跨文化交际论文-中美dating的区别

Intercultural communication

姓名：董美辰

学号：20102237

学院：数学与统计学院

专业：统计学（金融与精算方向）

Thesis statement：This paper is intended to make a comparison about the dating between Chinese and American to see their differences and similarities. The illustration of dating would mainly contain two parts: the actions and the thoughts and the cultural reasons and revelation will be analyzed finally.

Outline：

1. Introduction

2. Comparison between Chinese and American dating

2. 1 Similarities

2. 2 Differences

2.2.1Behaviours

2.2.2Activities

2.2.3Purpose and Attitude

3.Reasons for different behaviors and attitudes between China and America

3.1 religious and traditional values

3.2 relationship with marriage

3.3 expressing ways

4.Revelation

5. Conclusion

Reference

1.Introduction

As start point of the path towards marriage, the function and meaning of dating is obviously very important. Accordingly, if we want to have a better and comprehensive understanding of the different views on marriage between American and Chinese, it is necessary to analyze the difference in dating customs between people from the two countries.

As we know, dating includes all the activities that men and women do together for having a better understanding of each other and developing a further relationship. Taken in this sense, it is the same for every one over the world. However, due to the great difference between American and Chinese in culture, tradition and belief, people in America and those in China have different customs in dating.

Considering the above, I'd like to illustrate the topic in two main aspects: the behaviors and the thoughts. That just match along with human's body and soul. The actions of body will be demonstrated by the behaviors and the activities ,while the souls will be elaborated by the purpose and attitude. Thus ,we shall understand both cultures and manage the dating in our life in a better way.

parison between Chinese and American dating

2. 1 Similarities

As a critical step for two people's relationship, dating is a way for them to get a better understanding of each other. People are always changing and growing. They have a date aiming to have a further relationship with the other. Also,dating relates to all the romantic things and lovely memories.

Inevitably, sometimes couples may quarrel and even break up when they are dating. So all dates show this character: uncertainty. The affair develops unpredictable as it depends on the feelings of two people.

In addition, festivals celebrating the love exist in both countries. Chinese have the Tanabata Day and Americans have the Valentine's Day. People date on the special day to show their love to their half apples.

2. 2 Differences

Differences are reflected by the actions of body and rooted in their souls.

The actions of body will be demonstrated by the behaviors and the activities ,while the souls will be elaborated by the purpose and attitude.

2.2.1Behaviours

The behaviors varies in the two countries. So here, three typically specific cases will be illustrated to explain it.

Firstly, how many dates shall a single have?

In America, it is normal for people to have a date with different persons of the opposite sex in a period. But it is hard to imagine that this scene will appear in China.

Plato once said ,"Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one, so that when we finally meet the person, we will know how to be grateful." This has become a widely accepted western thought. So in Americans' opinion, only by coming into contact with many persons who have different character, different hobbies and different backgrounds, she or he can get the man or woman who is the most suitable one.

Most of Chinese people agree with that viewpoint, but they still have a date with only one person in a period, following their customs and traditions. For Chinese, dating with only one person shows their sincerity and respect to each other. This custom relates to Chinese traditional culture, which