TABLEMANNERS餐桌礼仪

BEFORE聚会前•Always respond to an invitation within a week of receiving it.在收到邀请的一周内回复。

•Dress according to the recommended dress code. NEVER attempt to "out dress" the hostess!根据建议的着装打扮。

穿着永远不要试图盖过女主人的光芒。

•Be punctual – you should not be late.守时-你不应该迟到•If you wish to bring a guest as your partner, etiquette demands that you should always check with the host first. However, if your family is invited, it is okay to ask if your children are included. Make sure your children know good table manners before they go and behave accordingly: no running around, no shouting. As the British used to say; Children should be seen, not heard! Their bad behavior will reflect on you.If you are the one hosting the party and a guest of yours arrives with an unexpected friend, be polite & courteous with them, and speak with your inconsiderate guest at another time!如果你希望携带另外一名客人作为你的同伴参与，礼节上你应该事先与主人家确定是否可行。

然而，如果受邀请的是你的家庭，可以询问是否包括你的孩子。

在你带孩子去参加聚会之前，要确保他们懂得并遵守良好的餐桌礼仪如下：不到处乱跑，不大喊大叫。

正如英国人常说：孩子应该是被看见的，而不是被听见的！他们作出的不良行为会反映到你身上。

如果你是举办聚会的主人，而你邀请的客人带了一个预期以外的朋友一起到来，保持礼貌地对待他们，然后再另找时间与你那位不顾及别人的客人讨论此事。

•It is considered polite to take along a small gift for your host and hostess. Flowers, chocolates or champagne are always appreciated. But do not expect your gift to be used during the meal. Most dinner parties have carefully planned menu items, and your gift may not go with the meal.比较有礼貌的做法是给主人家带上一个小礼物。

花、巧克力或者香槟这些作为礼物总是比较受欢迎的。

但是不要期望你的礼物能在用餐时就能被用上。

大部分晚餐聚会都已经提前细心计划好菜单项，所以你的礼物可能无法在席间用上。

Eating用餐Table manners were designed to keep people from scarfing food down like animals, so learn them before you eat with others. One of the most important things to keep in mind is that you should never call attention to yourself by blatantly breaking the rules set by society.餐桌礼仪的目的是让人类远离像动物一样狼吞虎咽，所以在你和别人一起用餐前要先把它学会。

需要牢记在心的最重要一点是，你永远不应该明目张胆地打破社会订立的规则从而使别人注意到你的行为。

Getting Started入门指南Some dinner parties are formal and have place cards where the host or hostess wants you to sit. If not, ask if there are seating preferences. Wait until the host sits before you do. In some cultures, a blessing will be said. Even if you don’t follow the beliefs of the prayer, show respect and be s ilent. If the host offers a toast, lift your glass. It is not necessary to “clink” someone else’s glass.有些晚餐聚会都是比较正式的，主人家都会为宾客的座位上准备席位卡。

如果没有，询问是否可以按个人座位喜好入座。

等主人家坐下后再入座。

在一些文化中，餐前会进行祷告。

即使你没有这些信仰，也要保持安静以示尊重。

如果主人家敬酒，举起你的杯子示意即可，没有必要去碰杯。

When to Eat何时进食If you are eating out, you should wait until all the members of your group have been served before picking up your fork. At a private dinner, observe the host or hostess and pick up your fork when heor she does. However, if you are at a buffet, you may start when there are others seated at your table.如果你们是外出就餐，你应该等到同行的人都已经得到服务以后再开始使用餐具。

在私人晚宴中，在主人家使用餐具后你方可使用你的餐具。

然而如果你们是去吃自助餐，当同桌的其他人全部入座后你就可以开始用餐。

Silverware镀银餐具One of the most common issues to confuse today’s diners is which utensil to use for each course. A typical rule of thumb is to start with the utensil that is farthest from your plate and work your way toward the center of your place setting. If you see the host or hostess doing something different, you may follow his or her lead.对于现今的用餐者而言最常见的疑问之一，就是到底哪一个餐具是对应用于哪一道菜。

规律通常是最先用的餐具放在离主菜盘最远的外侧，从外用到内。

如果你看见主人家使用餐具的顺序不一样，你可以跟随主人家的用法。

THE 10 Do's!10个必做Turn off your cell phone before sitting down. It is extremely rude to talk on your phone or text while in the company of others.在坐下前将手提电话关闭或调至静音。

当和别人在一起时打电话或者发信息是非常无礼的行为。

1.Once seated, unfold your napkin and use it for occasionally wiping your lips or fingers. Atthe end of dinner, leave the napkin tidily on the place setting.一旦入座就要展开你的餐巾并偶尔用于擦拭你的嘴唇或手指。

用餐完毕后，将用过的餐巾整齐地放回原处。

2.Keep your elbows off the table.不要把手肘搁在餐桌上。

3.Hold the knife and fork with the handles in the palm of the hand, forefinger on top, andthumb underneath.用手掌心控制刀叉，食指在上，大拇指在下。

4 Whilst eating, you may if you wish rest the knife and fork on either side of the plate betweenmouthfuls. When you have finished eating, place them side by side in the center of the plate.Use your utensils for eating, not gesturing. Eat slowly in order to finish at the sameapproximate time as the host or hostess用餐时，如果你中途需要放下刀叉，只需把刀叉放在盘子两边。

当你用餐完毕，则把刀叉并排放在盘子中间。

餐具只用于进食，不可用于打手势。

进食速度要放慢以便与主人家保持相近的用餐时间。

5Compliment the hostess if you like the food, but don’t voice your opinion if you don’t. If the food is not to your liking, it is polite to at least make some attempt to eat a small amount of it unless you are allergic to it.如果喜欢聚会的食物你可以称赞一下主人家，但是如果不喜欢也不要发表意见。