对爱人说的话 英文

对爱人说的话英文

1.那是你的错!有时，会做出错误的经济开支决定，你的哪个孩子在学校闯祸了，或者出了一些家庭灾难。你需要知道，这些事情在任何家庭中都屡次发生。做出错误的决定，自然就发生了这样的事。但是，“责备”丝毫不会奏效。它只会疏远和离间你们，而且毫无疑问地会伤害到你们之间的信任和坦诚。

2. I told you so! Trust us on this - these four words are rarely ever used in successful marriages. This kind of “comeuppance” has no place in a loving relationship. There is no need to remind your spouse that you were right about something and they were wrong. Talk about wasted criticism!

2.我早告诉过你!相信我，在成功的婚姻里几乎不会出现这几个字。在爱情中不应有这种类似于“幸灾乐祸”的责难。你完全没有必要去提醒你的爱人，关于一些事你是对的而TA是错的。那些批评没有任何意义。

3. Saying “I am upset with you about this or that . . . .” in a public setting. Telling private secrets or criticizing your spouse in public or to someone else can do permanentdamage to the trust in your relationship. True or not - it doesn’t matter. Keep

private things private.

3.在公共场合就说：“我真受不你这样或那样”。在别人面前揭你爱人的短或批评，将会对你们感情中的信任造成永久性的伤害。对错并不重要。家里的事家里解决。

4. Why do you always . . . Focusing on your spouse’s weaknerather than building on their strengths will only increase their weakneand diminish their strength. This habit can send a relationship into a downward spiral if weaknesses are pointed out and commented upon. Succedoes breed success. Stick with the strengths and don’t focus on weakness.

4.你怎么老是。。。?总盯着你爱人的缺点，而不是放大TA的优点，只会让TA的优点更少缺点更多。指出并批评爱人的缺点，这一毛病会让你们的感情每况愈下。成功孕育成功。多注意对方的优点，不要总盯着缺点。

5. Ask for your spouse’s opinion and then do the opposite. We have heard from many angry divorced or almost divorced couples that this is the greatest indicator o f “disrespect.” If you ask where your spouse wants to go to dinner and he/she suggests a couple of places, then you select a different one, by your actions you said, “I do not respect your opinion

and don’t care what you think!”

5.问过你爱人的意见却反其道而行。从很多愤怒的离婚的或即要离婚的人们口中，我们都有所耳闻，这是最大的“不尊重”。如果你问你的爱人想去哪儿吃晚饭，她说了几个地方，而你却挑了一个别的。你是在用行动告诉好：“我不尊重你的意见，也不在乎你怎么想。”

Since saying negative or hurtful things can be damaging to a loving relationship, it is wise to take extra caution before engaging your mouth when these negative thoughts come into your mind。

既然这些消极而伤人的事情会伤害到你们的感情，所以，在那些消极的想法涌入脑海时，下意识地慎从口从不失为一个明智之举。