双语阅读：高情商的人才有的18个特质

When emotional intelligence (EQ) first appeared to the masses, it served as the missing link in a peculiar finding: people with average IQs outperform those with the highest IQs 70% of the time. This anomaly threw a massive wrench into the broadly

held assumption that IQ was the sole source of success.

当情商（EQ）初次出现在人们的话题时，通常是那些奇怪发现中所缺失的一环：拥有平均水平智商的人们通常都比高智商人士的表现更出色，比例达到70%。这种“不正常”的现象使得大量认为“智商是成功的唯一要素”的假设发生了改变。

Decades of research now point to emotional intelligence as being the critical factor that sets star performers apart from the rest of the pack. The connection is so strong that 90% of top performers have high emotional intelligence.

近几十年来的研究开始把重点转向情绪智商（情商），认为这才是决定成功人士与其他人不同的关键因素。成功与情商的联系非常密切，几乎90%的成功人士都拥有超高的情商水平。

Emotional intelligence is the “something” in each of us that is a bit intangible. It affects how we manage behavior, navigate social complexities, and make personal decisions to achieve positive results.

情商是我们每个人内在的某种无形的“东西”。它影响着我们如何控制自己的行为，处理社交关系，以及为达到正面效果而做出的个人抉择。

Despite the significance of EQ, its intangible nature makes it very difficult to know how much you have and what you can do to improve if you’re lacking. You can always take a scientifically validated test, such as the one that comes with the Emotional Intelligence 2.0 book.

除了情商的重要性之外，它的无形的本质让你无法判断你的水平如何，以及你如何通过努力去弥补你所缺失的。你的确可以进行科学有效的情商测试，比如从Emotional Intelligence 2.0的书中可以得到结果。

Unfortunately, quality (scientifically valid) EQ tests aren’t free. So, I’ve analyzed the data from the million-plus people TalentSmart has tested in order to identify the behaviors that are the hallmarks of a high EQ. What follows are sure signs that you have a high EQ.

但不幸的是，情商的质量（科学上有效）的测试都不是免费的。所以，笔者从数百万的测试者中分析了一些数据，用以区分哪些行为属于高情商。下面的这些迹象，如果你都拥有了，那么就证明你拥有了很高的情商。

1.You Have a Robust Emotional Vocabulary

1. 拥有丰富的情感词汇。

All people experience emotions, but it is a select few who can accurately identify them as they occur. Our research shows that only 36% of people can do this, which is problematic because unlabeled emotions often go misunderstood, which leads to irrational choices and counterproductive actions.

每个人都会有情感，但仅仅有很少一部分人能够准确地描述出来。笔者的研究发现，只有36%的测试者能够区分出来，这显示了一个问题：一些不显著的情感通常都被误解了，这样就会导致非理性的选择和做出反效果的行为。

People with high EQs master their emotions because they understand them, and they use an extensive vocabulary of feelings to do so. While many people might describe themselves as simply feeling “bad,” emotionally intelligent people can pinpoint whether they feel “irritable,” “frustrated,” “downtrodden,” or “anxious.” The more specific your word choice, the better insight you have into exactly how you are feeling, what caused it, and what you should do about it.

拥有高情商的人通常都能控制自己的情绪，因为他们理解这些情绪，并使用大量的情感词汇来描述它们。当一般人把感觉简单地描述为“感觉不好”，情商高的人能够指出自己所感觉的是“烦躁的”，“沮丧的”，“压抑的”或“不安的”。你所使用的词汇越精细，你就能更深入地了解自己的情绪，产生这种情绪的原因，以及如何去处理这种情绪。

2.You’re Curious about People

2. 对人很感兴趣。

It doesn’t matter if they’re introverted or extroverted, e motionally intelligent people are curious about everyone around them. This curiosity is the product of empathy, one of the most significant gateways to a high EQ. The more you care about other people and what they’re going through, the more curiosity you’r e going to have about them.