(情商课程)亲密之旅嘉言录

黄维仁博士佳言录Messages of Heart from Dr. Wei-Jen Huang
献给《亲密之旅》的天使们
——
因为您们，使我们有机会学习、成长并开始全新的生活……
Helen & Grace
生命是一份来自上天的特殊礼物
永远值得我们好好珍惜
Life is a precious gift from Heaven……
worthy of tender loving care
人最可贵的是——
有一颗谦卑
愿意学习的心Ranking high among the
virtues-
is a humble and eachable
heart
一颗受了伤，还愿意不断去学习、
不断去爱、不断寻求医治的心
是一颗最美的心
The most beautiful heart, is a heart that in spite of being hurt, still keep on learning, loving and growing.
爱就是彼此珍惜
To love is to Cherish Each Other
倾听就是爱，了解中有医治
Listening is Loving, There’s Healing in Empathy
只有当一个人感受到爱的时候
他才会努力超越自己
去做发自内心的有持久性的改变
Only when a person feel loved, from his heart
he will seek the real, thorough, and permanent positive change.
当我们愿意去爱，去标明别人的
善意和长处时
就看见了上帝慈爱的面容
When we are willing to love, to highlight other people’s good intention and efforts, we will see the smiling face of the loving God.
我们可以让别人变成天使
也可以让别人变成恶魔
We have the power to bring out either the best
or the worst in others
爱是投其所好，而非——
给己所要
To love to is give others what they need,
but not to impose what I need onto them.
当我们没有感受到爱时，
并不代表别人没有试着爱我们;
When we don’t feel loved, do not draw the wrong conclusion that others have not tried to love us
当我们觉得受伤时，并不等于
别人故意要伤害我们
When we feel hurt, it does not mean that others have done it on purpose
天下人间最难
发展出的能力是
看事情的角度和观点
The most difficult ability to develop, is to perceive the world and people from multiple angles and a loving heart.
了解冲突，寻求双赢
Understand the underlying cause of conflict,
strife for win-win resolution
学习成为不断
标明别人长处和善意的
高手
Learning to become an
expert in highlighting
other people’s good
intention,
virtues and strength
解决伤害和愤怒
最好的办法是——饶恕
The most effective way to heal our emotional wounds is
….. Forgiveness
为爱点燃一盏灯……Light up a Lamp of Love
看透不点透……Perceive but do not expose
先解决心情
再解决事情Problem discussion before problem solving; Soothing Emotion before managing Issues
学习为自己的
幸福快乐
负责
Learn to take responsibility for our own happiness
自认倒霉，接受现实
自求多福，反败为胜
Acknowledge our fate and situation,
but never give up in changing it for the good
学习用成人的眼光
重新去检视
过去的一些事件和情绪
Re-examine events in our past, view them from the mature
perspective of an adult
伤痛+怪罪=四大杀手
Pain + Blame = 4 relationship killers
伤痛-怪罪= 亲密关系
Pain -Blame = Intimae Relationship
一个人可以给别人最珍贵的礼物——
是他内心深处真正的想法和感受
The most precious gift that a man can offer
Is the honest sharing of his innermost thoughts and feelings
让我们以尊重、鼓励、了解、珍惜、保密的
心态来领受
Let’s receive it with a empathic and cherishing heart;
Encourage and keep it
confidential.
一个真正高质量的亲密关系，
需要经过
误解、伤害、饶恕、修复
后才能建立起来Deep, Intimate Relationship are Established after Misunderstanding, Pain, Constant Restoration and Forgiveness.
为爱留一处空间
For the sake of LOVE, graciously give our loved ones some space
健康的爱是——
没有你我也可以活得很好
Healthy love is-I am fine even when you are not around me
有你我会更幸福
But with your presence, my joy is made complete
因为——
爱能遮掩一切过错
Because Love covers all sins。