内心强大=不需要婚姻？

听到较多这样的理论：强大的人不需要婚姻。

先是洪晃的自传里，自言离婚若干次后，“觉得婚姻这玩意没意思极了，从此不打算再结婚。

”洪晃是痞女，说话一向泼辣，坦率。

接着是台湾知名电视人陈文茜，在接受时尚大刊《COSMO》主编徐巍访谈时说，每次当她谈恋爱时，就极不快乐。

陈今年快五十岁了，一直有男朋友。

坦言虽然未婚，但和男朋友相处融洽。

她说因为没有婚姻的束缚，反倒可以在生命里找到更多支点，做很多感兴趣的事情。

我的一个朋友是文艺圈内知名同志，关于长久的恋情，他更极端，认为自己不但不需要异性恋婚姻，连长久的男性伴侣也不打算找。

那么找什么呢？只是谈恋爱，有很多的朋友，但不想这个人成为自己的囚笼。

这让一些人大跌眼镜，一个人怎么过？在我母亲过来，一个人的日子完全不是日子。

我很多单身朋友，总觉得单身悲惨极了。

周末很孤独，晚上也很孤独，平时懒得做饭，因为做得最好，也是一个人吃。

所以无论好不好，先要找一个人至少来缓解自己的孤独和寂寞感。

虽然也有很多不快乐，但是两个人的不快乐，总好过一个人的孤独。

真的是内心强大的人不需要婚姻？
没有错，生命千差万别。

在别人眼中的天堂，在另外一群人眼中可能是地狱。

比如婚姻，有的人恨不得付出生命也要得到，是自己生活的全部意义和价值；但有些人却觉得要逃避婚姻，因为它很可能会压抑人的个性。

其实，在我看来都没有错，只是看生命的视野不同。

那些不需要婚姻的人，确实往往内心强大丰富。

在她们看来，有很多事情要做，比如关心公益，环保，要忙自己各种无止尽追求的事业，同时一个人呆着，也挺享受，没有觉得有什么难过之处。

她们往往很淡定，我的那位朋友有一句经典的话：把长久的关系看成人生的偶遇，而不是特意追求之。

所以，长久的关系在她们看来，只是自己无数支点中的一个，绝对不是全部。

相反，大部分人显然没有这样强大的内心，大部分人把婚姻看成人生的全部。

觉得没有它，人生就不完整。

婚姻无辜承担着他们所有的快乐，成功与否的责任。

一旦自己感受不到，便向婚姻索取，抱怨，失望后，便觉得是对方的错误。

我个人觉得需不需要婚姻，不是一个人内心强大与否的标志。

需要婚姻的人，确实应该向那些虽然单身但依然快乐的人学习这些：比如保持自我，比如不把幸福完全寄托在别人身上，比如即使在婚后，还依然有个人的很多追求等。

只有这样做，才能既享受婚姻的甜蜜，同时又保持着内心的强大和淡定，而不致于因为在婚姻中寄望过多，成为常见的怨男怨女。

Hear more such theory: the powerful people don't need to marriage.
First hung autobiography, said several times after the divorce, "think marriage this thing is so boring,/, from then on don't want to get married again." Hung is the new female, always provocative, frank.
Then the Taiwan well-known television personality remained unsubstantiated, in a fashion editor publication "COSMO" Xu Wei interview, every time when she fall in love, is very happy. Fast fifty years old this year, Chen has had a boyfriend. Although
said unmarried, but get along with her boyfriend.
Because she said not the bondage of marriage, but you can find more in the life to stand, and do a lot of interesting things.
One of my friends is a well-known literary and art circles comrade, about long-term relationship, he is more extreme,/, think you not only don't need a heterosexual marriage, even the male partner for a long time don't want to find. So what for? Just fall in love, have a lot of friends, but don't want the man to become his own cage.
This has led some, how a person? In my mother to come over, one day is not entirely day. I always think a lot of single friends, single is so tragic. The weekend is lonely, also very lonely at night, too lazy to cook at ordinary times, because do best, is also a person to eat.
So no matter good or not,/, to first find a person at least to relieve their solitude and loneliness. Although there are a lot of unhappy, but two people are not happy, always better than a person's lonely.
Really is the heart strong people don't need a marriage?
There is nothing wrong, life is different. In the eyes of others in the paradise, in the eyes of another group of people could be hell ". Such as marriage, some people would pay a life also want to get, is the whole meaning and value of his own life; But
some people think to marriage, because it is likely to be depressed person's personality.
In fact, in my opinion are not wrong, just see different view of life.
Those who don't need a marriage, is often rich in inner strength. In their opinion, there are a lot of things to do, such as concerned about public welfare, environmental protection,/, to our endless pursuit of the undertakings of various kinds, alone at the same time, also enjoying, not feel what is sad.
They tend to be calm, my friend has one of the classic: a long relationship as a chance encounter in life, not deliberately pursue. So, long lasting relationship in their opinion, just one of his numerous fulcrum, definitely not all of them.
Instead, most people don't have such a strong heart, apparently most people regard marriage as the life complete. Don't feel it, life is not complete. Happy marriage to all their innocent, the responsibility of the success or failure. Once their feelings, to ask for marriage, to complain, disappointment, and think of each other's mistakes.
Personally, I think need marriage is not a sign of a person heart is strong or not. Who needs marriage, really should learn from those who although single but still happy these: keep self, for example, such as not your happiness on someone else, even after marriage, for example, many still have personal pursuit, etc.
Only by doing so, can enjoy the sweetness of marriage, both at the same time maintain inner powerful and calm,/, and not because of too much hope in the marriage, become a common hatred; male and female hatred.。