如何尊重孩子的选择

The child, is God gave us the best gift, from be born to them, they hand picking candy step by step

slowly move into your hand, parents must be able to feel the joy and treasure. For the children, nature

is infinite love, hate not give them all over the world. But when the children grow up with their own

decisions and ideas, we should face?

1父母不是权利。尊重是一个人对另一个人平等的权利，没有因为任何原因而有不公平，所以当我们决定对孩子尊重的

时候，就要知道我们在孩子的面前不是一个仲裁者，而是引导者。父母不是一种可以来威胁孩子的岗位，也不拥有强迫

孩子的权利。

1 parents is not right. Respect is a person of another person equal rights, not because of any reason

and unfair, so when we decide upon children respect, want

to know we in front of the children is not a mediator, but guide. Parents are not a threat to their

jobs, also do not have forced the rights of the child.

2从主角上退下来。为什么这么说呢？很多人在做了父母后，会有很多遗憾想要从孩子身上补回来，很多人都在说，妈

妈以前没有做到，你一定要做到。爸爸以前没有考上，你要去考上。其实对于自己的没有完成的事情已经过去了，现在

孩子的人生里，主角是孩子，所以不要给它们包袱或者希望来完成我们没有完成的事情。The 2 main characters from the down. Why do you say that? Lots of people do their parents, there will be

a lot of regret to come back from the children, a lot of

people say that, my mother had not done, you must do it. Dad didn't pass the exams, you're going to get.

In fact, for his unfinished things have passed, and now the child's life, the protagonist is a child, so

don't give them the burden or hope to complete our unfinished business.

3做一个倾听者。从孩子咿咿呀呀学语，到孩子一字一句读书，再到后来和我们聊天说心事，似乎一晃就过了，孩子长

大了，有了自己的见解和主见，不是那个父母决定吃什么饭，穿什么衣服的小孩子以后，父母也要知道，要学会倾听孩

子的意愿，让他们能说，敢说，愿意说。这样，父母和孩子之间才是尊重和互信的一个关

系，那么就会很少出现孩子的

叛逆。因为他们会觉得你们愿意听他的理由和解释。

3 to do a listener. Yayaxueyu from child to child Yi Yi, every single word or phrase book, then later

and we chat say mind, seems to flow over, the children grow up, have their own views and ideas, not the

parents decide what to eat a meal, what to wear in children, parents also need to know, to learn to

listen to children's wishes, let them say, say, say. So,

between parents and children is a relationship of respect and trust, then it will rarely appear rebellious child. Because they feel that you are willing to listen to his explanation.

4让孩子看得更远。当我们和孩子有了冲突的时候，首先要做的是要帮助孩子来纠正他们的认知，当然前提是如果孩子

错了的话。因为有矛盾必然是因为看待的角度和来判断的标准有了分歧，那么孩子看待事物的分寸和眼界有限，我们可

以帮助孩子来认知和帮助孩子看的更远。而不是直接否认他们的看法，比如小的时候，孩子看不到人群挡住的热闹街景

，父亲会让出自己的肩膀给孩子坐上去，就会看的更远，这就是父母的意义。

4 let the children see farther. When we and the children have a conflict, the first thing to do is to

help children to correct their understanding, of course, if the child is wrong. Because there are

contradictions is the inevitable result of view angle and judging standards have their differences, then

the child to look at things. And the field of vision is limited, we can help children to cognitive and

help children to see farther. Not directly deny their views, such as small, children can't see the crowd

blocking the lively street, my father would give up their own shoulders to the child sit up, can see farther, it is the parents' meaning.

5只分析不决定。孩子有时候遇到难以决定的事情来找父母，是一种主动求援，而此时如果你的态度强硬，非要他们这

样做，也许反而适得其反，不如来告诉他，怎么看待事物，如何分析利弊，来帮助他们清晰自己的思路，打开自己的眼

界，有了一个清晰的分析后，孩子自然会有主意。

5 analysis does not decide. Children sometimes meet to decide things for parents, is a kind of active

assistance, and if your attitude is tough, non - they have to do, but may run counter to one's