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Unit 4 Marriage
Part A
Pre-listening Task
Questions for Discussion
1.What do you think of marriage Do you think a happy marriage is the most important thing in
your life
2.What kind of person do you want to marry What are your standards in choosing a life
companion
3.What do you think is crucial for a happy marriage?
4.What usually causes troubles in a marriage?
5.Do you think differences between husband and wife are unavoidable If you do, could you
suggest some ways for them to deal with the problem
6.Have you heard of marriage agreements Do you think a couple should sign a marriage
agreement before getting married
Additional Question for Discussion
Do young men and young women have the same standards in choosing a spouse If not, why not
Language Focus
Here are some sentences and structures that you may find useful in discussing the above questions.
Both men and women consider marriage a very important part of their lives.
Most men would like their spouses to be young and beautiful. Others consider inner beauty more important.
When a woman chooses her spouse, she often puts emphasis on his character /
temperament / education / profession / income / appearance / family background.
Some young women today consider … of great importance in choosing a boyfriend / life companion.
Happiness in marriage does not depend on material wealth.
Marriages based on mutual love create a happy and harmonious atmosphere in the family.
Mutual respect and understanding between husband and wife contribute much to a happy marriage.
Education is an important condition for a good marriage because a couple whose
educational levels do not match may not have much to say to each other / have constant arguments over family issues, big or small.
A marriage based on romantic love alone will not necessarily last long, for a sense of
responsibility is also essential to a successful marriage.
I would marry someone who loves me and cares for me most.
I would marry someone who is generous / intelligent / ambitious / broad-minded /
considerate / good-looking / kind-hearted / humorous.
I wouldn’t like to marry someone who is too money-conscious / stingy / selfish / hot-
tempered / narrow-minded / rude / impolite / possessive.
Each individual is unique and differences between husband and wife are therefore
unavoidable / a rule rather than an exception.
It’s very important for husband and wife to show appreciation of each other / talk and get to know what his or her partner expects.
A marriage agreement sounds too practical / lacks romantic flavor / reduces marriage to
mere business.
I think a written marriage agreement shows how much you and your partner are going to
respect each other’s needs and expectations / promises a harmonious relationship in
married life.
Trouble starts in a marriage when one partner keeps complaining about small things,
making the other feel resentful.
Constantly criticizing your partner and his or her family gives rise to troubles in / may
destroy a marriage.
Lack of understanding / tolerance over differences may bring troubles to a marriage / cause
a marriage to fail.
Part B
Listening Tasks
Conversation 1
A Marriage Agreement (Part One)
Word Bank
outline v. to describe briefly with few details 概述
spouse n. a husband or wife 配偶
pet a. denoting a thing that one feels particularly strongly about 格外的，极其的
peeve n. sth. that annoys you 惹人生气的事物
bug v. (American slang) to annoy, to irritate 激怒
article n. a section of a legal agreement that deals with a particular point 协议的条款
pet peeve sth. that you strongly dislike because it always annoys you 格外惹人生气的事
Script:
(Tom and Linda have signed a marriage agreement. Both agree not to break the rules outlined in the agreement. John, a reporter, is talking to them about the agreement.)
John: Tom, Linda, first I’d like to ask you why you decided to write this unusual agreement. Tom: We found that many problems are caused when a person has different expectations from his or her spouse. We wanted to talk about everything openly and honestly before we
started living together.
Linda: Also we both know how important it is to respect each other’s pet peeves. Like, I can get very annoyed if others leave stuff — clothing, papers, everything! — lying around on the floor. It really bugged me, so we put that in the agreement.
John: This is mentioned in Article 1: Cleaning Up, isn’t it
It says, “Nothing will be left on the floor overnight. Everything must be cleaned up and put away before going to bed.”
Tom: Then I’ll know clearly what Linda’s expectations are.
John: I see. What about Article 2: Sleeping
It says, “We will go to bed at 11 . and get up at 6:30 . except on weekends.” I’m sure some people hearing this will think that this agreement isn’t very romantic.
Tom: Well, we disagree. We think it’s very romantic. This agreement shows that we sat down and talked, and really tried to understand the other person. A lot of problems occur in a marriage when people don’t talk about what they want.
Linda: That’s right. When we disagreed about something, we worked out a solution that was good for both of us. I would much rather have Tom really listen to me and understand my needs than give me a bunch of flowers or a box of candy.
Exercise 1
Listen to the conversation and choose the right answers to the questions you hear.
1. Which statement best summarizes the marriage agreement between Tom and Linda?
a. It is a set of rules that will restrict their personal freedom to a certain extent.
b. It is a set of rules that will enable them to live up to each other’s expectations.
c. It is a set of rules that will prevent them from getting a divorce.
d. It is a set of rules that will save their marriag
e.
2. According to Tom, what will give rise to problems in a marriage?
a. Different interests.
b. Different pet peeves.
c. Different expectations.
d. Different sleeping habits.
3. What can be inferred about Linda from the conversation?
a. She is sensible and well-organized.
b. She doesn’t like flowers or candy very much.
c. She is too practical to be a good wife.
d. She is quick-tempered and domineering.
Exercise 2
Listen to the conversation again and complete the answers to the following questions.
1. Why did Tom and Linda decide to sign the agreement?
Because they wanted to understand each other’s expectations so that potential problems could be avoided and they could live happily together.
2. What is Article 1 about?
Cleaning up. Everything must be cleaned up and put away before going to bed.
3. What is Article 2 about?
Sleeping. Time for bed: 11 .; time to get up: 6:30 . except on weekends.
Conversation 2
A Marriage Agreement (Part Two)
Word Bank
update v. to make sth. up-to-date 更新
make it up to become friends again after a quarrel 争吵后和解
figure out to work out the solution to a problem 想出
Script:
John: Linda, do you spend a lot of time checking to see if the other person is following the rules Arguing
Linda: No, not at all.
Tom: A lot of couples argue because they don’t understand each other’s expectations. I think we spend less time arguing than most couples because we both know what the other person expects.
John: What happens if one of you breaks a rule?
Tom: Well, that’s in Article 13 of our agreement.
John: Is it
Oh yes, Article 13: Breaking Rules. “If you break a rule, you must apologize and do something nice for the other person to make it up.”
Linda: Yeah, like last time Tom broke the rule of driving.
John: What’s the rule?
Linda: The rule is we must ask for directions if we are driving and get lost for more than five minutes.
John: What happened
Tom: We were driving to a friend’s wedding, and we got lost. Linda wanted to stop at a gas station to ask for directions, but I thought I could figure it out.
Linda: Then we drove forty miles in the wrong direction and ended up being late for the wedding. Tom: So I took her out to dinner. I knew what I should do to apologize.
John: That’s very important, I think, knowing how to apologize. By the way, do you plan to update your agreement at all
What if things change in your life and a rule doesn’t work anymore?
Linda: We’ve thought about that too. Article 14 states that we must review this agreement once
a year and make necessary changes.
John: Well, it was really nice talking to you both. Thank you very much for your time.
Tom & Linda: Thank you.
Exercise 1
Listen to the conversation and choose the right answers to the questions you hear.
1. How many articles are probably in Tom and Linda’s marriage agreement?
a. 12.
b. 13.
c. 14.
d. 15.
2. How do Tom and Linda feel about their marriage agreement?
a. Linda is not very happy with some of the articles in the agreement.
b. Tom thinks some of the articles in the agreement are too strict.
c. Both Tom and Linda are satisfied with it.
d. Both Tom and Linda are not satisfied with it and they want to make a lot of changes to it.
3. What will happen to their marriage agreement in a year’s time?
a. They will review the articles and make changes to update them.
b. They will sit down and write out a new agreement.
c. They will not make any changes to the agreement.
d. They will not need it anymore, as they are both familiar with its contents.
Exercise 2
Listen to the conversation again and complete the answers to the following questions.
is stated in the rule of driving?
It is stated that if they get lost for more than five minutes when they are driving, they must stop and ask for directions.
2. What is Article 13 about What does it say
Article 13 is about breaking rules. The article says, “If you break a rule, you must apologize and do something nice for the other person to make it up.”
3. What is Article 14 about What is stated in the agreement
It is about reviewing the contents of the agreement. It states that they must review this agreement once a year and make necessary changes.
Speaking Tasks
Pair Work
Debating — Arguments for or against giving first priority to economic status in choosing a
spouse
A Sample
Nowadays, some young people give first priority to economic status in choosing a spouse. Are you for or against this standard in choosing a spouse Express and defend your views from the perspectives given in the card below.
Possible Arguments (for reference)
From the perspective of a student (positive)
I think it is very natural for people to give first priority to economic status in choosing a spouse. We all know how important money is. Without money, we can hardly do anything. Lack of money in a marriage will cause problems to the couple. Even though the couple may have married for love, being always hard-pressed for money, love will soon be replaced by quarrels and endless worries over money matters. If this happens, can they live happily together So I think it is very important to first consider if your future spouse is able to share the responsibility of supporting a family. If not, just wait.
From the perspective of a social worker (negative)
Nowadays, some young people consider economic status the most important factor when they choose a spouse. They think money can bring everything they want, like a big apartment, a car, or a trip abroad. However, can these material things really ensure happiness I don’t think so.
A marriage based solely on material wealth will not necessarily be a happy one. Countless examples have shown that rich people often have unsuccessful marriages. A happy marriage is built on a deep love and affection between husband and wife, which cannot be bought by money.
Now use the above sample as your model and carry on similar activities with your partner.
Some Ideas for Reference
The Argument (positive)
1. A university degree is the first thing I’d consider when I choose my life companion. I think
two people with very different educational backgrounds would have problems in
communication.
2. A person with a university degree has been exposed to a wide range of knowledge / is well-
educated.
3.What great pleasure it is to spend your life with someone who can share your enjoyment of
music, art and literature, or discuss with you all sorts of subjects from the beauty of nature to aliens in outer space / new advances in science and technology.
4. A well-educated person tends to be more cultured, and more understanding, which will
ensure happiness in a marriage.
5. A well-educated person is more likely to have a good career.
6. A university degree is almost a must in the competitive job market nowadays. Therefore a
good educational background is key to a successful career, which will bring harmony and security to family life.
The Counter-argument (negative)
1.I don’t think a university degree is so important in choosing one’s life companion. Personality
is the first thing I would take into consideration when I choose a spouse.
2.To my mind, affection, honesty, generosity, kindness, sympathy, and courage are the
qualities I value more.
3.I think a person’s moral virtue is very important and it is not decided by the amount of
school education he or she has received.
4. A university degree does not necessarily bring happiness to a marriage. Mutual affection and
understanding are key to a happy marriage.
5. A person with a university degree is not necessarily well-educated. It depends on how much
effort she or he made while at college.
6.I believe in love / love at first sight. I’d like to marry the person I love, and together we can
pursue the dreams of our life.
7.I don’t think a university degree can ensure success in a career. Experience is sometimes
more important than formal education. As a matter of fact, many entrepreneurs in China haven’t even received secondary education. Their success actually relies on their unusual personality and opportunities available.
Part C
Test Your Listening
A Conversation
Listen to the conversation and choose the right answers to the questions you hear.
1.Which of the following is true of the woman’s husband?
2.
3.
a.He doesn’t share housework at home.
b.He doesn’t know how to put things in order.
c.He doesn’t care for his wife and children.
d.He’s lazy and rud
e.
4.What do you know about the woman?
a.She’s just got a jo
b.
b.She earns a lot of money.
c.She does most of the housework at home.
d.She has bad relations with her husband.
5.What does the man think of the woman’s complaints?
6.
7.
a.He thinks the woman’s husband is lazy and messy.
b.He doesn’t want to pass judgment on the woman’s husband.
c.He thinks the woman complains too much.
d.He thinks the woman should ask her husband to share the housework.
Script:
M: Ah, come in, Barbara. Take a seat. How have things been?
W: Oh, much the same. I still seem to have quarrels with my husband all the time. M: What do you quarrel about?
W: Oh, everything. You see, he never thinks of my feelings.
M: Go on.
W: Well, I’ll give you an example. You know, when the children started school, I wanted to go back to work again, too. So I got a job. Well anyway, by the time I’ve collected Gary and Lucy from school, I only get home about half an hour before he comes back …
M: Yes?
W: Well, when he gets home, he expects me to run around and get his tea. He never does anything in the house.
M: Mm.
W: And last Friday he invited three of his friends to come around for a drink. He didn’t tell me to expect them, and I’d had a long and difficult day. I don’t think that’s right, do you?
M: Well, I’m not here to pass judgment. I’m here to listen.
W: Sorry. And he’s so untidy. He’s worse than the kids. I always have to remind him to pick up his clothes. He just throws his clothes on the floor. After all, I’m not his servant. I’ve got my own career. Actually, I think that’s part of the trouble.
You see I earn as much money as he does.。