论大人物与小人物

论大人物与小人物但凡一个家族、一个组织、一个集团、一个区域，必有大人物与小人物之分。

每个人都想从小人物变成大人物，每个大人物都想往更高的地方爬，层级的高低只是相对而没有绝对。

大人物掌舵，小人物划船；大人物一举一动牵动着团队势态发展，小人物的行为只能影响团队的局部范围。

大人物承担着更多的责任，小人物担负着更多的义务。

想成为大人物，决不是一朝一夕，也不是全凭关系，高超的政治手腕不是人人都能练就；能爬上去当然高兴，但更重要的是要能坐得稳。

对于大部分人来说，无论如何奋斗，终其一生也只能在社会的底层挣扎，做一个小人物，理想终究只能化作泡影。

这的确不公平，但也非常无奈；这不是努力不努力、有没有志气的问题，而是因为智力和运气只会恩宠少数人。

在通常情况下，小人物对大人物只有俯首贴耳、唯命是从，否则只有悲惨的下场；但大人物对小人物的态度可以温和、可以严厉、可以亲切、可以疏远、可以进行人身攻击、甚至可以有目的地把事情推到小人物身上去顶罪。

大人物看似居高临下，但做好大人物并不容易，他除了要镇得住手下，更重要的是他也有他的上级，也得应付过去。

小人物虽然劳碌，但一般情况相对安稳，不会遇到各方面的压力，只需要服从他的上级。

在一个集体内，大人物比小人物的经济状况通常会明显高出很多，大人物操劳的是应对四面八方的关系，小人物关心的是怎样提高自己的收入。

大人物的命运主要是由所处环境决定，小人物的命运却是由大人物来掌控；小人物遇到上面一个什么样的人，基本就在一定时间段内决定了自己的未来。

大人物与小人物的完全不对等关系，在三国时期张飞之死事件中表现得淋漓尽致。

我之前的观点一直是这样认为：张飞该死，一点都不冤枉，他完全是在自掘坟墓；范疆和张达行刺属于正当防卫，没有任何过错，他们被杀才是冤屈。

后来从更深的层面考虑，张飞之所以武功盖世，可以当上将军，根本原因是福报较大，更得上天宠幸，同时他承担的责任也更大；副将范疆和张达的行刺即使从情理上说得过去，但正是这种上下并不对等的关系，导致他们不管怎么做都是死路一条，倘若不行刺张飞而后被处决，后世对他们二人的评价也会更高一些。

普遍来看，大人物与小人物相处融洽的单位，内患会较少，发展也会更好一些；很难想象一个官兵不和的军队是怎么打仗的。

综上所述，从大人物的角度，理性的做法是对小人物稍加体恤，这样才能减少团队负面情绪利于整体作战；从小人物的角度，即使没有得到应有的理解与尊重，在受到冤屈之时也不应该过多埋怨大人物甚至针锋相对，能主动为团队分忧的人最终获取的机会会更多一些。

The thesis of VIP and NobodyIn every case, there exist VIP and nobody in a clan, or ganization, group or an area.Everyone desires to alter from a nobody to VIP, and eve ry VIP wishes to climb up to a higher rank, the high and lo w of hierarchy is relatively rather than absolution.A VIP steers a boat, a nobody rows. Every movement of a VIP affects the attitude development of the team, however the action of a nobody can only effect a part of the team.A VIP bears more responsibilities, while a nobody shoulder more duties. The process from a nobody to a VIP is not in o ne day or due to relationship completely. Exquisite politic al artifice can not be trained by everyone; the rise is no doubt joyful, sit steady is more important.For most people, regardless of struggle, can only floun der in the bottom of the society as a nobody, the ideal aft er all turn to bubble. That is really unfair but cannot hel p; the problem is not strive or not, ambition or not, the c ause is the fact intelligence and fortune may show special favor to little people.In general case, a nobody can only be obedient to a VIP , otherwise the outcome is miserable. A VIP may be mild, se vere, kind, alienate to a nobody, he may launch personal attack, even more, he may push a problem to a nobody purposef ully so as to liberate the charge himself.A VIP seems condescend, but the position is no easy to sit. He must dominate his subordinate, the more important t ask is the dealt to his superior.Although a nobody is toil, in general cases he is stabl e, may not encounter pressure from aspects, he needs to obe y his superior.In a group , the economic situation of a VIP can be muc h higher than a nobody. A VIP worries about the relationshi p to all directions, a nobody cares about how to enhance hi s revenue.The fate of a VIP is decided by the environment, while the fate of a nobody is controlled by a VIP. The VIP direct ly face to a nobody can affect his fate in a certain period .The completely unequal relationship of a VIP and nobody express reveal fully in the death of Zhangfei event in Thr ee Kingdom period. Previously, I consider Zhangfei was dese rved, he was excavate his grave; Fanjiang and Zhangda was j ustifiable defensing and had no fault, their deaths were re ally treat-unjustly.Later, consider in a more deep level. The reason why Zh angfei’s martial arts were uncompareble was that his reward was higer and got more favor. Meanwhile, his responsibilit y was greater; eventhough the action of Fanjiang and Zhangd a could be understanded.However, as the unequal leader-member relation, cause t he deaths Fanjiang and Zhangda were inevitable. If they did not assassinate Zhangfei and be executed by Zhangfei, the assessment to them would be high-priced.At large, in a unit VIPs and nobodies get along, the in ternal troubles may be fewer and the development may be bet ter. We could hardly imagine how to battle for a army the o fficers and soldiers were not get along well.Above all, from the angle of a VIP, the reasonable beha vior is to be more favor to a nobody so as to decrease the negative emotion; from the angle of a nobody, even in the s ituation not to be understanded an respected, should not co mplain his VIP even cause contradiction. A person share car es and burdens of a group more, the more opportunities he m ay get.。