a few minutes?
A: Yes, sure. Anything wrong? You don’t look very well.
S: I don’t know how to start. It’s about my personality, you know.
A: Yes?
S: I am the only child in my family. My paternal grandparents, maternal grandparents and parents all love me very much,
even to the point of spoiling me. This makes me very self-centered and very selfish.
A: Oh? Did anyone tell you that before?
S: They didn’t say anything directly. But I could sense that. For example, my roommates don’t like to talk to me. It’s hard for me to make friends with any of them and I feel very isolated. I want to get rid of selfishness. But I don’t know how.
A: I know it’s hard to change, since you have been like this for about 18 years, right? But it’s not impossible.
S: How?
A: First, you have to remember that most of your classmates are also the only child of their families. So you are not much different from them. They are all your equals and deserve the same rights and treatment. You can’t expect them to please you or do anything for you like your family members.
S: You are right. I was wrong in thinking that they should all adore me as if I were a prince.
princess.
A: Also, you need to be more agreeable and generous when you’re with them. You should learn to share, for example, your books, CDs, food, and also your feelings and experiences with others. Try to be more considerate and helpful. Do not make loud noises when others are sleeping. If someone is ill, ask him/her what you could do for them, buy them some drink or food. Once you show your concern for others, they will certainly feel grateful to you and repay you some day, and will treat you as their friend.
S: Yes. You are quite right. I have never thought of helping others. In my whole life, I am the one who has been helped and taken care of.
A: My last point: Ask yourself, whether you want to make friends with a selfish person who always takes things from you but never gives.
S: Of course not!
A: That’s it! Good luck!
S: Thank you so much!
A sample for “impatience”:
A: Hi, Tom. You don’t look very happy. What’s wrong?
S: I just had a fight with Ted.
A: About what?
S: It was at noon. I felt a bit sleepy and was having a nap. When I was just about to fall asleep, I suddenly heard Ted calling my name. I woke up. He just wanted to ask me a stupid question. A: So you flew into a rage?
S: Yes! I asked him to shut up, and be quiet! And he became angry too. We didn’t talk to each other the whole afternoon. A: You are a bit impatient. I don’t think he intended to annoy you and woke you up on purpose. S: Now I also realize I was too quick-tempered. But what can I do to change it?
A: I think you need to put yourself in other people’s shoes. If others shout at you rudely, how would you feel?
S: I would be annoyed. I might never talk to that person again.
A: So, you see, do not do to others what you do not want others do to you.
S: Yeah, that’s right.
A: Also, always think twice before you leap. You may do something like deep breathing, or counting to ten before you speak. S: Ok. I will try to remember that.
A: You may also put up some reminders such as “Be Patient” on the wall.
S: That’s a good idea! I enjoy calligraphy. I might write one myself.
A: Great! I hope you will be more patient and enjoy your college life here.
A sample for “dishonesty”:
(At Miss Li’s office.)
S: Hi, Miss Li.
A: Hi, Sara. Come on in! Anything I can help with?
S: Yes, I’m afraid so. I hate myself. I despise myself!
A: Why? What’s wrong?
S: I have a big problem with my personality. I seem to be a habitual liar. I know some of my classmates have labeled me as “dishonest”, but I never intend to be so.
A: I know, I know. So let’s see what we can do with it. You said you told lies. Why was that?
What kind of lie did you tell?
S: For example, I didn’t get a high score in Calculus last semester. In fact, I just got a pass. But when others asked me about my score, I told them I got 85. But later, they found out I didn’t tell the truth.
A: OK! I think that’s because you wished you could have had a higher score. The low score made you feel a bit ashamed, kind of losing face, right? So you tried to hide the truth. But remember, getting a low score occasionally is normal. Most students have such experiences.
You have to learn to accept that. On the contrary, telling lies will be frowned upon by your classmates. A score only reflects your ability of one thing at one time, but telling lies can be
detrimental to your integrity all the time.
S: You are right. But my lies didn’t hurt anyone. I just didn’t want to lose face.
A: It seems to make sense. But do you want to be lied to? Do you want your friends to be dishonest to you? Do you want your child to be dishonest too?
S: Definitely not.
A: In fact, telling lies is a very tiring thing. You have to have a good memory. You have to remember two things: the fact and your lie so as not to let the cat out of the bag.
S: Quite true! Sometimes, before I speak, I need to recall what I told others in order to keep my words consistent, so to speak. A: So why not lead an easy and happy life by telling the truth and being an honest person in whatever you do? Just as the proverb goes, honesty is the best policy.
S: Ok. Thank you very much! From now on, I will try my best not to tell lies and be an honest person.
5. Comparing Optimists with Pessimists
Step One
Step Two
Advice to pessimists:
Do things you enjoy, such as playing games, going shopping, having ice-cream, talking with your friends, calling your parents when you are depressed.
Help other people whenever you can. This will make you feel satisfied with yourself and give you a sense of achievement. Keep fit. This will make you energetic, active and in a good mood.
Do not believe in fate.
Learn to interpret failure in a positive way.
When things go wrong, think about your strong points and have another try before you give up. Do not always dwell on your unluckiness; think about what you have and enjoy.
Remember misfortune will not last long.
Keep in mind that tomorrow is a new day.
6. Once upon a Time…
Once upon a time, there were a proud house cat and a clever mouse. The cat was called Tom and the mouse (was called) Terry.
The master of the house was very kind and generous to Tom. He gave him three good meals a day for his effort in driving the mouse away. Tom worked hard. He was truly diligent and tried his very best to catch Terry but he never succeeded. Every time he got close to Terry, Terry would make a quick turn and leave Tom far behind once again.
The game between Tom and Terry went on for some time. Christmas was coming and the children in the house would receive presents. Tom, of course, expected to receive something from his master. He was a shrewd cat so he made up his mind to do something to please his master before Christmas.
Tom sent for his brother to help him drive the mouse out of the house. They worked well together and Terry disappeared. Tom was now very proud of himself. To his amazement, his master had no intention of giving him a Christmas bonus. In fact, Tom’s meals became wor se and worse because the master found there was no need to keep a cat if there were no mice. Tom was a sensitive cat and felt very sad. He then realized how important Terry was to him and he begged him to return. The master was shocked to see the mouse aga in. Suddenly Tom’s meals began to improve.。