《男人来自火星,女人来自金星》读后感(英语)
《男人来自火星,女人来自金星》读后感
《男人来自火星，女人来自金星》读后感今天给大家推荐的书籍是约翰格雷的《男人来自火星，女人来自金星》，全球累计销量1.4亿册，受欢迎程度直逼世界第一的《圣经》；被美国青少年男女公认为走向和谐恋爱、保持美满婚姻关系的唯一圣经权威指南。
推荐大家阅读这本书，并不代表要全盘接受书中的思想，东西方文化之间存在着巨大的差异，理解每一本外国书籍所表达的思想，首先要解决的是水土不服的问题。
即使作者是世界著名的情感大师，书中的某些观点放在中国当下，肯定会有出入，但是我们完全可以把它当作一本大众心理自助书籍，阅读它的目的是提供一个审视两性关系的角度。
承认两性差异，理解和包容对方的不同，掌握有效的沟通方法，最终找到一个和而不同、互相理解、相互尊重、和谐相处的法则。
看到这里，读者一定以为我接下来会写两性要如何相处，但并不是。
看这本书我只是承认两性之间的差异，但并不认为两性之间的相处需要这么复杂的原理。
真正相爱的两个人，灵魂上应该是高度切合的，还有一个原因是，即使道理我们都懂，但却依然过不好这一生。
所以，接下来我要表达的是既然差异已经存在，而我们又无法改变对方的时候，我们应该怎么面对两性关系。
作者约翰格雷在书中提出男人和女人来自不同的星球，生理和心理上都是大不相同的，男人来自火星，重视能力、效率及成就。
女人来自金星，重视爱、沟通与关系，更感性。
从这本书的理论知识切入生活，从女性的视角聊聊大学里我所知道的两性关系。
大学里的性教育相比较义务教育阶段，确实开放了很多，最起码这个群体不会谈性色变。
我问过身边的女性朋友，谈到性，你首先想到的是什么？有人说是激情、浪漫、荷尔蒙、快乐；也有人回答是恐惧、强迫、怀孕、性病。
我从小到大受到的性教育中，从来没有人告诉过我性本身是美好的，大学也一样，大多是反性骚扰的教育；也没有人告诉我，性骚扰不仅仅只是触摸了敏感的部位，任何让人不舒服的触摸其实都是性骚扰；更没有人告诉我，性骚扰侵犯的是我的身体权，而不是所谓的贞操。
男人来自火星女人来自金星读书分享
从此，男人和女人陷入了矛盾和冲突 ...
本书主题
主 题
通过了解男人和女人彼此沟通风
格和情感需求的差异性，提出改善
爱的给予方式 取悦彼此方式
沉默 物质 善用感激
倾诉
物质+精神
关心+信任
解决办法
宽容对方，调整自己
释放消极情感——给自己写情书
我的观点
•Mars and Venus Together Forever (Harper Perennial 1996年)
•Mars and Venus In Love (HarperCollins 1996年) •Mars and Venus On a Date (Harper Collins 1997年) •Mars and Venus Starting Over (HarperCollins 1998年) •Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus Book of Days (HarperCollins 1998年) •How To Get What You Want and Want What You Have (HarperCollins 1999年) •Children Are from Heaven (HarperCollins 1999年) •Practical Miracles for Mars and Venus (HarperCollins 2000年) •How To Get What You Want at Work (HarperCollins 2002年) •Truly Mars & Venus (HarperCollins 2003年) •The Mars & Venus Diet & Exercise Solution (St. Martin’s Press 2003年)
《男人来自火星,女人来自金星》读后感(英语)
Impression after Reading---Men Are from Mars, Women Are from VenusI am 22 years old. I have never had a boyfriend. If I am an American, people will think there must be something wrong with me. But fortunately, I am a Chinese. Nobody will laugh at me or think I am weird or something for I having never hanged out with a boy for almost 22 years. Well, I really do not know much about males and I even feel a little afraid when I am walking alone with a boy, especially a boy I like..This term, I bought a book with my curiosity. It is a best-selling book in America. The name of the book is Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. The author is John Gray, Ph.D. He is an internationally recognized expert in the fields of communications and relationships. There was one sentence on the cover that caught my eyes: The classic guide to understand the opposite sex. I think that is the reason that I bought it----getting to know boys.The beginning of the book is quite imaginary. Suppose that men are from Mars and women are from Venus. One day long ago the Martians, looking through their telescopes, discovered the Venusians. Just glimpsing the Venusians awakened feelings they had never known. They fell in love and quickly invented space travel and flew to Venus. Well, you may doubt how they can fall in love with each other and how they will get along well with each other.In this book, we can not only understand the opposite sex, but also know how to establish a harmonious relationship with the opposite sex. There are several things that the author explores: how men’s and women’s values are inherently different and try to understand the two biggest mistakes we make in relating to the opposite sex; the different ways men and women cope with stress; how to motivate the opposite sex; how men and women have different needs for intimacy; how to avoid painful arguments; the ways to communicate with each other during difficult times; the four seasons of love.With discovering so many things, I think what I learn from the book is not just the opposite sex, love, and marriage, but more about human beings minds. In other words, it is like a psychological book, teaching us how to act and how to understand others’ acts. It is a kind of reflection. It happens in everyone, not just in the opposite sex. As long as we know each others’ thoughts, we can understand each other better,as the human nature’s point of view.There are obvious differences between men and women. Men gain self-satisfaction through proving their power and ability. To offer a man unsolicited advice is to presume that he does not know what to do or that he can not do it on his own. People say men are always more sensitive than women, it is true to some degree. When men are faced with a problem, they will try to find a solution rather than just talking about the problems like women. In daily life, they pay more attention to “object s” and “things” rather than people and feelings. And especially when they feel needed, they can also feel great happiness. I always wondered that why it seems that in a romantic relationship, men often give more than women do. The reason seems to be apparent now, it is b ecause when a man’s girlfriend or wife needs him, he is eager to help her and meet her needs, which will give him a sense of achievements. Therefore, when you have a boyfriend, do not always do things on your own or reject his help, which can help to keep a good relationship. Just like the author said,” Men are motivated and empowered when they feel needed.”Well, the description of the life on Venus is quite true in the real world. Women are more interested in communication, beauty and relationship. I think I am the person like that. The same will be true to most of girls. We do not usually talking about politics, sports or economy and we like to share things with others and chat with others about our emotions, life or the people around us. In the book, the author also mentions that when women are faced with a problem, they like to talk every detail of it because they may feel better after talking them out. Well, I think I am a little different on this point. I prefer to find a way to solve my problems instead of complaining or talking. What’s more, I won’t feel better if I just talk about it, I need to solve it. It may like the way that men use. But if I have a boyfriend, first I will tell him about my problem, then we can find solutions together to solve the problems. That is the way I like.Of course, there are still many other differences. But the most important thing for us to do is not to focus on the difference, but learn how to accept and interpret them. I think it is also vital to build a happy marriage. When a man and a woman from two planets live together, it is not easy to maintain the happiness all the time. The different habits, languages and reactions toward things will all be obstacles. Sometimes, each of them may have an incorrect belief. A woman is vulnerable when she feels she does not deserve to be loved, be cared for or be cherished. For women, being disappointed, abandoned or ignored is especially painful. In order to compensate for thisfundamental fear, they give and give, but deep inside they do not feel worthy of receiving. While men hold an incorrect belief that they are afraid of not being good enough, they are not competent enough to give what women want. So it is just as women are afraid of receiving and men are afraid of giving. On this topic, I must say I also feel the same way sometimes. I do not know whether boys will feel like that, but I am sure I do. Precisely, it is not just constrained between male and female, this feeling happens in daily life at any time about all the people around me. I always try my best to be a good, so I try to help, to forgive, and to give. I hope what I do can be recognized by others and gain their love, care or attention. But sometimes, things work the other way around. What I mostly can not accept is being ignored. Getting hurt is inevitable and I do not want to give up being a good person even though I have a great disappointment in my heart. In other words, I do not help others that because hoping others’ return or I even think I do not deserve to get good returns, just because I want to be a good human being who being good to her partners.To be honest, I can get happy when being good to others, loving them and giving more. Since love has the magical power to make people happy, strong and unified, to preserve the sweet love between men and women seems quite important, especially when they get married.Basically, we need to know what he or she is saying, because men and women speak different languages. Here are some examples in the book. “I am so tired, I can’t do anything” translated into Martian means “I have been doing so much today, I really need a rest before I can do anything more. I am so lucky to have your support. Would you give me a hug and reassure me that I am doing a good job and that I deserve a rest?” Without this translation, when a woman say “I am so tired, I can’t do anything.” a man may hear “I do everything and you do nothing. You should do more.I can’t do it all. I feel so hopeless. I want a‘real man’to live with. Picking you was a big mistake.”“This house is always mess” translated into Martian means “Today I feel like relaxing, but the house is so messy. I am frustrated and I need a rest. I hope you don’t expect me to clean it all up. Would you agree with me that it is a mess and then offer help to clean up part of it?” Without this translation, a man may hear “This house is a mess because of you. I do possible to clean it up, and before I have finished, you have messed it up again. You are a lazy slob and I do not want to live with you unless you change. Clean up or clean out!”Looking at the examples, I begin to think about my parents. It is kind of similar, but my parents’ situation is worse than that. If my mother says the house is messy, myfather would say it is your responsibility to clean it up, not mine, it is not useful to tell me about this fact. Oh, my god! I hate it when my father says that. What a kind of masculinism! Sometimes I really think there is no way for the opposite sex can understand you completely, and you may get enraged about it. But we still need to work out some ways to get close to understand each other. That is why the book is so famous because people are seeking for solutions in order to avoid pain.In addition to the different languages, habits and behaviors can also matter. A woman can tell a man she doesn’t like the way he dresses and ask him if he can change something. But if he is sensitive about this comment, she should apologize and say “I am sorry, I didn’t mean to tell you how to dress.” If she doesn’t like his table manner, she can not just say it in front of people, what she should do is to wait for a time when no one else is around and then share her feelings. Don’t tell him how he should behave or that he is wrong, instead share honest feelings in a loving and brief way.What’s more, men and women use different ways to cope with stress. Women like to talk while men like to keep silent and go to their cave. When a man goes into a cave, he is saying “I need some time to think about this, please stop talking to me”. He may not realize that a woman may hear “I don’t love you, I can’t stand to listen to you, I am leaving and I am never coming back.” In order to reassure a woman that he does n’t mean this, he should say like this “I need some time to think about this, I will be back” or “I need some time to be alone, I will be back”. “I will be back”, these simple words are appreciated by a woman and she feels still being loved. So she will feel relief to let him be alone for a while. That is the right way that makes a woman to understand a man’s cave.What I can tell from above is that men are always expecting a gentle way from women and women are always expecting an assured way. When misunderstandings arise, remember that we speak different languages; take the time necessary to translate what your partner really means or wants to say. This takes practice.After so much discussion about the differences between men and women, it can be concluded that women need caring and men need trust; women need understanding and men need acceptance; women need respect and men need appreciation; women need devotion and men need admiration; women need validation and men need approval; women need reassurance and men need encouragement. Different needs require different understandings. We all know that love has four seasons. In spring, people fall in love. Love seems eternal. It is a magic time. In summer, it is a time forrealizing. We realize that out partner is not so perfect. We become frustrated and disappointed. In autumn, it is a golden time----rich and fulfilling. We experience a more mature love that accepts and understands each other’s imperfections. In winter, it is a time that painful feelings emerge and it is a time of reflection, healing and renewal. After the cold winter journey, we are then able to open hearts and feel the springtime of love.This book is not only talking about love, the opposite sex, marriage, it is also talking about understanding, human nature and relationship. Whenever you walk in one’s life, you can not just walk away after you check it up. Accept the differences between you, and try to understand them and make you closer. When you have a good time, open your heart to enjoy it; when you have a bad time, try to find a way to heal it. We don’t need to find out whether love is eternal or not, we just need to find a good way to protect it, improve it, and feel it.。
男人来自火星女人来自金星读后感
男人来自火星女人来自金星读后感男人来自火星女人来自金星读后感这本书我可以说是“久仰大名”，终于有缘一见，哈哈。
厚厚的一本书，其实精华在前言。
老话说的好“男女有别”，这四个字可以说是这本书的最简单的概括。
厚厚的一本书也就是对这四个字做了全方位的解释。
而我深刻的感受可以说是在男女感情问题上‘知己知彼百战百胜“。
由于男人和女人生理结构不同、大脑结构不同、潜藏的基因历史遗留不同，一系列的不同导致男人和女人不同的情感需求，不同的思维，交流方式，因为这些差异的存在，使得男人和女人好像来自两个星球一样。
而《男人来自火星，女人来自金星》可以说是对与男人和女人关系的全景解析，想让自己获得意中人的心，以及好好经营自己的婚姻的话，都应该好好看看这本书。
全书共分了十五章，可以挑选着来看。
可以从目录来选自己喜欢的章节，比如我一开始看的是十一章”让婚姻的纽带更坚实——火星人和金星人的婚姻对话“。
第二节”什么样的女人最好命“。
这一节中最认可最后两点”好性格造就女人的好命运”，什么是好性格呢？“对于一个人来说，拥有诸如坚韧、勇敢、冷静、理智、独立等性格，无疑就等同于拥有了一笔巨大的财富。
坚韧会让你在困难面前永不低头，勇敢则让你能够面对一切挫折，冷静和理智会让你永远保持清醒，独立则会让你不受他人的摆布。
”另一点是“会说话的女人一生幸福”，引用一段话“对于一个女人来说，漂亮的脸蛋、姣好的身材、脱俗的气质等是让她们魅力十足的先决条件。
可是，如果一个女人满口脏话、出言不逊的话，恐怕也不会得到别人的喜欢。
女人的命运好坏，与会不会说话有着很大的关系。
因为说话可以帮女人建立和谐的.人际关系，也可以破坏女人的人际关系。
会不会说话，不仅决定了女人人际关系的好坏，也决定了女人感情和婚姻的品质以及一生的幸福。
这两段话我是最应该学习的，也是一直在改变的。
这么多年来，觉得会不会说话确实是很重要的！其实男人嘛，只要掌握一个原则去和他说话就绝对不会错。
”男人是要靠哄的。
《男人来自火星,女人来自金星》读后感
读《男人来自火星，女人来自金星》有感国际知名的人际关系和情感问题研究专家约翰·格雷用了整整7年时间，咨询调查了25000人，推出了《男人来自火星，女人来自金星》。
该书一经出版，立刻轰动世界，被誉为是迄今为止世界上最著名的两性情感关系图书。
《男人来自火星，女人来自金星》这本书是获得与异性完美关系的最佳指南，是一本有价值、非常有必要的读物，它对理解男人和女人的沟通是一个突出的贡献。
呈献给中国各年龄层男女读者面前的这本书，是一本有助于完善夫妻关系、保持美满婚姻，使夫妻结伴走完人生旅途的通俗性的心理自助读物。
全书共十三章，作者以男女来自不同的星球这一新鲜、生动、形象的比喻作为他的全部实践活动的理论支撑点:即男人和女人无论是在生理上还是心理上，无论是在语言上还是在情感上，都是大不相同的。
这一比喻贯穿着他的整本书，并冠以书名之中。
男女两性之间，永远存在这样或那样的差异，这要求我们在两性关系中我们要变得宽容和体贴。
宽容、体贴，可以帮助我们相互理解对方，同时宽容和体贴也是人生最大的财富，是上帝赋予你的弥足珍贵的礼物。
当今社会，有各种各样的压力，每个人都希望在自己空闲的时间享受伴侣带来的温馨、浪漫。
尤其是在压力越大的时候，愿望就越强。
如今离婚率的不断攀升，很大一个原因就是我们不了解两性之间的差异，造成了误会，然后产生了三观不一致的错觉。
当我们读完这本书，了解了彼此的差异，就可以很好的换位思考，宽容、体谅对方，在两性关系中形成良性循环，让情感生活拥有无限美好的未来。
读完这本书，可以让人掌握异性的语言，快速了解彼此的差异。
每一次阅读，都会给人带来轻松愉悦；每一次阅读，都可以点燃伴侣之间爱的火焰；每一次阅读，都可以使人明白：爱是理解、给予和宽容。
男人来自火星,女人来自金星 读后感
一、面对压力女人最看重的不是问题的本身，而是由它带来的烦躁情绪和感觉，一旦有了问题，她们最希望找到自己很信任，能给她们安全感的人，和他（她）谈论问题，她们从谈论的过程中得到满足，很多时候甚至会无逻辑的从一件事情跳到另外一件事情上，只要是情绪上有关联的事情，她们不会在意事件本身之间的逻辑关系。
除非她们很认真的问我该怎么办，否则谈话的目的不是为了寻求解决方法，而是寻求一种被理解，被疼爱。
只要她们情绪上转化过来了，那问题的本身就不重要了。
所以当一个女人情绪处于谷底的时候，你只需要认真的倾听就好了，告诉她你明白她的感受，抱一抱，告诉她不用担心有你呢。
等她情绪好转，那一切就抖没事了。
男人通过解决问题获得满足，他们遇到问题习惯把自己孤立起来，然后focus on 所遇到的问题，这段时间他们对其他事情漠不关心，甚至排斥，直到他们将问题解决了，他们才会重新回到你身边。
女人会觉得有问题你要和我沟通才是，反而这么疏远，是不是不爱我了。
其实这时女人要试着理解，这是我们之间的不同，如果他们没有寻求帮助，就不要去打扰，这是他们的处事方式，女人给予男人充分的信任和空间。
二、关于需求女人渴望被疼爱，男人渴望被需要。
最初的爱的吸引也是来自于此，女人享受被关怀，而男人乐意去给女人保护，这是一种契合。
男人的本质是自私的，之前只要自己赢，可一旦他迷恋上一个女人，他的目标就是双赢，能给自己心爱的女人带来保护和快乐是他最享受的事情。
但要是这个女人让他感觉到无用，挫败，他又会回到自私的状态，不被需要是男人爱情的慢性毒药。
所以女人要做的不是去好好照顾你的男人，而是过好自己的快乐生活，保持捉摸不透的魅力，再偶尔撒娇着告诉他，我需要你。
三、付出与给予女人天性喜欢照顾人，她们会用不停的付出表达爱，她们期待男人明白她们的付出，并得到应有的回报。
而男人天性自私，而且女人过多的照顾反而会使他们觉得女人自己很能干，不需要被照顾，慢慢的他付出的就会越来越少。
《男人来自火星，女人来自金星》读后感
《男人来自火星，女人来自金星》读后感不管是正在热恋的情人，还是共同生活的夫妻，对于男女之间应该如何融洽的相处都是一门深奥的学问。
以前很多年，我都认为这是一门不需要探讨的学科，因为放眼望去，几乎所有人都好像是无师自通，大多数的朋友，都没有专门去学习这方面的知识，没有阅读这方面的书籍，只需要在实践中总结一些经验，就成功的恋爱并且结婚了。
这让我以为这件事是一件很随性、自然的事情，只要真诚对待，就都能顺利成功。
最近读了一本书，叫《男人来自火星，女人来自金星》。
让我们对这个问题，又有了更深层的理解。
我突然想到，那些经过恋爱并且结婚的人，未必都是深谙此道。
当然其中有些确实是经历了种种波折，历经磨难，最后走到一起的。
但是还有一大部分人是在对的时间遇到了对的人，所以他们不需要充分的掌握这项技能，就已经达到了融洽相处的效果。
虽然在日后的夫妻生活中，他们还会遇到这样或那样的问题，但是生活都是有惯性的，对于已经步入婚姻殿堂的人，即使后期遇到了各种矛盾，夫妻双方还是会表现出极大的包容。
这不仅仅是因为目前大多数人们对于离婚这件事还是十分敬畏的，所以为了维持住婚姻的现状，男女双方都愿意为了这段婚姻不断的调整自己和包容对方。
还有一个重要原因，是人们都对现在所处的生活状态有一种安全感，因为现在的生活状态是你最熟悉的状态，如果一旦打破，就意味着要逼自己进入一个未知的新状态，所有人对未知的东西都有一种天生的恐惧感，大多数人会本能的抵触这种未知的选择。
所以即便是大多数人都是经历恋爱最后结婚的成功案例，但是这也并不代表大多数人就都学会了夫妻之间或者男女朋友之间的相处之道。
可能成功的原因有以下几种情况：也许是因为运气很好，一开始就遇到了最合适的对象，两人情投意合，太多的生活习惯和爱好都太吻合了，所以就很容易的产生了感情，经过一段相对平顺的情感经历最终结婚了。
也许是因为大家都是以结婚为目的的人，所以目标明确，两边都觉得自己的岁数已经不允许自己再有过多的选择，可以这么说，当两个都着急结婚的人去谈恋爱，那么成功率会非常高。
《男人来自火星 女人来自金星》读后感
《男人来自火星女人来自金星》读后感婚姻是人一生中最重要的部分之一。
为了爱而结合的两个人却往往因为爱而苦恼，其中的主要原因就是男人和女人对爱的表达方式是不一样的。
即使出于爱而发出的语言到了对方那里却有了不同的理解。
男人和女人天然的不同，就好像说着不同语言的种族一样，相同的一个发音却有着不同的理解。
关于这个在动物界有一个类似的例子，可以帮助我们理解为什么经常会发生误会，这是本文笔者想到的一个例子，书上并没有提到猫和狗这对天生的冤家，之所以他们总是有矛盾就是因为猫和狗的交流方式完全不同造成的。
当狗表示友好的时候会弓起身子摇动尾巴并向对方伸出爪子，而这恰恰是猫表示敌意的方式。
猫表示友好的方式是嗓子发出呼噜呼噜的声音并用舌头舔对方，这对于狗来说是敌意的表现。
这个天然的不同造成了猫狗之间麻烦不断。
有的时候夫妻之间的关系有点类似这种关系。
男人和女人也存在天然的不同，有许多矛盾也是可以认识并且避免的，这就是这本书眼光的独到之处。
作者打了一个很有趣的比喻，好像来自不同的星球一样，男人和女人说的语言虽然每个字都一样但是意思却不一样，而且不仅如此，碰见一件相容的事情，男人和女人的反应和认识也不一样。
这当然是因为男女天生的思维方式不同造成的，这个不同好像大家也都知道，没什么奇怪的。
但是具体起来或者说真正碰见男人和女人因为这些不同而发生矛盾的时候却没人能马上意识到这是我们来自不同的星球造成的，而只会向另外一些方面找原因，比如说认为爱情已经终结了或者对方的道德有问题，这种结论完全无益于夫妻双方感情的稳固和生活的幸福。
我们来看本书中一个经典的例子，譬如，玛丽这天回到家已精疲力尽，他想和丈夫分享她这天的感受。
她说：“工作太多了，我根本没有一点点私人时间。
”汤姆说：“你应该辞职，不必做得那么累，去找一些你喜欢做得。
”玛丽说：“可是我喜欢我的工作，只是他们过于期望我在短时间内改变一切事。
”汤姆说：“别听他们的，只要你能做的就好。
”玛丽说我正是这么做的。
男人来自火星 女人来自金星读后感
《男人来自火星女人来自金星》读后感男人来自火星，女人来自金星，他们深深相爱了……他们水乳交融、耳鬓厮磨，难分彼此，他们最终来到地球，建立了自己的家，从此以后幸福地生活在一起。
不不不，这是童话。
现实是什么呢，“柴米油盐”的琐事取代了爱情的卿卿我我，埋怨和指责代替了甜言蜜语。
于是乎，许多人就认为“婚姻是爱情的坟墓”。
我也是许多人中的其中一人。
其实，爱情无定式，婚姻有秘籍。
这是我看了《男人来自火星女人来自金星》最深刻的体悟。
“只有尊重和包容彼此之间的差异，爱情女神才会翩翩而至，才会永远地眷顾他们“。
一一这就是书中说到的婚姻的秘籍吧。
谁曾想，我们都是“思想的巨人、行动的矮子:在我们步入婚姻殿堂的那一刻，我们都曾盟誓要“执子之手与子偕老生活中，我们忘记了曾经的誓言。
那个婚前整天围着你转的王子开始变得粗鲁无礼，甚至连买个东西，接送孩子的事情都做不好，你还指望他能将你救出恶龙的城堡，因此，女人对男人的崇拜荡然无存，更别说尊重了。
那个小鸟依人、浅笑低眉的公主开始变得对你指手划脚，蛮横霸道，男人开始怀疑当初救下的公主是在无病呻吟，顿时失去了包容之心。
为什么要尊重和包容彼此呢？作者约翰•格雷在书中进行了详细的分析。
因为男人和女人来自不同的星球，所以他们有差异。
在应对压力的时候，男人躲进“洞穴”、女人滔滔不绝；在表达情感的时候，男人就像橡皮筋，女人就像波浪线……正因为有差异，他们才互相吸引；正因为有差异，他们又互相不理解。
但因为我们心中有爱，所以我们要尊重和包容彼此，可能我国古代所说的“举案齐眉”就是这个道理吧。
怎样尊重和包容彼此呢？作者运用了大量的篇幅在书中进行了论述。
“要学会激励你的异性公民”、“如何避免争吵”、“如何沟通负面情绪”等等。
归纳为一点，我认为，要经营好婚姻，营造出温馨家庭，就是要在家庭生活中积极传播正能量。
构建家庭和谐，就要避免负面情绪每个人都有压力，面对压力，男人和女人的处理方式不一样。
男人往往躲进“洞穴”疗伤，女人一直喋喋不休宣泄。
男人来自火星女人来自金星读后感
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男人来自火星女人来自金星读后感（一）陈辉此书被誉为“关于两性情感关系最著名的作品”，作者是约翰·格雷，心理学博士，国际知名人际关系和情感问题研究专家。
作者在咨询调查了25000人后，用整整7年的时间，提出了一个形象有趣的“火星与金星理论”，点出了两性关系的本质：男人来自火星，女人来自金星，他们天生不同。
约翰·格雷认为，男女来自不同的星球，他们的思维模式、行为模式天然不同，要维持和谐的婚姻关系，你必须找到合适的沟通方式。
男人和女人的思维模式、行为模式存在什么本质的区别呢？火星人的‘洞穴机制’。
来自火星的男人习惯于单打独斗，坚持自力更生，不到万不得已的时候，绝不会向其他人寻求帮助。
金星人的语言，更重要的作用是表达情感。
女人是天生的修辞家，尤其擅长运用各种夸张、隐喻和归纳的手法，来抒发心中的所思所想，其实更多地是在抒发情绪。
·我想大多数男同胞都会有这种体会吧，如果从字面意义上去理解老婆说的话，特别当老婆说某某东西不会用呀，问你这个怎么弄呀时,你如果傻到还坐在沙发上就直接告诉她该怎么怎么弄，那你往往会‘死’得很惨！这个时候你需要反思，试着去理解她话语背后隐藏的含义，也许她只是想和你一起去做这件事情了，你得满足老婆的情感需求。
火星上的语言是用来传递信息、表述事实的；而金星上，语言更重要的作用是表达感情。
男人满足女人情感需求的首要法则是倾听，这是进行有效沟通的前提。
当男人女人在吵架时，他们是在吵什么呢？我们越是太看重和在乎对方，就越是不能体谅对方的消极情绪，越是不能客观地接受对方的观点。
对于男人而言，当他感受到被人质疑时，他的注意力往往会集中到如何证明是正确的，完全忘记自己应该在表达时充满爱意了。
他的言语中就会少了关爱，尊重和安慰。
而女人恰恰十分反感和抵触这种缺乏爱意的表达方式。
《男人来自火星,女人来自金星》PPT 读书笔记
➢ 若没有这样翻译，当女人说： 「我们从来没出去过。」时， 男人可能会听成：「你没有做 你该做的事，多令人失望。我 们再也没有一起做些事了，因 为你懒惰、没情调、枯燥乏味 。」
➢ 男人的最大挑战之一是，女人在谈 论她的问题时，能够正确解读正确 含义及支持她；
➢ 女人的最大挑战是，男人不说话时 ，能够正确解读及支持他。女人最 容易误解沈默。
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如何支持正在洞穴中的男人
一、不要反对他想孤立的需求。 二、不要试图提供解答来帮助他解决他的问题。 三、不要以问他的感觉来试图教育他。 四、不要坐在洞穴边等待他出来。 五、别担心他，也不要对他表示抱歉。 六、做些可令你出自己快乐的事。
第六章
男人像橡皮筋
抽离是一种： 「我需要一些空间」或 「我需要独处」的感觉。
如何避免痛苦
男人会学到若他们老以为自己的做法是对的，会使女 人的感觉变得毫无价值；女人会学到他们如何不知不 觉地传送失望的讯息来代替她的不同意思，因而引发 男人的防卫。我们将解析争论并提供建立支持沟通的 许多实用建议。
在性生活中，性交疼痛无疑是会影响到夫妻之间的正常性生 活，严重的话甚至是会导致性欲低下，不愿意性生活的情况。 所以为了大家的健康着想，那么就应该注意如何避免性交疼 痛的发生。我们应该怎么避免性交痛呢 ?
下午： 13时～16时这是白天人们最活跃的时候。这时男 性仍然是兴奋的，到 16时他们对性的“应激状态”达到顶 点。而这时女性也倾向于与异性的接近与亲昵。到了 18时 无论男性还是女性其性欲似乎都要休息一下，而德国的性 学家发现在这时做些体育活动可对性机能有激发作用。
男人来自火星女人来自金星读后感英文
男人来自火星女人来自金星读后感英文English:After reading "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus" by John Gray, I gained a better understanding of the fundamental differences between men and women. The book highlights how men and women have distinct ways of thinking, communicating, and expressing their emotions. Gray's explanations about the Venusian and Martian qualities shed light on the reasons behind disagreements and misunderstandings in relationships. I found it intriguing how men tend to retreat to their "caves" when they need time alone or when they face difficulties, while women often seek support and connection during stressful situations. This insight has made me more empathetic towards both genders and has helped me improve my own relationships. Additionally, the book provided valuable advice on how to bridge the communication gap between men and women. By understanding each other's needs and learning to appreciate the opposite sex's perspective, couples can establish stronger connections and enhance their intimacy. Gray's use of relatable examples and practical suggestions made the bookengaging and easy to apply in real-life situations. Overall, "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus" reaffirms the importance of communication, understanding, and acceptance in creating harmonious relationships between men and women.中文翻译:阅读了约翰·格雷的《男人来自火星，女人来自金星》之后，我对男性和女性之间的基本差异有了更深入的了解。
男人来自火星女人来自金星读后感英文
男人来自火星女人来自金星读后感英文It is often said that men and women are fundamentally different in their thinking, behavior, and approach to life. This notion is explored in the bestselling book "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus" by John Gray. As a reader, I found the insights presented in this book to be both illuminating and thought-provoking.At the heart of the book's premise is the idea that men and women come from different psychological and emotional planets, so to speak. Gray argues that men tend to be more independent, action-oriented, and driven by a need to solve problems, while women are more relational, empathetic, and focused on nurturing connections. These core differences, he suggests, lead to misunderstandings and conflicts in romantic relationships and other areas of life.One of the key concepts explored in the book is the notion of "emotional bank accounts." Gray posits that men and women have different ways of depositing and withdrawing from these emotional accounts. For men, he suggests, the primary way of making deposits is through providing solutions and taking action, while for women,it's through expressing feelings and engaging in deeper communication. When these needs are not met, it can lead to resentment and distance in a relationship.Another important aspect of the book is its exploration of how men and women respond to stress and conflict. Gray argues that when men are under stress, they tend to withdraw and focus on solving problems on their own, while women are more likely to seek out emotional support and connection. This dynamic can often lead to misunderstandings, as the woman may interpret the man's withdrawal as a lack of care or interest, while the man may perceive the woman's need for emotional support as a demand for him to "fix" the problem.One of the most compelling aspects of "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus" is its practical advice for navigating these differences. Gray provides a number of strategies and techniques for improving communication, understanding, and empathy between the sexes. For example, he suggests that men should learn to listen more actively and ask questions to better understand their partner's perspective, while women should work on expressing their needs and feelings more directly.Additionally, the book explores the importance of "me time" and "we time" in relationships. Gray argues that men and women havedifferent needs when it comes to personal space and togetherness, and that understanding and accommodating these needs can be crucial for maintaining a healthy, balanced relationship.Overall, "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus" offers a compelling and insightful exploration of the fundamental differences between men and women. While some may find the book's binary approach to gender overly simplistic, it does provide a useful framework for understanding and navigating the complexities of male-female relationships.As a reader, I found the book to be both enlightening and practical. It has helped me to better understand the perspectives and needs of the opposite sex, and has given me tools for improving my own relationships and communication. I would recommend this book to anyone interested in gaining a deeper understanding of the dynamics between men and women.。
men are from mars , women are from venus读后感
men are from mars , women are from venus读后感摘要：1.引言：简要介绍《男人来自火星，女人来自金星》这本书及作者2.书中主要观点：阐述男女性别差异及沟通方式的不同3.书中的实用性：分析书中提供的解决性别沟通问题的方法和建议4.个人读后感悟：分享阅读过程中对男女性别认知的改变和启示5.结论：总结推荐这本书给那些希望改善人际关系和性别认知的读者正文：【引言】《男人来自火星，女人来自金星》这本书相信很多人都耳熟能详。
作者约翰·格雷通过生动的比喻，深入浅出地探讨了男女性别差异及沟通方式的不同，帮助无数读者解决了两性间的困惑和矛盾。
【书中主要观点】书中主张，由于生理、心理和社会环境的差异，男人和女人在沟通方式、情感需求和解决问题等方面存在本质区别。
例如，女人更倾向于倾诉，而男人更擅长解决问题。
这些差异往往导致双方在沟通过程中产生误解和矛盾。
【书中的实用性】约翰·格雷在书中为读者提供了一系列实用的方法和建议，以解决性别沟通问题。
例如，他建议男性要学会倾听女性的感受，而女性则应尊重男性的解决问题能力。
通过了解和接纳对方的差异，双方可以实现更好的沟通和理解。
此外，书中还提供了许多具体的案例和技巧，使读者能够在日常生活中更好地应对两性关系。
【个人读后感悟】阅读这本书的过程中，我对男女性别的认知得到了很大的改变。
我学会了尊重和理解对方的差异，不再试图改变对方，而是努力寻找双方的共同点。
这本书不仅让我认识到性别差异的存在，还教会了我如何应对这些差异，以实现更加和谐的两性关系。
【结论】总之，《男人来自火星，女人来自金星》这本书对于那些希望改善人际关系和性别认知的读者具有很高的参考价值。
通过了解和接纳对方的差异，我们可以更好地沟通、相处和成长。
2021年《男人来自火星女人来自金星》读后感
The right decision comes from the wisdom of everyone.整合汇编简单易用（页眉可删）2021年《男人来自火星女人来自金星》读后感2021年《男人来自火星女人来自金星》读后感1 这是一本很火的书，在图书馆偶然看到这本热销的书，带着兴趣借了。
在我的脑海里没有什么两性的概念，有同学一直说我的思想还是太单纯了，于是我觉得自己有必要从书中获取一点信息。
虽然自己对这本书充满了兴趣，读完还是花了两周时间。
这是一本可以说是恋爱技巧的书，书的作者是美国的约翰·格雷。
书中说恋爱一共要经过五个阶段“吸引、不确定、排他、亲密关系和订婚”。
经过作者的研究大部分恋爱成功的人都经历着这五个阶段，每个阶段发展的越好，最后的婚姻生活也将会更加令人满意，找到生命中灵魂伴侣的可能性就会越大。
在过程中可以根据进程选择退回或者前进，但是要循序渐进，不要一下子就跳跃进入下一个阶段。
接下来对于一些值得记录下来的空白知识做一个摘录：1、身体亲密接触的四种程度：如同棒球运动，进入第一垒，随意或无意的接触、亲吻、拥抱、抚摸。
进入第二垒，更为亲密的爱抚，刺激能唤起情欲的敏感地带，主要探索第一、二两个区域。
进入第三垒，是对生殖器官的抚摸，但不进行性爱。
包括触摸、抚弄和相互刺激彼此的全部敏感区域。
进入第四垒，是性爱。
人的身体有三个敏感的区域：第一区域是肩部以上，包括头和手；第二个区域是腰部以上；第三个区域是腰部以下。
PS：摘入这段文字的时候，我的内心觉得有些恶心，但有些东西除非我们真的杜绝了，不然还是提前了解的好。
2、魅力女性的特质：自信、善于接纳、积极响应；魅力男性的特质：自信、目标明确、责任感。
3、情感反应的四个要素：不同的兴趣爱好、互补的需求、成熟、共鸣就先摘入这么多吧，这本书带我走入一个不一样的世界，日后如果有需要是可以翻出来重读的，感觉还不错。
2021年《男人来自火星女人来自金星》读后感2 以前的我是从来不会碰这一类书籍的，尤其是在发现这本书作者是中国人以后。
《男人来自火星,女人来自金星》读后感
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《男人来自火星，女人来自金星》读后感
上次专门夜购图书《男人来自火星，女人来自金星》，想是好好读的，但人的惰性、惯性、习性还是体现出来了。
套句老话：书非借不能读也。
趁还有点时间，也算简单的“交代”一下吧。
熟话说：狗急了也上墙，人急了也咬狗。
我现在就算急了，在同事回来之前不管写得怎样，都要停笔，呵呵。
算是给自己的一个“加急件”吧。
关于书，确实没读。
就谈自己的“胡思乱想”吧。
从书名上看，火星上住的都是男人，贴切至极，因为火星人一直都是人类假象最近的外星人，有种高超的科技和大大的脑袋，还有巨大的眼睛，充满了智慧和探索的精神。
至于金星，应该是闪亮闪亮的意思吧，因为距太阳交近，所以看上去亮度很高，也正因为靠近太阳，它的条件也十分严苛，就像女性有着美丽的外表，其实她经历的苦难比男人要多很多吧。
下次，一定写读后感了，不管多少，呵呵，就此。
读《男人来自火星女人来自金星》有感
读《男人来自火星女人来自金星》有感读《男人来自火星女人来自金星》有感读完一本书以后，你心中有什么感想呢？何不静下心来写写读后感呢？但是读后感有什么要求呢？以下是小编为大家收集的读《男人来自火星女人来自金星》有感，仅供参考，希望能够帮助到大家。
实践证明以崇拜的眼光看书是行不通的，《男人来自火星女人来自金星》虽然有着良好的读者口碑，但感觉真的是因人而异，在拜读此书后，我个人感觉就是两个字：无用。
说他是情感类丛书，有说教的成分在，说他是心理类丛书，又觉得写得太过死板，不够专业，与其读他倒不如拜读西蒙波夫娃的《第二性》或者弗罗依德的《梦的解析》，这二者可称得上学术权威，而且读起来清爽通透，一气呵成。
与之相比，这部书则是明显的不靠岸，如若浮云，书中从男女的基因开始谈起，历经二者不同的童年、青年，直至婚姻和责任，看似明了，实则读若嚼蜡，许多内容都有从其他心理类和情感类丛书借鉴的成分，宛若一篇拼凑作品，观点俗套、简单，作为一部两性类丛书，让人感觉力道不足，说理浅显，观点雷同，和西方的一些两性书籍无法相提并论。
如果一定要说他的优点，那就是适合初入社会的学生来读，原因就一个：淡，底料不足，难堪重任。
对任何一个已入围城之人来说，此书明显不治愈，仅适合增长见识，丰富阅读。
仅就内容来说，其观点就有点过时，内容俗套，观点带毒，难以引人入胜，不适合排难解惑。
所谓的男女的不同，谈得有些封建落伍，落后时代，男女本就不同，不仅在身体构造上，在思想上也明显不同，光这人所共知的观点，作者就用了几章来论述，让人阅读时明显感到思想匮乏，支撑不足。
再有，在讲到两性性格时，作者的'观点更加武断，直接说明女性不足以支撑家庭，思想狭隘，不如男性更成熟更有责任感，这种一边倒的论点无疑暴露了作者偏见的传统思维，也直接将这部书写成了“女从书”，可谓思想单薄，缺乏时代共进性。
此外，此书在整体结构上的混乱也不得不提，通篇分两部，上部写人体差异和性格差异，下部写家庭责任和子女抚养，看似清晰，实则在描述上存在穿插不通，以一顶百的现象，众所周知，男女各不相同，没有完全一样的两对男女，可在作者看来，人都统一，不谈个性差异，而是一统而论，这样一来，使得书本身内容的可读性大为降低，一并混淆而论，难免有“混谈”的嫌疑，让人读时不禁哑然失色，大失所望。
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