高级英语视听说Unit5+讲稿

Unit5 No dad at home
How to prevent the psychological problems in a child growing up in a single parent family?
After Joey’s presentation, I believe you already know numerous psychological problems in children from a singe parent family. However, is the problem really that inevitable? Is every child from a single parent family going to behave like that? The answer is definitely no.
Now let’s see some pictures first. Are you familiar with all these people? They are president, brilliant educators, famous singers. But do you know,besides reputation, they still have something in common, that is , they all came from a single parent family. We can take a guess from these examples that although there can be considerable disadvantages for a single parent family, there are many ways parents can educate their children successfully on their own. If parents take the time to shower their kids with love, take the time to teach values, morals and
essential coping skills, they will empower their children to be well adjusted and well behaved.
Now that the psychological problems in a child growing up in a single parent family become a vital concern, we can look deeply into the precaution in three aspects.---- The single parents, schools and the children themselves.
First is the part of single parents. Above all, they should cheer up from the failure of marriage and regain their confidence of life. The attitude of parents towards life would affect their children greatly. If
the single parent always complains about life or dwells on the miserable past, their children would become more and more pessimistic about their future.
Second, Single Parents should never hide the truth about family issues from children. They should answer questions about the other parent calmly a nd honestly. I don’t know whet her you remember
Miss.Deaver, one of our foreign teachers. The topic reminded me that she said she has a step father, and it is very common in America if you have step parents, step sisters and even step grandparents. Single parent family is becoming more and more normal in western countries,even in China. The most important point is to view the phenomenon as a normal change. If parents lie about the truth about the break of their family, children may feel hurt more severely. The best choice is to tell them that although parents won’t live to gether anymore, they still love their kids.
The next point for single parents will be——make up for the
gender education of children. Children growing up in a single parent family usually lack the maternal or fatherly love. As a result, they may lack the female or male figures(偶像,英雄)to follow and then lack the directions of themselves. In this case, the single parents should try their best to make up for it. For example, a single mother can turn to the children’s uncle, male teacher, even the neighbors for help.
The last but not the least, Single parents are supposed to pay more attention to the communication with their children. It is important for parents to listen to what their children are saying and keep close
contact with them and the friends they choose. When strong relationships develop between single parents and their children, both the parents and the children benefit, and the outcome is better.
From the aspect of children growing up in a single parent family themselves they can develop some kinds of positive hobbies as
distraction (转移注意力的事物) Take Jay Chou as an example,he played piano even harder after his parents got divorced。

He said music help him calm down and then he would try not to think too much about the darkness about life. Also, Children can find someone reliable to pour out their hearts.
And finally there come the school’s treatments. First, school teachers have to educate students that single parent family is a normal phenomenon. This way, to some extend, can reduce the bully act
towards the children who live with a single mother or father. Second, schools should encourage children from a single parent family
and try to get rid of their pressure. Children growing up in a broken family may feel himself inferior to others, the best way to prevent that is to constantly give them care and encourage.
To draw a conclusion, I believe that as long as the families, schools and the whole society give children growing without father or mother more care and love, they will sill lead a happy and healthy life.
Questions from classmates:
1.How the society can do to prevent the psychological problems in
children from a single parent family?
I think the most important thing the whole society can do is to
educate people that single parent family is a normal phenomenon, people shouldn’t pay too much attention to children growing up in that situation, or they will feel uncomfortable. Also, the society can build up some community care center or something like that to take care of children from a single parent family.
2.In your presentation, you said that a single mother can turn to
children’s uncle or neighbor for help to make up for the
children’s gender education. What else can a single mother do to achieve that goal?
A single mother can pay attention to the details of her son. If her son
wants to talk to her, they can sit down and talk to each other peacefully. Sometimes, boys may discuss “My father works for a big company”” My father is strong” or something like that. Hearing that, the boy will feel depressed because he even dose not have a father.
In this case, the mother can comfort him by the words “Although you don’t live with your father, he love you very mu ch. If you try your best to improve yourself, you will become a better person than you
father dose.”
3.Is it good for children if the single mother find a step father for
them?
Well, I think it depends. If the step parent take care of the feelings of children, try to understand them and give them better education, it may help a lot. However, on the other hand, some step parents don’t care the feelings of children and even abuse them. In
that way, we can’t see a good result.
And things just happen normally. It would be impossible for a
single mother to go out on the street, meet someone and just regard him as the step father of her child. Only when a single mother falls in love with someone and think he is suitable to live together, then they can form a new family. Otherwise, a single mother still can try her best to educate the child successfully by herself. I believe you all heard about the
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