研究生英语课程unit6

Unit 6

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II. Language points

1. What mysterious force drives us into the arms of one person, while pushing us away from another who might appear equally desirable to any unbiased observer? (para. 3) What mysterious power makes us attracted to that someone special even if the people whom we face might be all suitable if judged fairly.

2. Of the many factors influencing our idea of the perfect mate, one of the most telling, according to John Money, professor emeritus of medical psychology and pediatrics at Johns Hopkins University, is what he calls our “love map” —a group of messages encoded in our brains that describes our likes and dislikes. (para.4) Many factors may influence our choice of a marriage partner. One of the most compelling factors is defined as “love map” by John Money who is professor emeritus of medical psychology and pediatrics at Johns Hopkins University, which is a group of messages indicating what we like and what we don’t like.

3. It also records the kind of personality that appeal s to us, whether it’s the warm and friendly type or the strong, silent type.(para. 4) The “love map” also records the personality type which attracts us, whether it’s the warm and friendly type or the strong, silent type.

4. When I lecture, I often ask couples in the audience what drew them to their dates or mates. (para. 6) When I deliver a lecture, I often ask couples what made them attracted to their lovers or marriage partners.

5. The mother has an additional influence on her sons: she not only gives them clues to what they will find attractive in a mate, but also affects how they feel about women in general. (para.9) The son may not only choose a mate who is quite similar to his mother in characteristics, but also develop his feelings toward women in general.

6. Conversely, a mother who has a depressive personality, and is sometimes friendly but then suddenly turns cold and rejecting, may raise a man who becomes a “dance-away lover.” (para. 10) On the contrary, if a mother is depressed in general, and sometimes friendly but then suddenly becomes cold and merciless, her son may become an unreliable lover.

7. Because he’s been so scared about love from his mother, he is afraid of commitment

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and may pull away from a girlfriend for this reason. (para.10) …d ue to this reason, he may be afraid of dating.

8. While the mother determines in large part what qualities attract us in a mate, it’s the father — the first male in our lives — who influences how we relate to the opposite sex. (para.11) Whereas the mother determines to a large extent what qualities in a mate appeal to us, the father, who is the first male in our lives, influences how we get along with the opposite sex.

9. We hang around with people in the same town; (para.13) We stroll around and stay with people in the same town;

hang about/ (a) round be standing or loitering about, doing nothing definite

Since he lost his job, he’s been hanging about here. 他失业后一直在这里闲着。

10. We tend to be most comfortable with these people, and therefore we tend to link up

with others whose families are often much like our own. (para.13) We are inclined to be most comfortable with these people, and so we are inclined to marry people with similar family background.

11. It’s rather like the old, but perceptive, saying on the subject of marriage that advises

future partners to make sure that the holes in one’s head fit the bumps in the other’s.

(para.16) Looking for someone with complementary needs is just like the saying on the subject of marriage, old but to the point. It suggests that future marriage partners should fit each other.

12. Or, as Winch observed, it’s the balancing out of sociological likenesses and

psychological differences that seems to point the way for the most solid lifelong romance. (para.16) Winch found that the trade-off between sociological similarities and psychological differences might be the way for a strongest romance for our whole life. 13. It turns out that the woman was like her mother-in-law —a loving and caring

person, the type who rolls up her sleeves and volunteers to work at church or help out people in need. (para.18) It is proved that his wife was like his mother, a loving and caring person who was willing to prepare for the work at church or help out people in need.

14. This is the quality that her husband fell for, and it made color and religion and any

other social factors irrelevant to him.(para.18) This is the quality that her husband loved, and he ignored any other social factors, such as color and religion.

fall for fall in love with

They met at a friend’s house and fell for each other immediately.

15. …his marriage was his favorite gig, even though it was Gracie who got all the laughs.

(para.19) … his marriage was his favorite recreation, even though Gracie, his wife, laughed more frequently.

16. They complemented each other perfectly: he was the straight man, and she delivered