watching the English(英国人的言行潜规则)

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All
in all, every culture has its unique background,as a result, we should treat it with respect. we are confronted with a different culture, we should be sensible enough to absorb its essence and resist its dark side.
The pattern of compliment
counter-compliment rule
The opening line --------- a straight compliment THE KEY OF COUNTER-COMPLIMENT The counter-compliment rule requires that the response to either version contain a self-deprecating denial, and a ‘counter-compliment'.
The place where the Counter-compliment happens
pubs restaurants coffee shops night-clubs sports events theatres concerts and so on
Female Bonding

Female Bonding

How they would feel about someone who just accepted a compliment, without qualification, and didn’t offer onsponse was that this would be regarded as impolite,unfriendly and arrogant
English men are usually putting each other down,opposed to those of the counter-compliment ritual

The rules of male bonding

Swearing, sneering and insults are allowed but storming off in a huff, or any other exhibition of real emotion, is not permitted

Summary

1.The long goodbye rule emphasize the importance of embarrassment and ineptitude in English.
2.Our apparently congenital inability to handle simple matters such as greeting and parting with any consistency or elegance in social interactions It is straightforward for us to come to a conclusion that the irrational excesses of English politeness is common in England.



1.Both, for example, involve proscription of boasting and prescription of humour.
2.Both also require a degree of polite hypocrisy – or at least concealment of one’s real opinions or feelings (feigned admiration in the counter-compliment ritual, and fake light-heartedness in Mine’s Better Than Yours) 3. in both cases, etiquette triumphs over truth and reason.
The Mine’s Better Than Yours game is an exclusively male pastime. Accompanying females may occasionally spoil the fun by misunderstanding the rules and trying to inject an element of reason.
Male Bonding: the Mine’s Better Than Yours Rules
Female Bonding - the Counter-compliment Rules

The beginning of English female bonding-talk
a ritual exchange of compliments
Male Bonding - the Mine’s Better Than Yours Rules
‘Mine’, in this context, can be anything: a make of car, a football team, a political party, a holiday destination
Try don’t be impolite

And yet, if for any reason the long goodbye has been cut short, we might feel uncomfortable, dissatisfied. However, if the goodbye was too long, the others will be boring and we will feel awkward.
The final goodbye

If everyone is loaded into the car, a window is often wound down to allow a few more parting words. As the leavers drive off, hands should be held to ears with thumbs and little fingers extended in a phoneshape, promising further communication

Find a excuse to leave

If you feel the party or the talk is very boring, what should you do is to find a excuse to leave. In fact, as soon as one person, couple or family stands up and starts making apologetic noises about traffic, baby-sitters, or the lateness of the hour, everyone else immediately looks at their watch, with exclamations of surprise, jumps to their feet and starts hunting for coats and bags and saying preliminary goodbyes.
Male Bonding - the Mine’s Better Than Yours Rules

THE
ending

It is also universally understood that there is no way of actually winning the game. No-one ever capitulates, or recognises the other’s point of view.

Female Bonding and Male Bonding

THE DIFFERENCE it is clear that male bonding-talk often tends to be competitive, while female bonding typically involves more ‘matching’ and co-operative. THE COMMON
grooming-talk
------the verbal equivalent of picking fleas off each other or mutual back-scratching.
Female Bonding: the Counter-compliment Rules
bonding-talk

The goodbye rule

We started grooming-talk chapter with greeting-talk, and we should end on a positive note. But the truth is that our leave-takings tend to be every bit as awkward. The leaving-talk can’t be too long and can’t be too late. So we have to learn the way of how to tell other it’s time to say goodbye.
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