《幸福课》课程论文 英文

宁波大学答题纸（2013—2014学年第2 学期）课号：课程名称：Access to Positive Psychology 改卷教师：学号：姓名：得分：Specifications for the Course paper as the Final AssessmentTopic: A Course-based Solution to My Puzzles of Life( Or：A Course-based Searching for a Happier Life)Layout:typed in size 4 minus, Times New Roman, on the prescribed paper for examination;Length: 1200-1500 English words in length;Submission date: Monday，17th weekRequirements:Concentrate on two or three problems of your life or study and give a full demonstration of your puzzles or difficulties. Stress should be given to an analysis of the causes and solutions based on what you have learned from this course. Make sure the quotations from reference books and handouts are clearly noted. Bonus points will be given to the detailed description of your solutions (or changes).Just Be Happier“Happiness is the meaning and purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence.” ---Aristotle Introduction:Happiness---it is not just a casual word. It is the eternal pursuit of many people. It is a psychological desire--- we feel happy when we get bread as we are hungry; we feel happy when we are appreciated by others. But we also feel unhappy when we can’t get what we want.As far as I’m concerned, the most important thing in man’s life is happiness. Happiness is really a wide concept, which includes goals, relationship, and so on. Everyone has his own understanding of happiness, so everyone has his own way to be happy. But in fact, there is something in common.Main Body:Say goodbye, so easyThere has been a moment that I just felt the world was upside down---the sky was falling down; I was stand on my head; there has also been a moment that I just felt every smile in people’ face was so hypocritical. I walked on the street, where there were so many people, but I just felt I was lonely. I was alone. Yes, that was the darkest day--- I broke up with my dearest boyfriend.I was alone. I said to myself again and again. I was sleepless. I ate little. I was always wandering from morning to night. It lasted for two weeks. Until one day, af riend of mine couldn’t tolerate anymore, “make some change s please.” Yes, I should change.Change is hard, but change is also possible. Though hard it is, I want to grasp the little possibility to change myself. So those are what I have done:1.Slow down and think. I used to walk very fast when I was alone, since I afraidthat too many people may find out my loneliness. But I persuade myself to slow down.” I need to face it straight.” I said to myself. So every night, I walked around our campus, alone. I began to walk slowly and slowly; I began to look around to find some interesting things; I start thinking when I was walking:” why are you so unhappy? Is that what you want? Is he really so perfect? Why can’t you get over it?” I asked and answered, asked and answered, every night, like this.2.Exercise.After night’s walkin g, it has become a habit of me to walk into theplayground and then run. Some days when I was so sad that I would run and run until I felt exhausted enough. And some days when I was calm, I will run for three circles and start meditating while I was running. Also, I bought a ping-pongboard and I would spend some time with my friends on it. It is really a good way to forget, because when you do sports, you relax yourself.3.Keep in touch with my families and friends. Tai point out 3 “M”s, which aremagnifying, minimizing and making up. I just start to realize that I just have magnified my problems. I have neglected the fact that there are so many people standing behind me. Breaking up, it is so small a thing; I can live a happier life without him. What should I do is to pay more attention to my friends, my families.Only with them all can my live be richer.4.Peak experience.Change is so hard, and gradual change is so slow. SometimesI felt that I had tried so hard but I was still obsessed with it. Sometimes, I was stillanxious and down. So I also tried to do some peak activities. I went to theFenghuang Harbor with some friends and joined in some exciting activities, whichI never tried before. After the trip, I felt that in face of losing life, break-up isreally really a small thing in man’s whole life. So why I waste my time being so sad?Now, I am happier than before, and I have really got rid of it from my mind. I have my own life: treasure my friends, be happy with my family, and be hard on my study. I choose to forgive, because there are also some happy things when we were together. I am trying to be a benefit finder instead of a fault finder.Anyway, say thanksThe examination week is around the corner, everyone is busy preparing for the exam. However, I was really unhappy with my roommates---they are so hard-working that they went to bed later as night. As a result, Insomnia accompanied me. I became really anxious because I couldn’t sleep well with the lights on and with their noises. I kept my temper and didn’t say anything. At last, I almost couldn’t stand it anymore and lost my temper.I didn’t even say a word to them. It lasted for a few days. Until one day, when I thought of appreciation, I began to feel remorse. Why didn’t I say “thanks” to them when they helped me? Instead, when they unconsciously affected me, I say bad words to them. I fail to appreciate because I have taken things for granted. When they give me an apple, I take it for granted. When they walk into the dormitory quietly, I take it for granted. I just see the bad things and ignore the good things---it’s so bad!So I said to myself: “You should start to appreciate instead of complaining.” The next night after I went to bed, I realized that they become quiet when they turn on the tap---they did make some changes! I really feel gratitude. The next morning, I said “thanks” to them, and I know they also feel sorry for affecting me.Tal said: “what appreciation does is in essence create a growth spiral.” We are now become more harmonious than before. I have my own understanding of appreciation:1.W e shouldn’t take good things for granted. No one has the obligation tobe care about you. So, appreciate it.2.Care about details. Some things may be small but need our appreciation.So we should find it and appreciate it.3.Understanding.Do unto others what you would onto yourself. I maysometimes influence my roo mmates also, so I shouldn’t be too strict tothem.4.Say “thanks”. If you feel gratitude, just say it. Then the others will feel itand be happy. It is really good to say “thanks”.Conclusion:Happiness is my aim of life. On the way to the pursuit of happiness, I have changed a lot. I become self-disciplined when in the changing process. I learned to appreciate. Appreciation is really good---not only for me, but also for the others. I am on the way of changing from a fault finder to a benefit finder. I am happy for this. But I still have a long way to go. But I do believe I can achieve it. Just as Napoleon Hill said:“Whatever your mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”（1360 words）。