大学生是应该谈恋爱 辩论

The road less travelled

（efore finding the right people, the only need to do is to make yourself good enough. ------ 在找到合适的人之前，唯一需要做的，就是让自己足够的优秀。In the face of true love, you don't just give, even if your object of your affection is begging you to. 在真爱面前，不要放弃，哪怕你喜欢的人要求你放弃。——《绯闻女孩》

Love can practice and improve themselves 恋爱可以修炼和完善自我

很多人认为恋爱会耽误学习，浪费时间，浪费金钱。心情时好时坏。Many people think that love will miss a study, a waste of time, waste of money. Very bad mood.

College students should not only be in love, to talk about the real love, because of loneliness and together of the love is not to improve themselves, psychology says the real love is self and others in order to promote the maturity, and has a self perfection will. And above are talking about the love and the malpractice of the so-called is simply not true love.

大学生不仅要恋爱，还要谈真正的恋爱，因为寂寞而在一起的恋爱是不能让人完善自我的，心理学上说真正的恋爱是为了促进自我和他人心智成熟，而具有的一种自我完善的意愿。而以上所谈到的恋爱和所谓的弊端根本就不是真正的恋爱。

The real love, is both love yourself, but also love others, can make the self and others to progress, love is self perfection, is also help others improve.

真正意义上的恋爱，既是爱自己，也是爱他人，可以使自我和他人赶到进步，爱是自我完善，也是帮助他人完善。

The above is the performance of the fall in love, but fall in love of be in love is not really in love, that is only an outside for to reflect, a kind of subjective desire, fall is the essence of the psychology of the so-called self boundaries. So will let fall in love of the person's mood and sometimes good and bad.

以上所说的都是坠入情网的表现，但是坠入情网的恋爱不是真正的恋爱，那只是一种外求的体现，一种主观愿望，坠入情网的本质是心理学上所谓的自我界限。所以会让谈恋爱的人的心情时而好时而坏。

And the so-called would be a waste of time, money and influence mood, I want excuse me such people usually whether is also not very good use of time money, usually pessimistic, and not being in love that such.

而且所谓的会浪费时间，金钱和影响心情的人，我想请问一下这样的人平时是否也是不会很好地利用时间金钱，平时就悲观，而不是因为恋爱才这样的。

True love is a kind of experience, whether success or not we all can harvest in love peace, pay, and improve themselves.

真正的爱是一种体验，不管成功与否我们都能在爱中收获平和，付出，完善自我等。

It added the bread of love.那是加了面包的爱情。

True love is that shipwreck once was water, maybe the best of the emotional and not cloud that attitude. Excuse me each other a debate whether been in love before? Love will let you have mature? Then why do you also fall in love?

真正的恋爱是那种曾经沧海难为水，除却巫山不是云那样的情感和态度。请问对方辩友是否谈过恋爱呢？恋爱是否让你有所成熟？那你为什么还谈恋爱？

The university is not the same as the junior high school, the university development is autonomous learning force, and the character of the perfect, etc. Of course, also including the feelings of the understanding and sublimation ~ and love is just can make people learn to perfect personality, to have better emotional intelligence and to learn a required course.

大学恰恰和初中不一样，大学培养的是自主学习力，性格的完善等，当然也包括感情的理解和升华~而恋爱恰恰是可以让人学会完善性格，为拥有更好的情商而去学习的一门必修课。Love can learn to give and take, can learn to get along with people team, the essence of this is we of this generation coexistence short board, can learn the real confidence, self-discipline, self-improvement, can understand and contain everything.

恋爱可以学会付出和收获，可以学会与人相处团队合作的本质，这也是我们这一代人共存的短板，可以学会真正的自信，自律，自强，可以理解和包容世间万物。

Love is divided into two kinds, one kind is conditional love, love is always the conditions for outward, want to be loved, romantic, other people to give everything, just want to love and love it. This will make love become very bad into, called the delay time, waste money. The influence of the so-called mood. Because it's not really in love, we think, the real love is not to ask but within the to ask. With love and not looking forward to it. So it can be tolerant of other people also heal themselves. More let people really do self-confidence, learn to make peace. Learn to get along with people, learn to understand what is the real sense.

爱分两种，一种是有条件的爱，有条件的爱一直是向外求，希望得到别人的爱，浪漫，别人给的一切，只是想恋爱而恋爱而已。这样会让恋爱变得很糟进，所谓的耽误了时间，浪费了金钱。影响了所谓的心情。因为这一切都不是真正的恋爱，我方觉得，真正的恋爱是不向外求而是向内求。带着爱而不是期待。这样就能包容他人也疗愈了自己。更加让人真正的做到自信，学会让内心平和。学会与人相处，学会真正的明白什么叫有意义。

Psychology of such phenomenon is said spirit and personality is the function disorder dysgraphia. Popular point is ill said, this has nothing to do with love.

心理学上说这样的现象是精神官能症和人格是调症通俗点说就是生病了，这与恋爱无关。Is there some girls have quite a lot of it is the love as game, can always play at any time may end, there's not a sense of responsibility. Such love will be successful? College students now of be in love the success rate is extremely low, you have thought about it a lot of factors?

还有点就是有不少的少男少女根本就是把恋爱看成游戏，随时可以演随时可以结束，根本没有一点责任感！这样的爱情会成功吗？大学生如今的恋爱成功率极低，对此你们有想过这诸多的因素吗？