如何平衡工作与生活 PPT
如何平衡生活与工作（Howtobalancelifeandwork）
如何平衡生活与工作（How to balance life and work）How to balance our lives?Important statement: life is everyone's choice. No one really has the right to tell you how you should live. Right, when you are underage, your parents may have the right. So, I don't have the right. The following is my own perception of life, just to share, in case there are statements that make you feel like teaching, FORGET, IT, ignore him!Second, life is not a fixed pattern, all judgment is conditional. So, make your own judgment.So I changed the title to: "how do I balance my life?"!Over the past few years, many of our colleagues have begun to get married, home ownership, family began to have children, the elderly have entered, there is a small stage. Those young colleagues from other places are floating in the big cities, facing the high prices, traffic and catering costs, the pressure of life is increasing. The biggest worry from friends and colleagues is how to balance work and life. Some people's lives have been significantly affected by a senior trainer who has been thinking about re choosing a career, and a new trainer is beginning to get confused when he talks about it. One of our excellent staff, he served as the main operator soon, a series of unexpected events in work and life almost let him he had to pause mentally and physically exhausted. Today, these colleagues have come out, and have a better understanding of life. To communicate with them, I also learned a lot, in part I am older, although I don't want to admit. Therefore, to sharewhat you have received and feel, I hope that I have some inspiration for colleagues and friends who haven't come to some stage, so I can find the balance of my life earlier.Sentiment 1: freedom is a reward for winners. Balance is relative, imbalance is absolute, and the more difficult it is to be balanced when you are younger. The earlier the balance, the lower the standard of living. From the outset, unless you already see through life, only by the life of the heart can make you happy.Over the years, many of the fables circulated on the Internet say that a rich man who has gone through many hardships and has finally been successful has retired to the beach with a fishing pole. A fisherman asked him, "how did you begin to learn how to fish?" The rich man said, "I've been fighting all my life just to get to the beach every day.". The fisherman said, "you're silly. Do you think I didn't fish here long ago?"! This fable is to say, you all don't silly, stop your struggle, fishing can be at any time.Think carefully, there is a paradox. Because fishermen and rich men catch entirely the same fish, even if they are the same fish, the harvest is entirely different.Life is divided into many stages, each stage has your priorities, it determines your way of life, the sooner you can make the choice of the more limited.From birth to school when you are seven years old, the most important thing in childhood is eating, growing up, andlearning to deal with the relationship between your body and the world around you. Of course, you will learn unconsciously from your surroundings, and many things that will determine your future life, such as studying, laughing and crying. The terrible thing is that today's parents want to compress this stage. They let their children start reading when they are four or five years old, and deprive them of their supposed childhood.The second stage, twelve years of compulsory education, is a painful period for all Chinese teenagers, and the parents are also suffering. Many parents regret having children. School education in China is an education that kills imagination, creativity, and the thirst for intellectual curiosity. The college entrance examination is a correct answer for all children to think that life has only one goal. I learned from the educated people hate this, but also helpless. At this stage, you have only two choices, one is to hone yourself in this environment, to surpass yourself, to go to a good school with good grades, then to find a good job and seek a good life (to define yourself).Another option is to escape. For example, let children go to private international school, do not take the college entrance examination, go abroad to study directly. But this choice is based on the premise that parents should succeed first.Third stages, from twenty to thirty or forty, and ten to twenty years, are called growth stages. The most important thing is work. Through hard work, let oneself get the basic financial freedom - - basic necessities of life are not worry, career is relatively stable, standing on a relatively high platform.This stage is also a period of confusion. The most common positioning errors are two, one is unable to take off the students mentality. Still working as a learning process, did not think of you is your contribution to the organization based on how much rather than you learn many things, or, self-centered, only do their own thing, a good his test is finished, will not cooperate with others and detest the world and its ways. This kind of person grows little in the organization, the chance that obtains also is very limited. I work too early, but the beginning is a young cynic, wasted a few years, but is in abroad, in the restaurant dishes to understand what is working. Luckily, it's not too late. So work hard, for the boss to create value, but also to make more money. At the most time, while reading, while four jobs.There is a dislocation, early to balance life and work life of two minds, that three hearts, the last of which did not do a good job, to forty people, there is not the cause, the basic living conditions are still not have freedom and balance or in the water, the flower in the mirror. Some people are helpless, but some people are more cynical. The old is not so cute young cynic.Of course, some people can have a free, not in this case.When I was working in Belgium, my wife gave birth to her son in the country alone. When I met my son, he was already over two years old. My foreign classmates and colleagues heard the story as if they were looking at me like a monster. I don't have much choice. When I go abroad, my national media reporter paysonly $7 a month (73 yuan, then the black market price is 1:10).I had no savings. I borrowed two thousand dollars from my parents. I asked them not to eat or drink for ten years.It's hard to get home. I'm going to make money quickly and pay back the money!After returning to China, join Kodak. We haven't done anything about advertising or public relations. My junior knows more than I do. Have to go to hell again, a person from Beijing in Shanghai, began living in the company next door to the hotel, work, work is upstairs downstairs. By the time I left Kodak, I was walking on the street at six in the afternoon, and suddenly I felt like I was off duty. The sunset made me feel fresh and strange, as if I had never seen the sunset before work.After the resignation of a few days, threw down the family, a person carrying a bag will fly to Beijing to join the group. Well, my wife followed me around and lost my two job. I lived at least eight different places before I had my own house in Beijing. My son has already had ten different schools and kindergartens in two countries and three cities in this year's senior middle school, and most of them are boarding. Once, my son said to me, "Dad, every time I'm going to be a good student in a school, you let me transfer.".I do not want everyone's life to be as turbulent as I am. I just want to tell you that I feel a balanced life today. These are the costs and, of course, the wealth I have accumulated. Some are paid by the day, after the return to the leveling. Some are lost forever.The future of the world you can either choose to become a free occupation, but if you choose to live in an organization, a growing demand, the continuous development of the world, there is a formula in the world are oppressed all organizations and people in the organization:Performance =1/2, X, 2X3,Performance is equivalent to three times the amount paid by half of the people and paid them twice. That means it's good to do it,And we'll get tired. Personally, I don't think the bigger the better, the more things the world produces. But that's the trend in the world today. You can either choose ashore, or become pride in the trend.At each stage, you have to do what you have to do, and focus on what you should do to get what you want. It pays to pay.Freedom is a reward for the winners!Borrow an ad, efforts may not succeed, but give up, hesitate, must be empty handed. You will be less free.For those forty or so, the business is small, also in a certain position, for their own life basic or have more autonomy, this stage you is not by selling toil to create value, you have experience, experience, influence, wisdom is your source of value, then life balance is very important, otherwise it is easyto rigid thinking, indecisive, afraid of change. You must see that work and personal growth are not the most important things. How to make your job more meaningful, and how to help and influence more people, is the essence. To do this, you can always jump out of the work itself, look at the problem, find signs of world change in your life, and find inspiration for new life.The above part is the more fatalistic part. How can we find ourselves in an imbalance and find the joy of living? Make yourself happier.Sentiment two, focus, let you find the control of the feelingGreat concentration is what I said above. Focus on the most important things at each stage of your life, answer the most important questions, and try to get the best grades.The feeling of life imbalance is that we always feel that we are being confused by countless things and instructions. We can't lead our own life and do what we want to do.So, daily concentration means that when you have chosen to do one thing, do your best to do it. When you are talking to a person, do not allow someone else to cut in, and of course, you should not interrupt other people's conversation, not the phone bell, no matter who picks it up. Hang on the QQ or MSN all day long, allowing the pace of thought and work to be interrupted. Work, thinking about the water and electricity have not paid, it is time to go to bed, but also think of a customer program, quote did not do. In a word, the mind is never fixed. In fact, timeis never enough, nor can we do everything! All we can do is do what has been chosen.I have to improve communication and son, specially set himself every Monday hours chatting with him, but at the beginning, we sat together, I tolerate him on TV, he tolerate me holding a business magazine, that one hour we are absent-minded, as can be imagined effect. Last summer, I put down all things, turn off the mobile phone, with walkie talkies, together with him the Great Wall on foot, and his death, father and son together brave the wind and dew, the relationship on a higher level.If you finally determined to accompany a wife to go shopping, you'd better put off the mobile phone, not in her value when a skirt, you are still on the phone and colleagues, customers, especially female colleagues or female customers talk about work, talk about the contract, it will not let you become very important, it will make you look very stingy hate. You might as well not go. Just give her your credit card.Sentiment three: in key times and key people together.When my wife was a child, she was the weakest, and I wasn't there when I needed help most. Complained for years. I lost the most important moment in my life, I didn't see my son born. This lesson can never be filled. So every time I hear a colleague with a baby, I tell them that your wife is more important than the company, and you must be around her at that critical moment. One more advice, don't give your wife your mother's care, which will put you in the most difficult situation. The best choice is to have her mother take care of her,You take good care of his mother, this is a win-win situation.There are some key days don't forget, we must prepare in advance planning, in fact, never in the family how much time you spent (of course better), how much money (not better), the key is how many hearts. In the planning activities for customers, we exhausted the mind, but did not take out a little wisdom left to the family.Life itself requires skill and skill!Renzhongren or a small company, in order to keep our simple, simple culture, we do not let relatives to join the company, do not encourage employees in the company of love. But I have said more than once that if you really meet the other half of your life in the company, don't let him (her) go. After all, finding a job is much easier than finding the other half. I still wish those colleagues find love in the group. I'm proud too. After all, we've got so many wonderful men and women here.Sentiment four: time can not be managed, you can manage only your priorities.Try to do important but not urgent things, and your life will become calm without knowing it.Concentrate on the important and urgent things and deal with them first.However, most of us are busy with urgent but unimportant thingsfor the most part, because such things tend to seem easier to judge and easier to handle. But these chores take up a lot of your time. The things that really matter don't have the time to do it, especially those important and not urgent things that are forgotten by you forever.These are important but not urgent thing in the sales work is to build more customer relationship, more familiar with the product, to learn more about the trainer, and establish a good relationship; the training division, is to improve their professional ability, ability to bring all kinds of new curriculum, in the organization's influence. For managers, priority should be given to planning the future, formulating and maintaining organizational systems and procedures, building a good organizational culture, and finding and training excellent employees. For life, that is, health, family maintenance and construction, their own learning, growth and so on. These things are not good, you need to fire it, cramming, work efficiency is low, more time is occupied.Look around you, the less you plan, the busier you are.These important things are ignored by us because they are not urgent. The way you can do it is to set your own goals and schedule your time. For example, I have 06 years got mild Meniere, is actually a long-term fatigue and under the pressure of the autonomic nerve disorder, there are times I almost fainted in the year, I will bring a time to expand the training, almost renzhongren. Later, I set myself a year, at least 100 times to exercise the goal, each time more than 45 minutes to count, playing a ball 4 hours, you can remember two times. Idid it. I didn't count it this year, and it turned out to be too close. In addition, the key point of time early painted on the calendar, arrange the schedule to bypass it, at this time must be brave to say NO, set a good thing, easy not to change.I play a lot of roles and have a lot of things in my mind. On weekdays, people ask me if I have the time to do something, and I say anything is possible if you make an appointment and plan early!When you have a plan, time doesn't seem to be a big problem anymore. Because most of the work has been done, and the rest is up to him.I call it, in order to create an orderly working environment, please do early plan, and many others make an appointment, do not easily break others plan to a is a, especially when the leaders pay more attention to this point. When leaders have no plan, the whole organization is busier and more chaotic!Sentiment five: be sure to have hobbies while you're away from workIt's also one of the best ways to balance your mind and body. The work is not all in your life, when you put down all their hobbies, all affection, obsessed with your work,Once something changes and does not work, you can't find the north. Also easy to work and colleagues around the heart of resentment. This is also the company can not afford to weight!Work is the biggest and most important game in life, but it can't be the only game. Keeping body and mind healthy is the basic premise of a happy life, and also the basic condition of efficient work.。
《平衡工作与生活》课件
建立平衡的方法
时间管理技巧
制定合理的工作计划和生活日程表，充分利用时间来完成任务并保留时间休息和娱乐。
设置优先级
区分重要和紧急的任务，并优先处理重要的事项，确保工作和生活上的需要得到满足。
学会说不
学会拒绝那些会干扰工作生活平衡的请求，确保自己有足够的时间和精力来处理自己的任务。
重要的注意事项
1 知道个人边界
了解自己的能力和限制，不要超负荷工作，要学会合理分配时间和精力。
2 稳定的生活节奏
确保生活有规律，包括足够的休息时间、锻炼和社交活动，以维持身心健康和幸福感。
3 寻求支持和帮助
如果需要，寻求支持和帮助，可以向家人、朋友或专业人士寻求建议和支持。
鼓励参与者寻求平衡
鼓励听众在自己的生活中寻找平衡，并提供反馈和建议，以帮助他们达到更好的工作与生活 平衡。
案例分析
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成功的平衡工作与生活的人的经历分享
了解那些在工作和生活中取得成功的人的经验和故事，从中获取灵感和学习。
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如何通过平衡工作与生活获得积极的影响
探索平衡工作与生活的好处，例如更好的工作表现、更健康的生活方式和更满足 的人际关系。
结束语
总结要点
总结本次课件的关键观点和技巧，强调平衡工作与生活对个人和职业发展的重要性。
《平衡工作与生活》PPT 课件
在这个PPT课件中，我们将探讨平衡工作与生活的重要性以及建立平衡的方 法。通过时间管理技巧、设置优先级和学会说不，帮助您作与生活是指合理分配时间和精力，使工作和生活相互平衡。这有助 于提高生活质量、增加幸福感和减轻压力。
为何需要平衡工作与生活
如何平衡工作与生活PPT参考课件
等我工作了，我就快乐幸福了
等我提职了，我就快乐幸福了
等我有100万，我就快乐幸福了
等我买房子了，我就快乐幸福了
等我公司上市了，我就快乐幸福了
等我结婚了，我就快乐幸福了
等我当爹了，我就快乐幸福了
等孩子上大学了，我就快乐幸福了
等我退休了，我就快乐幸福了
等我有孙子了，我就快乐幸福了
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2.3 如何对付不速之客
不要采取无条件的“门户开放政策” 授权别人对约会事宜作初步之安排 预留灵活时间
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如何对付不速之客（续）
在办公室外接见外界不速之客 站立会客 控制会谈时间 宁可提早上班，但不要延迟下班 定期与部属会面
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2.4 有效委派
委派的选择
做过类似 工作的人
没时间做计划 工作是程序化，规律化，根本没必
要做计划 不喜欢被计划束缚 “船到桥头自然直”
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2、不好意思拒绝别人
接受请托比拒绝更容易 拒绝请托会触怒请托者从而导致请
托者报复 我想做一个广受爱戴的人 我不懂得如何拒绝
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3、“反正时间还早”——拖延
帕金森定律
工作会自动地膨胀占满所有可用的时间。 时间管理陷阱是如果你给自己安排了充裕的 时间从事一项活动，你会放慢你的节奏以使 用掉所有分配的时间。
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四. 情绪是可以经营的
2. 人的情绪和肢体语言是配套的
①情绪能创造动作
美国心理学家兰格：人是因为跑才害怕 表情和肢体语言看一个人的心情状态
②动作创造情绪
先观察再模仿；从模仿到自然；自然的肢体习惯。
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第二讲、 认识时间管理
1、时间的特性 2、时间可否管理 3、时间管理的原因 4、时间管理的要素
平衡生活：工作与生活的六个平衡点
平衡生活：工作与生活的六个平衡点1. 时间管理时间管理是实现工作和生活平衡的关键。
合理规划自己的时间，将工作和休闲活动有序地安排在日程表中，有助于有效利用时间，避免过度投入到工作中而忽略了其他重要的方面。
一些时间管理技巧包括制定优先级清单、设定明确的目标和截止日期、避免拖延症等。
通过合理规划时间，确保在工作之余还有足够的时间放松和享受生活。
2. 工作与家庭之间的界限为了实现工作与生活的平衡，需要设定清晰明确的界限，让工作和家庭两者互不干扰。
当你在工作时，尽量避免与家庭事务纠缠；同样，在家庭时间里也要尽量避免被工作所打扰。
建立健康的工作与家庭分离机制可以帮助保持身心健康，并提高工作效率。
3. 锻炼和休息保持身体健康对于工作和生活平衡至关重要。
即使你非常忙碌，也要确保每天有时间进行适当的锻炼和休息。
锻炼可以提高身体素质和精神状态，并增加对工作的集中力。
定期休息则有助于缓解压力、恢复精力，并促进心理健康。
4. 社交与个人空间平衡生活还包括维持良好的社交关系和享受个人空间。
拥有一支亲密的朋友圈子可以帮助你在日常生活中释放压力、分享喜悦。
同时，为自己留出一些私人时间，做自己喜欢的事情，是实现平衡生活必不可少的一部分。
5. 充实与放松工作重要，但让自己过度劳累是行不通的。
为了实现工作和生活的平衡，需要找到充实和放松之间的平衡点。
充实包括追求事业上的成就感、学习新知识等；而放松则意味着给自己留出时间来玩乐、旅行或者追求其他爱好。
6. 心理健康最后一个平衡点是心理健康。
工作压力和忙碌的生活很容易给人带来负面情绪和焦虑。
要保持良好的心理健康，可以尝试一些自我调节、放松和冥想的方法。
此外，也可以寻求专业心理咨询师的帮助。
总结起来，平衡生活需要优化时间管理、设定工作与家庭界限、注重锻炼休息、维持社交关系和个人空间、充实与放松并注意心理健康。
这些平衡点能够使我们在工作和生活之间找到更好的平衡，并拥有更加健康和幸福的生活。
工作压力与生活平衡35页PPT
66、节制使快乐增加并使享受加强。 ——德 谟克利 特 67、今天应做的事没有做，明天再早也 是耽误 了。——裴斯 泰洛齐 68、决定一个人的一生，以及整个命运 的，只 是一瞬 之间。 ——歌 德 69、懒人无法享受休息之乐。——拉布 克 70、浪费时间是一桩大罪过。——卢梭
工作压力与生活平衡
36、如果我们国家的法律中只有某种 神灵， 而不是 殚精竭 虑将神 灵揉进 宪法， 总体上 来说， 法暴政兴起之 时。— —威·皮 物特
38、若是没有公众舆论的支持，法律 是丝毫 没有力 量的。 ——菲 力普斯 39、一个判例造出另一个判例，它们 迅速累 聚，进 而变成 法律。 ——朱 尼厄斯
《平衡工作与生活》PPT课件
Stages in Evolution of Modern Workplace
Few women, too many restrictions and full focus on work (1900)
Higher number of women , introduction of gender sensitivity and separation of work from personal life (1950)
Evolution of Modern Workplace
The modern workplace is characterized by increasing number of women which gave rise to the following challenges. 1.Gender Equality 2.Equal Pay 3.Glass Ceiling at Top Echelon 4.Gendered Stereotypes 5.Gender Reassignment 6.Responsibility of Birthing and Lactation
"The differences between paychecks have more to do with the differences between social classes and increasingly, the education that, more than anything else today, determines class membership than with the differences between the sexes. Within classes, differences between men and women persist, although they are steadily lessening.”
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二. 不要期望成功换来快乐，而是要快乐地去成功
1. 渴望成功的代价是空前的压力
你幸福快乐吗？
等我成功了，我就快乐幸福了 等我考上大学，我就快乐幸福了 等我毕业了，我就快乐幸福了 等我工作了，我就快乐幸福了 等我提职了，我就快乐幸福了 等我有100万，我就快乐幸福了 等我买房子了，我就快乐幸福了 等我公司上市了，我就快乐幸福了 等我结婚了，我就快乐幸福了 等我当爹了，我就快乐幸福了 等孩子上大学了，我就快乐幸福了 等我退休了，我就快乐幸福了 等我有孙子了，我就快乐幸福了 ……
当其中的某一个方面或几个方面的要求没 有得到满足时就出现了失衡的状况。
生活是由无数的选择组成的
我们今天的生活是昨天选择的结果； 我们今天的选择决定了明天的生活。
什么影响我们做出选择？
角色
使命
价值观
至关重要的三角关系
什么是角色？
是“社会角色”的简称。指个人在社会关系位置 上的行为模式。它规定一个人活动的特定范围和与 人的地位相适应的权利义务与行为规范，是社会对 一个处于特定地位的人的行为期待。
二. 认识情绪
2. 负面情绪有它的正面作用
负面情绪就像身体疼痛，它的本意是保护你。
3.心理健康最重要的作用：对情绪的改变和调节 4.你的情绪不代表你的本质
优点和缺点——用别人的眼光去判断 缺点——无外是优点的“非最理想的表达，体现方式” 情绪或缺点代表自己，最大的负面结果就是自己不喜欢自己
三. 跟负面情绪说bye-bye
我们的角色是我们在生活中的人际关系和肩负 的责任。
关于角色
你的角色是什么？ 每个角色的相对重要性（给角色排序） 审视在履行角色方面的表现
价值观
主导价值观是我们相信在自己的生活中最 重要、具有最高优先度的事情。
主导价值观是我们的真正自我的核心。当 我们的行为背离了自己的价值观的时候我们 就会感受到痛苦。
诠释： 1. 很多时候，是我们自己阻碍了幸福的到来。 2. 很多陈旧的观念、错误的认知，让我们屡屡对幸
福擦肩而过。
一. 事业要给生活中最重要的东西服务
1. 生活中最重要的是什么？
一个空玻璃罐 很多石头 鹅卵石 沙子 啤酒
一. 事业要给生活中最重要的东西服务
2. 你的健康，你的家人
这种痛苦源于“认知失调”。摆脱痛苦的 唯一途径就是缩小或消除价值观和行为之间 的差距。
关于价值观的四个规律
无论我们自己是否意识到，我们内心都拥有 强烈影响着外在行为的价值观；
我们的自然倾向是让自己的行为与心灵深处 的价值观保持一致；
通过发掘我们的主导价值观，我们能利用它 们的威力来增强自己的效能；
玻璃罐代表你的生活 大石头代表生活中最重要的东西 鹅卵石代表事业、汽车、金钱 沙子代表生活中其他的小东西 啤酒代表惬意的生活
一. 事业要给生活中最重要的东西服务
3. 平衡处理健康、家人与事业
① 不能牺牲自己最想要的东西换取成功 ② 要给自己最重要的东西预先腾出时间和精力 ③ 问题是生命力的体现
如何平衡工作与生活
——让生活更快乐，让工作更精彩
我们身边这样的事情屡见不鲜
有些人登上了事业的顶峰，却在身后留下 了破裂的婚姻和形同陌路的子女；
有些人自认为家庭第一，顾家眷子，但在 工作中却表现平庸，无所作为。
什么是平衡的生活？
平衡的生活就是能够让生活中要求我们给 予时间和精力的各个方面都得到适当的满足。
中性的
eg.困难——挑战 低谷——调整期 迷惑——探索
二. 不要期望成功换来快乐，而是要快乐地去成功
2. 在达到目标之前，我拒绝快乐幸福 3. 幸福快乐是由自己的人生态度决定的
三. 认识情绪
1. 每种情绪存在都有它的道理
正面情绪： 高兴、兴奋、自豪、放松、宁静、充实、自由、自在、成就感、自豪 感、乐观…… 负面情绪： 沮丧、痛苦、自备、紧张、空虚、气愤、悲伤、危机感、浮躁、犹豫 不决、无安全感、焦虑、抑郁、忧心忡忡、发愁、嫉妒、害羞、耻辱 感、负罪感、压抑感、虚荣、挫折感、悲观……
四. 情绪是可以经营的
1.用语言经营情绪
a) 我们依赖语言表达内在情感，语言对人的内在情感也会产生影响。
b) 你的词汇里没有形容某种情感的词汇，你就不会有或很难有那种情 感
① 消极的语言：
② 当状态不好时，有意识地
• 你好吗？
把关键词改成正面的，起码是
• 还凑合 • 将就吧 • 就那么回事吧 • 倒霉透了
当我们的行为遵从了自己的价值观时，我们 会感受到内心的平和。
关于价值观
发掘你的主导价值观 精炼你的价值观清单 给你的价值观排优先顺序
个人使命
个人使命是对你生活目的的简要的书面表 述。
你在生活中的使命就是你的所有的角色以 及价值观，把它们消化并凝练成一句话，用 以描述你希望成为怎样的人，你想在自己的 有生之年成就什么事业。
个人使命像一盏雾灯，清楚地照亮前方的 路面，帮你穿越生活中困扰你的浓雾。
结论：
当你发现了对你至关重要而不是你以为重 要或别人认为重要的事情时，你不必再假装， 也不必把自己与别人去比较。在面临选择时， 你不会再感觉茫然、冲突。你就可以按自己 的真实愿望为人处世，开始平和美好、无悔 无怨的人生。
第一讲 幸福就在一转义
③ 原谅自己和他人的方法
通过倾听来帮助他发泄怨ቤተ መጻሕፍቲ ባይዱ和减少压力 通过交流来帮助他接受自己，理解自己 同样通过交流接受对方，理解对方 通过原谅，从痛苦怨恨中解放出来
④ 今天将过去/明天也将过去/可是昨天最难过去
三. 跟负面情绪说bye-bye
2. 不要对号入座
① 强烈的不安全感和缺乏自信 ② 把自己放在被欺负，被冤枉的位置
1. 原谅是最好的药
每个人都有沉重的“历史包袱”
① 首先原谅自己
对自己的行为、命运承担责任，等于承认自己生活的主宰权 把责任推给别人，把自己定位于无辜和无能的“受害者”位置 受害者心——习惯性受害者 无论如何，自己永远是自己生命的主宰
② 原谅是自我解脱的一剂好药
原谅过去的自己和过去的他人，甩掉包袱