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脆弱的力量演讲稿

脆弱的力量演讲稿尊敬的听众朋友们：大家好！今天，我很荣幸站在这里，与大家分享一个关于“脆弱的力量”的话题。

在这个看似强大、实则充满不确定性的世界里，我们每个人都在努力寻求自己的定位和价值。

而脆弱，恰恰是我们在这个过程中不可避免的一种状态。

那么，脆弱究竟有没有力量？它又能带给我们什么启示呢？让我们一起探讨这个问题。

我们需要明确一个概念：什么是脆弱？脆弱，通常被认为是一种弱点、缺陷或不足。

然而，在心理学和哲学领域，脆弱也被视为一种勇敢、真实和诚实的态度。

正如法国哲学家萨特所说：“脆弱是一种美德。

”那么，脆弱的力量又从何而来呢？我想，脆弱的力量首先体现在我们面对困境时的勇气和决心。

生活中，每个人都会遇到挫折和困难，而这些挫折和困难往往会让我们显得脆弱。

但是，恰恰是在这个脆弱的时刻，我们才能够真正认识到自己的不足，从而激发出内心的力量。

这种力量，让我们敢于面对现实，敢于接受自己的不完美，敢于勇敢地迈出下一步。

脆弱的力量体现在我们与他人建立真诚关系的过程中。

在这个充满竞争的社会里，人们往往害怕暴露自己的脆弱，担心被他人嘲笑或利用。

然而，正是这种脆弱，让我们与他人建立起真挚的情感联系。

当我们敢于展示自己的脆弱时，我们也能够更好地理解和接纳他人，从而建立起更加紧密的人际关系。

再者，脆弱的力量体现在我们自我成长和变革的过程中。

在面对自己的脆弱时，我们才能够真正认识到自己的需求和渴望，进而激发内在的动力去追求成长和改变。

正如美国作家卡森·麦卡勒斯所说：“只有当我们承认自己的脆弱时，我们才能够找到真正的力量。

”这种力量，推动我们不断突破自己，成为更好的自己。

当然，脆弱的力量并非一帆风顺。

在展示脆弱的过程中，我们可能会遭受他人的误解、质疑甚至攻击。

然而，这并不意味着我们应该回避脆弱，相反，我们应该学会如何在脆弱中成长，如何在困境中寻找力量。

这需要我们具备一种重要的能力——自我调节和自我修复的能力。

如何才能拥有这种能力呢？我们需要学会接纳自己的脆弱。

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Ted 演讲稿脆弱的力量

Brene Brown：The power of vulnerabilitySo, I'll start with this: a couple years ago, an event planner called me because I was going to do a speaking event. And she called, and she said, "I'm really struggling with how to write about you on the little flier." And I thought, "Well, what's the struggle?" And she said, "Well, I saw you speak, and I'm going to call you a researcher, I think, but I'm afraid if I call you a researcher, no one will come, because they'll think you're boring and irrelevant." (Laughter)And I was like, "Okay." And she said, "But the thing I liked about your talk is you're a storyteller. So I think what I'll do is just call you a storyteller." And of course, the academic, insecure part of me was like, "You're going to call me a what?" And she said, "I'm going to call you a storyteller." And I was like, "Why not magic pixie?" (Laughter) I was like, "Let me think about this for a second." I tried to call deep on my courage. And I thought, you know, I am a storyteller. I'm a qualitative researcher. I collect stories; that's what I do. And maybe stories are just data with a soul. And maybe I'm just a storyteller. And so I said, "You know what? Why don't you just say I'm a researcher-storyteller." And she went, "Haha. There's no such thing."(Laughter) So I'm a researcher-storyteller, and I'm going to talk to you today -- we're talking about expanding perception -- and so I want to talk to you and tell some stories about a piece of my research thatfundamentally expanded my perception and really actually changed the way that I live and love and work and parent.And this is where my story starts. When I was a young researcher, doctoral student, my first year I had a research professor who said to us, "Here's the thing, if you cannot measure it, it does not exist." And I thought he was just sweet-talking me. I was like, "Really?" and he was like, "Absolutely." And so you have to understand that I have a bachelor's in social work, a master's in social work, and I was getting my Ph.D. in social work, so my entire academic career was surrounded by people who kind of believed in the "life's messy, love it." And I'm more of the, "life's messy, clean it up, organize it and put it into a bento box." (Laughter) And so to think that I had found my way, to found a career that takes me -- really, one of the big sayings in social work is, "Lean into the discomfort of the work." And I'm like, knock discomfort upside the head and move it over and get all A's. That was my mantra. So I was very excited about this. And so I thought, you know what, this is the career for me, because I am interested in some messy topics. But I want to be able to make them not messy. I want to understand them. I want to hack into these things I know are important and lay the code out for everyone to see.So where I started was with connection. Because, by the time you're a social worker for 10 years, what you realize is that connection is why we're here. It's what gives purpose and meaning to our lives. This is what it's all about. It doesn't matter whether you talk to peoplewho work in social justice and mental health and abuse and neglect, what we know is that connection, the ability to feel connected, is -- neurobiologically that's how we're wired -- it's why we're here. So I thought, you know what, I'm going to start with connection. Well, you know that situation where you get an evaluation from your boss, and she tells you 37 things you do really awesome, and one thing -- an "opportunity for growth?" (Laughter) And all you can think about is that opportunity for growth, right? Well, apparently this is the way my work went as well, because, when you ask people about love, they tell you about heartbreak. When you ask people about belonging, they'll tell you their most excruciating experiences of being excluded. And when you ask people about connection, the stories they told me were about disconnection.So very quickly -- really about six weeks into this research -- I ran into this unnamed thing that absolutely unraveled connection in a way that I didn't understand or had never seen. And so I pulled back out of the research and thought, I need to figure out what this is. And it turned out to be shame. And shame is really easily understood as the fear ofdisconnection: Is there something about me that, if other people know it or see it, that I won't be worthy of connection? The things I can tell you about it: it's universal; we all have it. The only people who don't experience shame have no capacity for human empathy or connection. No one wants to talk about it, and the less you talk about it the more you have it. What underpinned this shame, this "I'm not good enough," -- which we all know that feeling: "I'm not blank enough. I'm not thin enough, rich enough, beautiful enough, smart enough, promoted enough." The thing that underpinned this was excruciating vulnerability, this idea of, in order for connection to happen, we have to allow ourselves to be seen, really seen.And you know how I feel about vulnerability. I hate vulnerability. And so I thought, this is my chance to beat it back with my measuring stick. I'm going in, I'm going to figure this stuff out,I'm going to spend a year, I'm going to totally deconstruct shame, I'm going to understand how vulnerability works, and I'm going to outsmart it. So I was ready, and I was really excited.As you know, it's not going to turn out well. (Laughter) You know this. So, I could tell you a lot about shame, but I'd have to borrow everyone else's time. But here's what I can tell you that it boils down to -- and this may be one of the most important things that I've ever learned in the decade of doing this research. My one year turned into six years: thousands of stories,hundreds of longinterviews, focus groups. At one point, people were sending me journal pagesand sending me their stories -- thousands of pieces of data in six years. And I kind of got a handle on it.I kind of understood, this is what shame is, this is how it works. I wrote a book, I published a theory, but something was not okay -- and what it was is that, if I roughly took the people I interviewed and divided them into people who really have a sense of worthiness -- that's what this comes down to, a sense of worthiness -- they have a strong sense of love and belonging --and folks who struggle for it, and folks who are always wondering if they're good enough.There was only one variable that separated the people who have a strong sense of love and belonging and the people who really struggle for it. And that was, the people who have a strong sense of love and belonging believe they're worthy of love and belonging. That's it.They believe they're worthy. And to me, the hard part of the one thing that keeps us out of connection is our fear that we're not worthy of connection, was something that, personally and professionally, I felt like I needed to understand better. So what I did is I took all of the interviews where I saw worthiness, where I saw people living that way, and just looked at those.What do these people have in common? I have a slight office supply addiction, but that's another talk. So I had a manila folder, and I had aSharpie, and I was like, what am I going to call this research? And the first words that came to my mind were whole-hearted. These are whole-hearted people, living from this deep sense of worthiness. So I wrote at the top of the manila folder, and I started looking at the data. In fact, I did it first in a four-day very intensive data analysis, where I went back, pulled these interviews, pulled the stories, pulled the incidents.What's the theme? What's the pattern? My husband left town with the kids because I always go into this Jackson Pollock crazy thing, where I'm just like writing and in my researcher mode.And so here's what I found. What they had in common was a sense of courage. And I want to separate courage and bravery for you for a minute. Courage, the original definition of courage,when it first came into the English language -- it's from the Latin word cor, meaning heart --and the original definition was to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart. And so these folks had, very simply, the courage to be imperfect. They had the compassion to be kind to themselves first and then to others, because, as it turns out, we can't practice compassion with other people if we can't treat ourselves kindly. And the last was they had connection, and -- this was the hard part -- as a result of authenticity, they were willing to let go of who they thought they should be in order to be who they were, which you have to absolutely do thatfor connection.The other thing that they had in common was this: They fully embraced vulnerability. They believed that what made them vulnerable made them beautiful. They didn't talk about vulnerability being comfortable, nor did they really talk about it being excruciating -- as I had heard it earlier in the shame interviewing. They just talked about it being necessary. They talked about the willingness to say, "I love you" first, the willingness to do something where there are no guarantees, the willingness to breathe through waiting for the doctor to call after your mammogram. They're willing to invest in a relationship that may or may not work out.They thought this was fundamental.I personally thought it was betrayal. I could not believe I had pledged allegiance to research, where our job -- you know, the definition of research is to control and predict, to study phenomena, for the explicit reason to control and predict. And now my mission to control and predict had turned up the answer that the way to live is with vulnerability and to stop controlling and predicting. This led to a little breakdown -- (Laughter) -- which actually looked more like this. (Laughter) And it did. I call it a breakdown; my therapist calls it a spiritual awakening. A spiritual awakening sounds better than breakdown, but I assure you it was a breakdown. And I had to put my data away and go find a therapist. Let me tell you something: you know who you are when you call your friends and say, "I think I need to seesomebody.Do you have any recommendations?" Because about five of my friends were like, "Wooo. I wouldn't want to be your therapist." (Laughter) I was like, "What does that mean?" And they're like, "I'm just saying, you know. Don't bring your measuring stick." I was like, "Okay."So I found a therapist. My first meeting with her, Diana -- I brought in my list of the way the whole-hearted live, and I sat down. And she said, "How are you?" And I said, "I'm great. I'm okay." She said, "What's going on?" And this is a therapist who sees therapists, because we have to go to those, because their B.S. meters are good. (Laughter) And so I said, "Here's the thing, I'm struggling." And she said, "What's the struggle?" And I said, "Well, I have a vulnerability issue. And I know that vulnerability is the core of shame and fear and our struggle for worthiness, but it appears that it's also the birthplace of joy, of creativity, of belonging, of love. And I think I have a problem, and I need some help." And I said, "But here's the thing: no family stuff, no childhood shit." (Laughter) "I just need some strategies." (Laughter) (Applause)Thank you. So she goes like this. (Laughter) And then I said, "It's bad, right?" And she said, "It's neither good nor bad." (Laughter) "It just is what it is." And I said, "Oh my God, this is going to suck."(Laughter)And it did, and it didn't. And it took about a year. And you know how there are people that, when they realize that vulnerability and tenderness are important, that they surrender and walk into it. A: that's not me, and B: I don't even hang out with people like that. (Laughter) For me, it was a yearlong street fight. It was a slugfest. Vulnerability pushed, I pushed back. I lost the fight, but probably won my life back.And so then I went back into the research and spent the next couple of years really trying to understand what they, the whole-hearted, what choices they were making, and what are we doing with vulnerability. Why do we struggle with it so much? Am I alone in struggling with vulnerability? No. So this is what I learned. We numb vulnerability -- when we're waiting for the call. It was funny, I sent something out on Twitter and on Facebook that says, "How would you define vulnerability? What makes you feel vulnerable?" And within an hour and a half, I had 150 responses. Because I wanted to know what's out there. Having to ask my husband for help because I'm sick, and we're newly married; initiating sex with my husband; initiating sex with my wife; being turned down; asking someone out; waiting for the doctor to call back;getting laid off; laying off people -- this is the world we livein. We live in a vulnerable world. And one of the ways we deal with it is we numb vulnerability.And I think there's evidence -- and it's not the only reason this evidence exists, but I think it's a huge cause -- we are the most in-debt, obese, addicted and medicated adult cohort in U.S. history. The problem is -- and I learned this from the research -- that you cannot selectively numb emotion. You can't say, here's the bad stuff. Here's vulnerability, here's grief, here's shame, here's fear, here's disappointment. I don't want to feel these. I'm going to have a couple of beers and a banana nut muffin. (Laughter) I don't want to feel these. And I know that's knowing laughter. I hack into your lives for a living. God. (Laughter) You can't numb those hard feelings without numbing the other affects, our emotions. You cannot selectively numb. So when we numb those, we numb joy, we numb gratitude, we numb happiness. And then we are miserable, and we are looking for purpose and meaning, and then we feel vulnerable, so then we have a couple of beers and a banana nut muffin. And it becomes this dangerous cycle.One of the things that I think we need to think about is why and how we numb. And it doesn't just have to be addiction. The other thing we do is we make everything that's uncertain certain. Religion has gone from abelief in faith and mystery to certainty. I'm right, you're wrong. Shut up. That's it. Just certain. The more afraid we are, the more vulnerable we are, the more afraid we are. This is what politics looks like today. There's no discourse anymore. There's no conversation. There's just blame. You know how blame is described in the research? A way to discharge pain and discomfort. We perfect. If there's anyone who wants their life to look like this, it would be me, but it doesn't work. Because what we do is we take fat from our butts and put it in our cheeks. (Laughter) Which just, I hope in 100 years, people will look back and go, "Wow." (Laughter)And we perfect, most dangerously, our children. Let me tell you what we think about children.They're hardwired for struggle when they get here. And when you hold those perfect little babies in your hand, our job is not to say, "Look at her, she's perfect. My job is just to keep her perfect -- make sure she makes the tennis team by fifth grade and Yale by seventh grade."That's not our job. Our job is to look and say, "You know what? You're imperfect, and you're wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging." That's our job. Show me a generation of kids raised like that, and we'll end the problems I think that we see today. We pretend that what we do doesn't have an effect on people. We do that in our personal lives.We do that corporate -- whether it's a bailout, an oilspill, a recall -- we pretend like what we're doing doesn't have a huge impact on other people. I would say to companies, this is not our first rodeo, people. We just need you to be authentic and real and say, "We're sorry. We'll fix it."But there's another way, and I'll leave you with this. This is what I have found: to let ourselves be seen, deeply seen, vulnerably seen; to love with our whole hearts, even though there's no guarantee -- and that's really hard, and I can tell you as a parent, that's excruciatingly difficult -- to practice gratitude and joy in those moments of terror, when we're wondering, "Can I love you this much? Can I believe in this this passionately? Can I be this fierce about this?" just to be able to stop and, instead of catastrophizing what might happen, to say, "I'm just so grateful, because to feel this vulnerable means I'm alive." And the last, which I think is probably the most important, is to believe that we're enough. Because when we work from a place, I believe, that says, "I'm enough," then we stop screaming and start listening, we're kinder and gentler to the people around us, and we're kinder and gentler to ourselves. That's all I have. Thank you.(Applause)。

ted脆弱的力量文本

ted脆弱的力量文本TED脆弱的力量TED是一场全球性的演讲活动，旨在传播思想、启发人们，并推动世界变得更美好。

在这场活动中，有很多关于“脆弱”的演讲，这些演讲涉及到人类的情感、生命和环境等方面。

在这篇文章中，我们将探讨TED中关于“脆弱的力量”的演讲。

第一部分：情感上的脆弱1.1 弗朗西斯卡•马克斯韦尔：爱与损失弗朗西斯卡•马克斯韦尔是一位作家和摄影师，她曾经在TED上发表过一场名为《爱与损失》的演讲。

她通过自己亲身经历的父亲去世和自己患病的经历，表达了人类情感上的脆弱性。

她说：“我们都是如此脆弱，如此具有情感，如此容易受到伤害。

”1.2 安德鲁•所罗门：抑郁症不是你自己造成的安德鲁•所罗门是一位作家和精神健康倡导者，他在TED上发表过一场名为《抑郁症不是你自己造成的》的演讲。

他通过自己亲身经历的抑郁症，探讨了人类情感上的脆弱性和社会对精神健康问题的看法。

他说：“我们都是如此脆弱，如此容易受到情感和心理创伤。

”第二部分：生命上的脆弱2.1 约安娜•克鲁泽：生命中最重要的事情约安娜•克鲁泽是一位医生和作家，她在TED上发表过一场名为《生命中最重要的事情》的演讲。

她通过自己作为医生对癌症患者的治疗经验，探讨了人类生命上的脆弱性和珍视生命的重要性。

她说：“我们都是如此脆弱，如此容易受到疾病和意外事件影响。

”2.2 布兰登•斯托尔：我的越野滑雪事故布兰登•斯托尔是一位极限运动员，在TED上发表过一场名为《我的越野滑雪事故》的演讲。

他通过自己在越野滑雪中的意外事故，探讨了人类生命上的脆弱性和面对挑战的勇气。

他说：“我们都是如此脆弱，但我们也有能力克服困难。

”第三部分：环境上的脆弱3.1 艾伦•萨维奇：地球日艾伦•萨维奇是一位环保倡导者和电影制片人，他在TED上发表过一场名为《地球日》的演讲。

他通过展示地球上各种生物和环境问题，探讨了人类对环境破坏的影响和环境上的脆弱性。

他说：“我们需要意识到我们生活在一个脆弱的星球上。

关于生命的脆弱的演讲稿

关于生命的脆弱的演讲稿生命，是我们每个人最宝贵的财富。

然而，生命的脆弱性也让我们时刻感受到它的珍贵。

今天，我想和大家分享一下关于生命脆弱的话题。

生命，就像一根蜡烛，轻飘飘的，一不小心就会被吹灭。

我们常常觉得自己还有很长的路要走，还有很多事情要做，可是生命却是如此脆弱，一场意外，一种疾病，就能让我们失去一切。

所以，我们要珍惜眼前的每一天，对生命怀有感恩之心。

生命脆弱的另一个方面，是我们在日常生活中常常忽视的健康问题。

我们总是以为自己还很年轻，身体还很健康，却忽略了生活中的不良习惯对身体的伤害。

抽烟、喝酒、熬夜、不运动……这些看似微不足道的习惯，却是在侵蚀我们的生命。

当我们意识到时，也许已经为时已晚。

所以，要时刻关注自己的身体健康，养成良好的生活习惯，才能延续生命的脆弱。

生命的脆弱也让我们更加珍惜人与人之间的情感。

亲情、友情、爱情，都是我们生命中最重要的支撑。

然而，这些情感却是如此脆弱，一点点的伤害就能让它破碎。

所以，我们要学会包容、理解、宽容，珍惜每一个和我们有情感纽带的人。

生命的脆弱，也让我们更加关注社会的不公、不平。

在这个世界上，有太多的人因为生命的脆弱而遭受着不公平的对待。

贫困、疾病、灾难……这些都是生命脆弱的表现。

我们应该关注这些问题，尽自己的一份力，让生命更加坚强，让这个世界更加美好。

生命脆弱的事实摆在眼前，我们不能选择它的脆弱，但我们可以选择如何对待它。

珍惜生命，关注健康，珍惜情感，关注社会，这些都是我们可以做的。

让我们一起努力，让生命更加坚强，让这个世界更加美好。

谢谢大家。

关于脆弱的力量演讲稿_演讲稿范文_

关于脆弱的力量演讲稿现任TED掌门人克里斯·安德森说：“一次演讲令人惊奇的地方在于，你可以用几分钟的时间启发人们的思想。

这几分钟能把人从观众转变为参与者。

关键词是‘灵感’，它更像火花、催化剂，让你参与到比自己更伟大的事情中去。

”下面小编为大家整理关于脆弱的力量，希望能帮到你。

脆弱的力量，我恨脆弱几年前，一个活动策划人打电话给我，因为我当时要做一个演讲。

她在电话里说：“我真很苦恼该如何在宣传单上介绍你。

” 我心想怎么会苦恼呢? 她继续道：“你看，我听过你的演讲，我觉得我可以称你为研究者，可我担心的是，如果我这么称呼你，没人会来听，因为大家普遍认为研究员很无趣而且脱离现实。

”然后她说：“但是我喜欢你的演讲，就跟讲故事一样很吸引人。

我想来想去，还是觉得称你为讲故事的人比较妥当。

”而那个做学术的感到不安的我脱口而出道：“你要叫我什么?”她说：“我要称你为讲故事的人。

”我心想：“为什么不干脆叫魔法小精灵?”(笑声)我说：“让我考虑一下。

”我试着鼓起勇气。

我对自己说，我是一个讲故事的人。

我是一个从事定性研究的科研人员。

我收集故事——这就是我的工作。

或许故事就是有灵魂的数据。

或许我就是一个讲故事的人。

于是我说：“听着，要不你就称我为做研究兼讲故事的人。

”她说：“哈哈，没这么个说法呀。

”所以我是个做研究兼讲故事的人，我今天想跟大家谈论的——我们要谈论的话题是关于拓展认知。

我想给你们讲几个故事是关于我的一份研究的，这份研究从本质上拓宽了我个人的认知，也确确实实改变了我生活、爱、工作还有教育孩子的方式。

1、关系是我们活着的原因我的故事从这里开始。

当我还是个年轻的博士研究生的时候，第一年，有位研究教授对我们说：“事实是这样的，如果有一个东西你无法测量，那么它就不存在。

”我心想他只是在哄哄我们这些小孩子吧。

我说：“真的么?”他说：“当然。

”你得知道我有一个社会工作的学士文凭，一个社会工作的硕士文凭，我在读的是一个社会工作的博士文凭，所以我整个学术生涯都被人所包围，他们大抵相信生活是一团乱麻，接受它。

Ted 演讲稿脆弱的力量讲课稿

Brene Brown：The power of vulnerabilitySo, I'll start with this: a couple years ago, an event planner called me because I was going to do a speaking event. And she called, and she said, "I'm really struggling with how to write about you on the little flier." And I thought, "Well, what's the struggle?" And she said, "Well, I saw you speak, and I'm going to call you a researcher, I think, but I'm afraid if I call you a researcher, no one will come, because they'll think you're boring and irrelevant." (Laughter)And I was like, "Okay." And she said, "But the thing I liked about your talk is you're a storyteller. So I think what I'll do is just call you a storyteller." And of course, the academic, insecure part of me was like, "You're going to call me a what?" And she said, "I'm going to call you a storyteller." And I was like, "Why not magic pixie?" (Laughter) I was like, "Let me think about this for a second." I tried to call deep on my courage. And I thought, you know, I am a storyteller. I'm a qualitative researcher. I collect stories; that's what I do. And maybe stories are just data with a soul. And maybe I'm just a storyteller. And so I said, "You know what? Why don't you just say I'm a researcher-storyteller." And she went, "Haha. There's no such thing."(Laughter) So I'm a researcher-storyteller, and I'm going to talk to you today -- we're talking about expanding perception -- and so I want to talk to you and tell some stories about a piece of my research thatfundamentally expanded my perception and really actually changed the way that I live and love and work and parent.And this is where my story starts. When I was a young researcher, doctoral student, my first year I had a research professor who said to us, "Here's the thing, if you cannot measure it, it does not exist." And I thought he was just sweet-talking me. I was like, "Really?" and he was like, "Absolutely." And so you have to understand that I have a bachelor's in social work, a master's in social work, and I was getting my Ph.D. in social work, so my entire academic career was surrounded by people who kind of believed in the "life's messy, love it." And I'm more of the, "life's messy, clean it up, organize it and put it into a bento box." (Laughter) And so to think that I had found my way, to found a career that takes me -- really, one of the big sayings in social work is, "Lean into the discomfort of the work." And I'm like, knock discomfort upside the head and move it over and get all A's. That was my mantra. So I was very excited about this. And so I thought, you know what, this is the career for me, because I am interested in some messy topics. But I want to be able to make them not messy. I want to understand them. I want to hack into these things I know are important and lay the code out for everyone to see.So where I started was with connection. Because, by the time you're a social worker for 10 years, what you realize is that connection is why we're here. It's what gives purpose and meaning to our lives. This is what it's all about. It doesn't matter whether you talk to peoplewho work in social justice and mental health and abuse and neglect, what we know is that connection, the ability to feel connected, is -- neurobiologically that's how we're wired -- it's why we're here. So I thought, you know what, I'm going to start with connection. Well, you know that situation where you get an evaluation from your boss, and she tells you 37 things you do really awesome, and one thing -- an "opportunity for growth?" (Laughter) And all you can think about is that opportunity for growth, right? Well, apparently this is the way my work went as well, because, when you ask people about love, they tell you about heartbreak. When you ask people about belonging, they'll tell you their most excruciating experiences of being excluded. And when you ask people about connection, the stories they told me were about disconnection.So very quickly -- really about six weeks into this research -- I ran into this unnamed thing that absolutely unraveled connection in a way that I didn't understand or had never seen. And so I pulled back out of the research and thought, I need to figure out what this is. And it turned out to be shame. And shame is really easily understood as the fear ofdisconnection: Is there something about me that, if other people know it or see it, that I won't be worthy of connection? The things I can tell you about it: it's universal; we all have it. The only people who don't experience shame have no capacity for human empathy or connection. No one wants to talk about it, and the less you talk about it the more you have it. What underpinned this shame, this "I'm not good enough," -- which we all know that feeling: "I'm not blank enough. I'm not thin enough, rich enough, beautiful enough, smart enough, promoted enough." The thing that underpinned this was excruciating vulnerability, this idea of, in order for connection to happen, we have to allow ourselves to be seen, really seen.And you know how I feel about vulnerability. I hate vulnerability. And so I thought, this is my chance to beat it back with my measuring stick. I'm going in, I'm going to figure this stuff out,I'm going to spend a year, I'm going to totally deconstruct shame, I'm going to understand how vulnerability works, and I'm going to outsmart it. So I was ready, and I was really excited.As you know, it's not going to turn out well. (Laughter) You know this. So, I could tell you a lot about shame, but I'd have to borrow everyone else's time. But here's what I can tell you that it boils down to -- and this may be one of the most important things that I've ever learned in the decade of doing this research. My one year turned into six years: thousands of stories,hundreds of longinterviews, focus groups. At one point, people were sending me journal pagesand sending me their stories -- thousands of pieces of data in six years. And I kind of got a handle on it.I kind of understood, this is what shame is, this is how it works. I wrote a book, I published a theory, but something was not okay -- and what it was is that, if I roughly took the people I interviewed and divided them into people who really have a sense of worthiness -- that's what this comes down to, a sense of worthiness -- they have a strong sense of love and belonging --and folks who struggle for it, and folks who are always wondering if they're good enough.There was only one variable that separated the people who have a strong sense of love and belonging and the people who really struggle for it. And that was, the people who have a strong sense of love and belonging believe they're worthy of love and belonging. That's it.They believe they're worthy. And to me, the hard part of the one thing that keeps us out of connection is our fear that we're not worthy of connection, was something that, personally and professionally, I felt like I needed to understand better. So what I did is I took all of the interviews where I saw worthiness, where I saw people living that way, and just looked at those.What do these people have in common? I have a slight office supply addiction, but that's another talk. So I had a manila folder, and I had aSharpie, and I was like, what am I going to call this research? And the first words that came to my mind were whole-hearted. These are whole-hearted people, living from this deep sense of worthiness. So I wrote at the top of the manila folder, and I started looking at the data. In fact, I did it first in a four-day very intensive data analysis, where I went back, pulled these interviews, pulled the stories, pulled the incidents.What's the theme? What's the pattern? My husband left town with the kids because I always go into this Jackson Pollock crazy thing, where I'm just like writing and in my researcher mode.And so here's what I found. What they had in common was a sense of courage. And I want to separate courage and bravery for you for a minute. Courage, the original definition of courage,when it first came into the English language -- it's from the Latin word cor, meaning heart --and the original definition was to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart. And so these folks had, very simply, the courage to be imperfect. They had the compassion to be kind to themselves first and then to others, because, as it turns out, we can't practice compassion with other people if we can't treat ourselves kindly. And the last was they had connection, and -- this was the hard part -- as a result of authenticity, they were willing to let go of who they thought they should be in order to be who they were, which you have to absolutely do thatfor connection.The other thing that they had in common was this: They fully embraced vulnerability. They believed that what made them vulnerable made them beautiful. They didn't talk about vulnerability being comfortable, nor did they really talk about it being excruciating -- as I had heard it earlier in the shame interviewing. They just talked about it being necessary. They talked about the willingness to say, "I love you" first, the willingness to do something where there are no guarantees, the willingness to breathe through waiting for the doctor to call after your mammogram. They're willing to invest in a relationship that may or may not work out.They thought this was fundamental.I personally thought it was betrayal. I could not believe I had pledged allegiance to research, where our job -- you know, the definition of research is to control and predict, to study phenomena, for the explicit reason to control and predict. And now my mission to control and predict had turned up the answer that the way to live is with vulnerability and to stop controlling and predicting. This led to a little breakdown -- (Laughter) -- which actually looked more like this. (Laughter) And it did. I call it a breakdown; my therapist calls it a spiritual awakening. A spiritual awakening sounds better than breakdown, but I assure you it was a breakdown. And I had to put my data away and go find a therapist. Let me tell you something: you know who you are when you call your friends and say, "I think I need to seesomebody.Do you have any recommendations?" Because about five of my friends were like, "Wooo. I wouldn't want to be your therapist." (Laughter) I was like, "What does that mean?" And they're like, "I'm just saying, you know. Don't bring your measuring stick." I was like, "Okay."So I found a therapist. My first meeting with her, Diana -- I brought in my list of the way the whole-hearted live, and I sat down. And she said, "How are you?" And I said, "I'm great. I'm okay." She said, "What's going on?" And this is a therapist who sees therapists, because we have to go to those, because their B.S. meters are good. (Laughter) And so I said, "Here's the thing, I'm struggling." And she said, "What's the struggle?" And I said, "Well, I have a vulnerability issue. And I know that vulnerability is the core of shame and fear and our struggle for worthiness, but it appears that it's also the birthplace of joy, of creativity, of belonging, of love. And I think I have a problem, and I need some help." And I said, "But here's the thing: no family stuff, no childhood shit." (Laughter) "I just need some strategies." (Laughter) (Applause)Thank you. So she goes like this. (Laughter) And then I said, "It's bad, right?" And she said, "It's neither good nor bad." (Laughter) "It just is what it is." And I said, "Oh my God, this is going to suck."(Laughter)And it did, and it didn't. And it took about a year. And you know how there are people that, when they realize that vulnerability and tenderness are important, that they surrender and walk into it. A: that's not me, and B: I don't even hang out with people like that. (Laughter) For me, it was a yearlong street fight. It was a slugfest. Vulnerability pushed, I pushed back. I lost the fight, but probably won my life back.And so then I went back into the research and spent the next couple of years really trying to understand what they, the whole-hearted, what choices they were making, and what are we doing with vulnerability. Why do we struggle with it so much? Am I alone in struggling with vulnerability? No. So this is what I learned. We numb vulnerability -- when we're waiting for the call. It was funny, I sent something out on Twitter and on Facebook that says, "How would you define vulnerability? What makes you feel vulnerable?" And within an hour and a half, I had 150 responses. Because I wanted to know what's out there. Having to ask my husband for help because I'm sick, and we're newly married; initiating sex with my husband; initiating sex with my wife; being turned down; asking someone out; waiting for the doctor to call back;getting laid off; laying off people -- this is the world we livein. We live in a vulnerable world. And one of the ways we deal with it is we numb vulnerability.And I think there's evidence -- and it's not the only reason this evidence exists, but I think it's a huge cause -- we are the most in-debt, obese, addicted and medicated adult cohort in U.S. history. The problem is -- and I learned this from the research -- that you cannot selectively numb emotion. You can't say, here's the bad stuff. Here's vulnerability, here's grief, here's shame, here's fear, here's disappointment. I don't want to feel these. I'm going to have a couple of beers and a banana nut muffin. (Laughter) I don't want to feel these. And I know that's knowing laughter. I hack into your lives for a living. God. (Laughter) You can't numb those hard feelings without numbing the other affects, our emotions. You cannot selectively numb. So when we numb those, we numb joy, we numb gratitude, we numb happiness. And then we are miserable, and we are looking for purpose and meaning, and then we feel vulnerable, so then we have a couple of beers and a banana nut muffin. And it becomes this dangerous cycle.One of the things that I think we need to think about is why and how we numb. And it doesn't just have to be addiction. The other thing we do is we make everything that's uncertain certain. Religion has gone from abelief in faith and mystery to certainty. I'm right, you're wrong. Shut up. That's it. Just certain. The more afraid we are, the more vulnerable we are, the more afraid we are. This is what politics looks like today. There's no discourse anymore. There's no conversation. There's just blame. You know how blame is described in the research? A way to discharge pain and discomfort. We perfect. If there's anyone who wants their life to look like this, it would be me, but it doesn't work. Because what we do is we take fat from our butts and put it in our cheeks. (Laughter) Which just, I hope in 100 years, people will look back and go, "Wow." (Laughter)And we perfect, most dangerously, our children. Let me tell you what we think about children.They're hardwired for struggle when they get here. And when you hold those perfect little babies in your hand, our job is not to say, "Look at her, she's perfect. My job is just to keep her perfect -- make sure she makes the tennis team by fifth grade and Yale by seventh grade."That's not our job. Our job is to look and say, "You know what? You're imperfect, and you're wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging." That's our job. Show me a generation of kids raised like that, and we'll end the problems I think that we see today. We pretend that what we do doesn't have an effect on people. We do that in our personal lives.We do that corporate -- whether it's a bailout, an oilspill, a recall -- we pretend like what we're doing doesn't have a huge impact on other people. I would say to companies, this is not our first rodeo, people. We just need you to be authentic and real and say, "We're sorry. We'll fix it."But there's another way, and I'll leave you with this. This is what I have found: to let ourselves be seen, deeply seen, vulnerably seen; to love with our whole hearts, even though there's no guarantee -- and that's really hard, and I can tell you as a parent, that's excruciatingly difficult -- to practice gratitude and joy in those moments of terror, when we're wondering, "Can I love you this much? Can I believe in this this passionately? Can I be this fierce about this?" just to be able to stop and, instead of catastrophizing what might happen, to say, "I'm just so grateful, because to feel this vulnerable means I'm alive." And the last, which I think is probably the most important, is to believe that we're enough. Because when we work from a place, I believe, that says, "I'm enough," then we stop screaming and start listening, we're kinder and gentler to the people around us, and we're kinder and gentler to ourselves. That's all I have. Thank you.(Applause)。

BreneBrown：脆弱的力量

BreneBrown：脆弱的力量TED演讲 | 脆弱的力量布琳·布朗，美国知名学者、畅销书作家，美国休斯敦大学社会工作研究院教授。

2010年，布朗教授在TED大会上的演讲《脆弱的力量》(The Power of Vulnerability ) 成为TED史上最受欢迎的5大演讲之一，视频点击量超过1500万人次。

“你有机会选择拥抱最真实的自我，而不是生活在别人眼中”“那些让你变脆弱的，都会令你更强大”“人与人之间的联结是我们活着的意义”，作为国际知名演讲人，布琳相当真诚、温暖、幽默，作为一位思想领袖、研究者、讲故事的人，她具有激励听众的能力，拥有让人付诸行动、做出改变的方法。

这就是布琳·布朗。

我是个做研究兼讲故事的人，我今天想跟大家谈论的：我们要谈论的话题是关于拓展认知。

我想给你们讲几个故事是关于我的一份研究工作，这份研究从本质上拓宽了我个人的认知，也确确实实改变了我生活、爱、工作还有教育孩子的方式。

我的故事从这里开始：当我还是个年轻的博士研究生的时候，第一年,一位研究教授对我们说：“事实是这样的，如果有一个东西你无法测量，那么它就不存在。

”我心想他只是在哄哄我们这些小孩子吧。

我说：“真的么？”他说：“这是理所当然的。

”我当时认为我领悟到了我的方向，找到了我的工作，有能力自己去创一番事业。

社会工作的一个重要特征是工作的环境是一团遭的不适环境。

我当时想我就是要把这不适环境翻个底朝天，每科都拿到A。

这就是我当时的信条。

我当时真的是跃跃欲试。

我想这就是我的职业生涯，因为我对乱成一团，难以处理的课题很感兴趣。

我想要把它们弄清楚，我想要理解它们，我想进入那些我知道是重要的东西，把它们摸个透，然后用浅显易懂的方式呈献给每一个人。

当时我的起点是“人与人之间的连接关系”。

这是因为当你从事了10年的社会工作，你必然会发现这种连接关系就是我们活着的原因。

它赋予了我们生命的意义，就是这么简单。

无论你跟谁交流，工作在社会执法领域的也好，负责精神健康、虐待和疏于看管领域的也好，我们所知道的是，这种连接关系是一种感应的能力，生物神经上的，我们就是这么被设定的，这就是为什么我们在这里。

脆弱的力量演讲稿

脆弱的力量演讲稿在我们生活的世界里，有一种力量是如此脆弱，却又如此强大，那就是人的内心力量。

这种力量并不是指肌肉的力量，也不是指金钱的力量，而是指人的意志、信念和勇气。

在人生的道路上，我们常常会遇到各种挫折和困难，而这时候，脆弱的力量就显得尤为重要。

首先，让我们来看看脆弱的力量是如何表现出来的。

当一个人遭遇挫折和失败时，内心往往会感到沮丧、无助甚至绝望。

这时候，一种脆弱的力量就会悄然而至，它让人们能够坚持下去，不轻言放弃。

这种力量或许只是一丝微弱的信念，或许只是一点点微弱的勇气，但正是这种微弱的力量支撑着人们走过每一个艰难的时刻。

其次，脆弱的力量是如何转化为坚强的力量的呢？当人们在面对挫折时，如果能够坚持不懈地努力，不断地充实自己，不断地寻求突破，那么脆弱的力量就会慢慢地转化为坚强的力量。

正如一句古语所说，“磨刀不误砍柴工”，只有经历过磨砺，才能变得更加坚强。

在这个过程中，人们会发现，原来自己内心深处隐藏着的力量是如此的强大，是足以支撑自己走过人生的每一个难关的。

最后，让我们来思考一下，如何让脆弱的力量变得更加坚强？首先，要学会接受挫折和失败，不要因为一次失败就放弃自己的梦想和目标。

其次，要保持乐观的心态，相信自己的能力，相信明天会更好。

再次，要不断地充实自己，通过学习和实践不断提升自己的能力和素质。

最后，要坚持不懈地努力，不断地追求进步，不断地寻求突破。

总之，脆弱的力量虽然在表面上看起来是如此的微弱，但正是这种微弱的力量支撑着人们走过人生的每一个难关。

当我们学会转化这种脆弱的力量，让它变得更加坚强时，我们就能够在人生的道路上走得更加坚定，更加自信。

让我们珍惜这种脆弱的力量，让它成为我们人生道路上的一种宝贵财富。

愿我们都能够拥有一颗坚强的内心，勇敢地面对生活的挑战，勇敢地追求自己的梦想！。

有关脆弱的力量发言稿

有关脆弱的力量发言稿新任TED掌门查尔斯·德克尔说：“一次演说让人惊讶的地区取决于，你能用数分钟的時间启迪大家的观念。

这数分钟可以把人从观众们变化为参加者。

关键字是‘设计灵感’，它更像火苗、金属催化剂，使你参加到比自身更杰出的事儿中去。

”下边我为大伙儿梳理有关脆弱的力量发言稿，期待能帮上你。

脆弱的力量，我恨敏感两年前，一个主题活动策划者打电话，由于我那时候要做一个演说。

她在电話里说：“我真是很烦恼该怎样在宣传页上详细介绍你。

” 我想着为什么会烦恼呢? 她再次道：“你看看，听过你的演说，我认为我能称你为学者，可我担忧的是，假如那么叫法你，没有人要来听，由于大伙儿广泛认为研究者很乏味并且逃避现实。

”随后她讲：“可是我爱你的演说，就跟说故事一样很吸引人。

我思来想去，或是感觉称你为讲故事的人较为稳妥。

”而那一个做学术研究的觉得躁动不安的我随口说出道：“你需要要我哪些?”她讲：“我想称你为讲故事的人。

”我想着：“为什么不索性叫法术精灵?”(欢笑声)我讲：“要我考虑一下。

”我尝试鼓足勇气。

我对自己说，我是一个讲故事的人。

我是一个从业定量研究的科技人员。

我搜集小故事——我眼中的自己的工作中。

也许小故事便是有生命的数据信息。

也许我是一个讲故事的人。

因此我讲：“听着，要不你也就称我来为做科学研究兼讲故事的人。

”她讲：“嘿嘿，没那么个叫法呀。

”因此我是个做科学研究兼讲故事的人，我今天想跟大伙儿讨论的——我们要讨论的话题讨论是有关扩展认知能力。

我想给你们讲好多个小故事是关于我们的一份科学研究的，这一份科学研究从实质上扩宽了我本人的认知能力，也的的确确更改了我日常生活、爱、工作中也有教育小孩的方法。

1、关联是我们活着的缘故我的小秘密其实很简单。

当我们或是个年青的博士生的情况下，第一年，有一位科学研究专家教授对大家说：“客观事实是那样的，假如有一个物品你没法精确测量，那麼它就不会有。

”我想着他仅仅在呜呜大家这种小朋友吧。

生命的脆弱演讲稿

生命的脆弱演讲稿
尊敬的评委、亲爱的观众们：
大家好！我今天在这里演讲的主题是“生命的脆弱”。

生命，是我们无法忽视也无法回避的命题。

无论我们多么强大、多么自信，生命终究
会面临挑战和不确定。

生命的脆弱性，让我们明白生活是多么脆弱而宝贵。

每个人都经历过人生的起伏和挫折，我们也都有亲身的经历。

或许是亲朋好友的离世，或许是那些悲惨的新闻报道，无不提醒着我们生命的短暂与脆弱。

一场车祸、一场自
然灾害、一次疾病，都可以将生命消磨至无。

然而，正是这种脆弱性，让我们更加珍惜每一天、每一刻的存在。

我们应当以感恩和
珍惜的态度面对生活，不要因为琐事而抱怨，而是享受每一次呼吸、每一次微笑。

生
命的脆弱性也让我们明白，我们需要关爱和呵护我们身边的人，因为他们也面临着同
样的挑战。

生活中最重要的事情，是我们如何对待我们的生命。

我们可以选择灰暗，我们可以选
择绝望，但更好的选择是拥抱阳光，拥抱希望。

无论我们面临着怎样的困境和挑战，
我们都必须坚持和积极地前行，因为生命的脆弱性不等于我们应该停止前进。

正是因为生命的脆弱性，我们才会珍视幸福的时刻，感受到温暖的爱和真挚的友谊。

正是因为生命的脆弱性，我们才会更加努力，追逐梦想，创造美好的未来。

最后，我想引用美国作家克林特·弗朗西斯·鲍尔的一句话：“去爱，去生活，因为生命真的是如此脆弱。

”让我们用这句话作为我们对待生命的座右铭，去爱自己、去爱别人，过上充实而有意义的生活。

谢谢大家！。

Ted 演讲稿脆弱的力量

Brene Brown：The power of vulnerabilitySo, I'll start with this: a couple years ago, an event planner called me because I was going to do a speaking event. And she called, and she said, "I'm really struggling with how to write about you on the little flier." And I thought, "Well, what's the struggle?" And she said, "Well, I saw you speak, and I'm going to call you a researcher, I think, but I'm afraid if I call you a researcher, no one will come, because they'll think you're boring and irrelevant." (Laughter)And I was like, "Okay." And she said, "But the thing I liked about your talk is you're a storyteller. So I think what I'll do is just call you a storyteller." And of course, the academic, insecure part of me was like, "You're going to call me a what?" And she said, "I'm going to call you a storyteller." And I was like, "Why not magic pixie?" (Laughter) I was like, "Let me think about this for a second." I tried to call deep on my courage. And I thought, you know, I am a storyteller. I'm a qualitative researcher. I collect stories; that's what I do. And maybe stories are just data with a soul. And maybe I'm just a storyteller. And so I said, "You know what? Why don't you just say I'm a researcher-storyteller." And she went, "Haha.There's no such thing."(Laughter) So I'm a researcher-storyteller, and I'm going to talk to you today -- we're talking about expanding perception -- and so I want to talk to you and tell some stories about a piece of my research that fundamentally expanded my perception and really actually changed the way that I live and love and work and parent.And this is where my story starts. When I was a young researcher, doctoral student, my first year I had a research professor who said to us, "Here's the thing, if you cannot measure it, it does not exist." And I thought he was just sweet-talking me. I was like, "Really?" and he was like, "Absolutely." And so you have to understand that I have a bachelor's in social work, a master's in social work, and I was getting my Ph.D. in social work, so my entire academic career was surrounded by people who kind of believed in the "life's messy, love it." And I'm more of the, "life's messy, clean it up, organize it and put it into a bento box." (Laughter) And so to think that I had found my way, to found a career that takes me -- really, one of the big sayings in social work is, "Lean into the discomfort of the work." And I'm like, knock discomfort upside the head andmove it over and get all A's. That was my mantra. So I was very excited about this. And so I thought, you know what, this is the career for me, because I am interested in some messy topics. But I want to be able to make them not messy. I want to understand them. I want to hack into these things I know are important and lay the code out for everyone to see.So where I started was with connection. Because, by the time you're a social worker for 10 years, what you realize is that connection is why we're here. It's what gives purpose and meaning to our lives. This is what it's all about. It doesn't matter whether you talk to peoplewho work in social justice and mental health and abuse and neglect, what we know is that connection, the ability to feel connected, is -- neurobiologically that's how we're wired -- it's why we're here. So I thought, you know what, I'm going to start with connection. Well, you know that situation where you get an evaluation from your boss, and she tells you 37 things you do really awesome, and one thing -- an "opportunity for growth?" (Laughter) And all you can think about is that opportunity for growth, right? Well, apparently this is the way my work went as well, because, when you ask people about love, they tell you about heartbreak. When you ask peopleabout belonging, they'll tell you their most excruciating experiences of being excluded. And when you ask people about connection, the stories they told me were about disconnection.So very quickly -- really about six weeks into this research -- I ran into this unnamed thing that absolutely unraveled connection in a way that I didn't understand or had never seen. And so I pulled back out of the research and thought, I need to figure out what this is. And it turned out to be shame. And shame is really easily understood as the fear of disconnection: Is there something about me that, if other people know it or see it, that I won't be worthy of connection? The things I can tell you about it: it's universal; we all have it. The only people who don't experience shame have no capacity for human empathy or connection. No one wants to talk about it, and the less you talk about it the more you have it. What underpinned this shame, this "I'm not good enough," -- which we all know that feeling: "I'm not blank enough. I'm not thin enough, rich enough, beautiful enough, smart enough, promoted enough." The thing that underpinned this was excruciatingvulnerability, this idea of, in order for connection to happen, we have to allow ourselves to be seen, really seen. And you know how I feel about vulnerability. I hate vulnerability. And so I thought, this is my chance to beat it back with my measuring stick. I'm going in, I'm going to figure this stuff out,I'm going to spend a year, I'm going to totally deconstruct shame, I'm going to understand how vulnerability works, and I'm going to outsmart it. So I was ready, and I was really excited.As you know, it's not going to turn out well. (Laughter) You know this. So, I could tell you a lot about shame, but I'd have to borrow everyone else's time. But here's what I can tell you that it boils down to -- and this may be one of the most important things that I've ever learned in the decade of doing this research. My one year turned into six years: thousands of stories,hundreds of long interviews, focus groups. At one point, people were sending me journal pagesand sending me their stories -- thousands of pieces of data in six years. And I kind of got a handle on it.I kind of understood, this is what shame is, this is how it works. I wrote a book, I published a theory, but somethingwas not okay -- and what it was is that, if I roughly took the people I interviewed and divided them into people who really have a sense of worthiness -- that's what this comes down to, a sense of worthiness -- they have a strong sense of love and belonging --and folks who struggle for it, and folks who are always wondering if they're good enough.There was only one variable that separated the people who have a strong sense of love and belonging and the people who really struggle for it. And that was, the people who have a strong sense of love and belonging believe they're worthy of love and belonging. That's it.They believe they're worthy. And to me, the hard part of the one thing that keeps us out of connection is our fear that we're not worthy of connection, was something that, personally and professionally, I felt like I needed to understand better. So what I did is I took all of the interviews where I saw worthiness, where I saw people living that way, and just looked at those.What do these people have in common? I have a slight office supply addiction, but that's another talk. So I had a manila folder, and I had a Sharpie, and I was like, what am I going to call this research? And the first words that came to mymind were whole-hearted. These are whole-hearted people, living from this deep sense of worthiness. So I wrote at the top of the manila folder, and I started looking at the data. In fact, I did it first in a four-day very intensive data analysis, where I went back, pulled these interviews, pulled the stories, pulled the incidents.What's the theme? What's the pattern? My husband left town with the kids because I always go into this Jackson Pollock crazy thing, where I'm just like writing and in my researcher mode.And so here's what I found. What they had in common was a sense of courage. And I want to separate courage and bravery for you for a minute. Courage, the original definition of courage,when it first came into the English language -- it's from the Latin word cor, meaning heart --and the original definition was to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart. And so these folks had, very simply, the courage to be imperfect. They had the compassion to be kind to themselves first and then to others, because, as it turns out, we can't practice compassion with other people if we can't treat ourselves kindly. And the last was they had connection, and -- this was the hard part -- as a result of authenticity, they were willing to let go of who they thoughtthey should be in order to be who they were, which you have to absolutely do thatfor connection.The other thing that they had in common was this: They fully embraced vulnerability. They believed that what made them vulnerable made them beautiful. They didn't talk about vulnerability being comfortable, nor did they really talk about it being excruciating -- as I had heard it earlier in the shame interviewing. They just talked about it being necessary. They talked about the willingness to say, "I love you" first, the willingness to do something where there are no guarantees, the willingness to breathe through waiting for the doctor to call after your mammogram. They're willing to invest in a relationship that may or may not work out.They thought this was fundamental.I personally thought it was betrayal. I could not believe I had pledged allegiance to research, where our job -- you know, the definition of research is to control and predict, to study phenomena, for the explicit reason to control and predict. And now my mission to control and predict had turned up the answer that the way to live is with vulnerability and to stop controlling and predicting. Thisled to a little breakdown -- (Laughter) -- which actually looked more like this. (Laughter) And it did. I call it a breakdown; my therapist calls it a spiritual awakening. A spiritual awakening sounds better than breakdown, but I assure you it was a breakdown. And I had to put my data away and go find a therapist. Let me tell you something: you know who you are when you call your friends and say, "I think I need to see somebody.Do you have any recommendations?" Because about five of my friends were like, "Wooo. I wouldn't want to be your therapist." (Laughter) I was like, "What does that mean?" And they're like, "I'm just saying, you know. Don't bring your measuring stick." I was like, "Okay."So I found a therapist. My first meeting with her, Diana -- I brought in my list of the way the whole-hearted live, and I sat down. And she said, "How are you?" And I said, "I'm great. I'm okay." She said, "What's going on?" And this is a therapist who sees therapists, because we have to go to those, because their B.S. meters are good. (Laughter) And so I said, "Here's the thing, I'm struggling." And she said, "What's the struggle?" And I said, "Well, I have a vulnerability issue. And I know that vulnerability is the core of shame and fear and our struggle for worthiness, butit appears that it's also the birthplace of joy, of creativity, of belonging, of love. And I think I have a problem, and I need some help." And I said, "But here's the thing: no family stuff, no childhood shit." (Laughter) "I just need some strategies." (Laughter) (Applause)Thank you. So she goes like this. (Laughter) And then I said, "It's bad, right?" And she said, "It's neither good nor bad." (Laughter) "It just is what it is." And I said, "Oh my God, this is going to suck."(Laughter)And it did, and it didn't. And it took about a year. And you know how there are people that, when they realize that vulnerability and tenderness are important, that they surrender and walk into it. A: that's not me, and B: I don't even hang out with people like that. (Laughter) For me, it was a yearlong street fight. It was a slugfest. Vulnerability pushed, I pushed back. I lost the fight, but probably won my life back.And so then I went back into the research and spent the next couple of years really trying to understand what they, the whole-hearted, what choices they were making, and what arewe doing with vulnerability. Why do we struggle with it so much? Am I alone in struggling with vulnerability? No. So this is what I learned. We numb vulnerability -- when we're waiting for the call. It was funny, I sent something out on Twitter and on Facebook that says, "How would you define vulnerability? What makes you feel vulnerable?" And within an hour and a half, I had 150 responses. Because I wanted to know what's out there. Having to ask my husband for help because I'm sick, and we're newly married; initiating sex with my husband; initiating sex with my wife; being turned down; asking someone out; waiting for the doctor to call back;getting laid off; laying off people -- this is the world we live in. We live in a vulnerable world. And one of the ways we deal with it is we numb vulnerability.And I think there's evidence -- and it's not the only reason this evidence exists, but I think it's a huge cause -- we are the most in-debt, obese, addicted and medicated adult cohort in U.S. history. The problem is -- and I learned this from the research -- that you cannot selectively numb emotion. You can't say, here's the bad stuff. Here's vulnerability, here's grief, here's shame, here's fear, here's disappointment. I don't want to feel these. I'm goingto have a couple of beers and a banana nut muffin. (Laughter) I don't want to feel these. And I know that's knowing laughter. I hack into your lives for a living. God. (Laughter) You can't numb those hard feelings without numbing the other affects, our emotions. You cannot selectively numb. So when we numb those, we numb joy, we numb gratitude, we numb happiness. And then we are miserable, and we are looking for purpose and meaning, and then we feel vulnerable, so then we have a couple of beers and a banana nut muffin. And it becomes this dangerous cycle.One of the things that I think we need to think about is why and how we numb. And it doesn't just have to be addiction. The other thing we do is we make everything that's uncertain certain. Religion has gone from a belief in faith and mystery to certainty. I'm right, you're wrong. Shut up. That's it. Just certain. The more afraid we are, the more vulnerable we are, the more afraid we are. This is what politics looks like today. There's no discourse anymore. There's no conversation. There's just blame. You know how blame is described in the research? A way to discharge pain and discomfort. We perfect. If there's anyone who wantstheir life to look like this, it would be me, but it doesn't work. Because what we do is we take fat from our butts and put it in our cheeks. (Laughter) Which just, I hope in 100 years, people will look back and go, "Wow."(Laughter)And we perfect, most dangerously, our children. Let me tell you what we think about children.They're hardwired for struggle when they get here. And when you hold those perfect little babies in your hand, our job is not to say, "Look at her, she's perfect. My job is just to keep her perfect -- make sure she makes the tennis team by fifth grade and Yale by seventh grade."That's not our job. Our job is to look and say, "You know what? You're imperfect, and you're wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging." That's our job. Show me a generation of kids raised like that, and we'll end the problems I think that we see today. We pretend that what we do doesn't have an effect on people. We do that in our personal lives.We do that corporate -- whether it's a bailout, an oil spill, a recall -- we pretend like what we're doing doesn't have a huge impact on other people. I would say to companies, this is not our first rodeo, people. We just needyou to be authentic and real and say, "We're sorry. We'll fix it."But there's another way, and I'll leave you with this. This is what I have found: to let ourselves be seen, deeply seen, vulnerably seen; to love with our whole hearts, even though there's no guarantee -- and that's really hard, and I can tell you as a parent, that's excruciatingly difficult -- to practice gratitude and joy in those moments of terror, when we're wondering, "Can I love you this much? Can I believe in this this passionately? Can I be this fierce about this?" just to be able to stop and, instead of catastrophizing what might happen, to say, "I'm just so grateful, because to feel this vulnerable means I'm alive." And the last, which I think is probably the most important, is to believe that we're enough. Because when we work from a place, I believe, that says, "I'm enough," then we stop screaming and start listening, we're kinder and gentler to the people around us, and we're kinder and gentler to ourselves.That's all I have. Thank you.(Applause)。

脆弱的力量中英文演讲稿

So I will star with this: a couple years ago, an event planner called me, because I was going to do a speaking event. And she called, and she said, “I’m really strugging with how to write about you onthe litter flyer.” And I thought, “well, what’s the struggle?” and she said, “well, I saw you speak, and I’m going to call you a researcher, I think, but I’m afraid if I call you a researcher, no one will come, because they will think you’re boring and irrelevant.”那我就这么开始吧：几年前，一个活动策划人打电话给我，因为我当时要做一个演讲。

她在电话里说：“我真很苦恼该如何在宣传单上介绍你。

”我心想，怎么会苦恼呢？她继续道：“你看，我听过你的演讲，我觉得我可以称你为研究者，可我担心的是，如果我这么称呼你，没人会来听，因为大家普遍认为研究员很无趣而且脱离现实。

”（笑声）I was like, "Let me think about this for a second." I tried to call deep on my courage. And I thought, you know, I am a storyteller. I'm a qualitative researcher. I collect stories; that's what I do. And maybe stories are just data with a soul. And maybe I'm just a storyteller. And so I said, "You know what? Why don't you just say I'm a researcher-storyteller." And she went, "Ha ha. There's no such thing."好。

TED演讲--脆弱的力量

The power of vulnerability-----Brené Brown脆弱的力量So, I'll start with this: a couple years ago, an event planner called me because I was going to do a speaking event.那我就这么开始吧：几年前，一个活动策划人打电话给我，因为我当时要做一个演讲。

And she called, and she said, "I'm really struggling with how to write about you on the little flyer."她在电话里说：“我真很苦恼该如何在宣传单上介绍你。

”And I thought, "Well, what's the struggle?" 我心想，怎么会苦恼呢？And she said, "Well, I saw you speak, and I'm going to call you a researcher, I think, but I'm afraid if I call you a researcher, no one will come, because they'll think you're boring and irrelevant."她继续道：“你看，我听过你的演讲，我觉得我可以称你为研究者，可我担心的是，如果我这么称呼你，没人会来听，因为大家普遍认为研究员很无趣而且脱离现实。

”And I was like, "Okay." And she said, "But the thing I liked about your talk is you're a storyteller. So I think what I'll do is just call you a storyteller."我说：“好吧。

生命,脆弱并坚强着活演讲稿

生命,脆弱并坚强着活演讲稿生命,脆弱并坚强着活演讲稿敬爱的老师，亲爱的同学们：大家好、今天，我要演讲的题目是《生命，脆弱并坚强着活》。

忘不了那一刻--------2008年5月12日14时28分，地球仿佛只是轻轻的咳嗽了一声，或者只是烦躁地掀动了一下身子，顷刻之间，数万人的生命便如风般逝去，几十万人遍体鳞伤，几百万人无家可归，全中国13亿人都为汶川地震而哭泣。

从满地残砖瓦中传出的一声声撕人心扉的求救声中，从废墟深处伸出的那一双双血迹斑驳的学生手掌中，中国人猛然惊觉到了生命是如此脆弱和无助！当中国的国旗第一次为平民百姓死难而降，当中国经历了这场半个亚洲都有震感的地震，当中国人民举行了这场世界历史上最大的集体哀悼活动后，悲伤不是哀悼的全部，留给世界的还有中国人的坚强和坚忍。

透过鲜艳的五星红旗，我们似乎看到了年轻妈妈临死前给襁褓中的婴儿发的短信：“亲爱的宝贝，如果你能活着，一定要记住我爱你”；似乎看到了那位不惜自己身体被砸成三段，也要用双手怀抱三位学生不幸遇难的老师，从他们身上，我们读懂了母爱的神圣和人间大爱。

这些身影我们难以忘记——亲临一线的总理。

这位花甲老人，奔赴强烈灾区，亲临一线指挥。

在他身上，肩负的是人民的重托，是祖国的责任。

白衣天使，恪守职责，抢救伤员，与死神进行不屈的较量，用危难面前的救死扶伤来捍卫自己的职业操守。

还有自发投入救援的志愿者和献血的.大学生，那一张张青春无私的面孔在用他们的实际行动诠释对祖国和人民的爱……灾难，是一瞬间，而抗灾精神，却是一种永恒。

我们歌颂生命，我们赞美生命，当我们看到被从废墟中挖出来的孩子敬的少先队礼，当我们看到三个月大的婴儿在战士怀里安静地睡着的时候，我们泪中有笑，生活原来如此美好。

作为学生，我们是否还未被别人踩了一脚，不高兴半天？是否为谁在背后说一句坏话，忿忿不平？生命，怎能如此挥霍？自始至终，生命都是脆弱与坚强并肩，携手同行。

我们承认我们是脆弱的，但我们更坚信我们是坚强的。

脆弱的力量ted演讲稿

脆弱的力量ted演讲稿在TED演讲中，我们经常能够听到各种各样的主题，而其中一些演讲可能会涉及到“脆弱的力量”。

这个主题看似矛盾，但实际上却是一个深刻而有趣的话题。

脆弱并不意味着无能或软弱，相反，它可能是我们内在力量的一种表现，是我们人类的一种特质。

首先，让我们来思考一下什么是脆弱的力量。

脆弱并不是指易碎或脆弱不堪，而是指柔软、敏感、细腻的一种状态。

在这种状态下，我们可能更容易被伤害，更容易受到外界的影响，但同时也意味着我们更加敏感、更加有同情心、更加能够感知和理解他人的情感。

这种敏感性和同情心正是脆弱的力量所在。

在日常生活中，我们可能会遇到各种各样的挑战和困难，有时候我们会觉得自己很脆弱，无法承受外界的压力。

然而，正是这种脆弱让我们更加敏感，更加能够理解他人的痛苦和困境。

正是因为我们的脆弱，我们才能够感同身受，与他人建立更加深刻的情感联系。

这种同情心和理解力正是脆弱的力量所在。

脆弱的力量还体现在我们对于美好事物的追求和感知能力上。

正是因为我们的脆弱，我们才能够更加细腻地感受到生活中的美好，更加深刻地理解艺术、音乐、文学等。

我们的脆弱让我们成为了更加有灵性的人，能够更加深刻地体会到生活的意义和美好。

然而，脆弱的力量并不意味着我们要放弃坚强和勇气。

相反，正是因为我们的脆弱，我们才需要更加努力地去保护自己，去坚守内心的信念。

我们需要学会如何在脆弱和坚强之间取得平衡，如何在外界的压力下保持内心的平静和坚定。

这种坚韧和勇气正是脆弱的力量所在。

在人类的发展历程中，我们经常会看到一些脆弱的力量所带来的积极影响。

比如，一些伟大的艺术家、作家、音乐家，正是因为他们的脆弱，才能够创作出那些感人至深的作品，让人们感受到生活的美好和深刻。

正是因为我们的脆弱，我们才能够更加深刻地理解人类的情感和情感世界。

总的来说，脆弱的力量并不是一种软弱或无能，而是一种内在的力量和特质。

它让我们更加敏感、更加有同情心，更加能够感知和理解他人的情感。

TED演讲-脆弱的力量演讲稿中文翻译

TE‎D演‎讲:‎脆弱‎的力‎量演‎讲稿‎中文‎翻译‎‎篇一‎：‎脆弱‎的力‎量演‎讲稿‎脆‎弱的‎力量‎演讲‎稿‎今天‎我要‎讲一‎份研‎究，‎这份‎研究‎从本‎质上‎拓宽‎了我‎个人‎的认‎知，‎也确‎确实‎实改‎变了‎我的‎生活‎、爱‎、工‎作还‎有教‎育孩‎子的‎方式‎。

‎我是‎个社‎会学‎的学‎士、‎硕士‎和博‎士，‎我被‎人所‎包围‎，大‎家都‎认同‎:“‎生活‎是一‎团乱‎麻，‎接受‎它。

‎”而‎我的‎观点‎倾向‎于:‎“生‎活是‎一团‎乱麻‎，解‎开它‎，把‎它整‎理好‎，再‎归类‎放入‎便当‎盒里‎。

”‎我对‎乱成‎一团‎、难‎以处‎理的‎问题‎感兴‎趣，‎我想‎要把‎它们‎弄清‎楚，‎我想‎要理‎解它‎们，‎我想‎侵入‎那些‎我认‎为重‎要的‎东西‎，把‎它们‎摸透‎，然‎后用‎浅显‎易懂‎的方‎式呈‎献给‎每一‎个人‎。

所‎以我‎的起‎点是‎“关‎系”‎。

‎当你‎从事‎了1‎0年‎的社‎会工‎作，‎你必‎然会‎发现‎，关‎系是‎我们‎活着‎的原‎因。

‎它赋‎予了‎我们‎生命‎的意‎义。

‎无论‎你跟‎谁交‎流，‎我们‎发现‎，关‎系是‎一种‎感应‎的能‎力—‎—生‎物神‎经上‎，我‎们是‎这么‎被设‎定的‎。

所‎以我‎从关‎系开‎始。

‎下‎面这‎个场‎景我‎们再‎熟悉‎不过‎了，‎你的‎上司‎给你‎做工‎作评‎估，‎她告‎诉了‎你3‎7点‎你做‎得相‎当棒‎的地‎方，‎还有‎一点‎——‎成长‎的空‎间？‎然后‎你满‎脑子‎都想‎着那‎一点‎成长‎的空‎间，‎不是‎吗？‎当你‎跟人‎们谈‎论爱‎情，‎他们‎告诉‎你的‎是一‎件让‎他们‎心碎‎的事‎；当‎你跟‎人们‎谈论‎归属‎感，‎他们‎告诉‎你的‎是最‎让他‎们痛‎心的‎被排‎斥的‎经历‎；当‎你和‎他们‎谈论‎关系‎，他‎们跟‎你讲‎的是‎如何‎被断‎绝关‎系的‎故事‎。

终‎于，‎在开‎始研‎究六‎周以‎后，‎我遇‎到了‎这个‎闻所‎未闻‎的东‎西，‎它揭‎示了‎关系‎——‎以一‎种我‎不理‎解也‎从没‎见过‎的方‎式‎。

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