执行力：情绪韧性的四大核心素质

FOUR CORE QUALITIES THAT MAKE UP EMOTIONAL FORTITUDEBossidy and Charan point out four core qualities that make up emotional fortitude:(1)Authenticity(2)Self-awareness(3)Self-mastery(4)HumilityClearly these four qualities should be well-developed by the time an executive reaches a top position within a corporation. However, often one or two of them may appear to be underdeveloped. Leadership development at this level requires the services of a professionally trained executive coach to provide focus and guidance in enhancing these four qualities1.AuthenticityAuthenticity [ ♏⏹♦♓♦♓♦♓ ]真实性You're real, not a fake [♐♏♓]假货.Your outer person is the same as your inner person…Every man builds his world in his own image. He has the power to choose, but no power to escape the necessity of choice.How one chooses to try to live more authentically depends on their own perspective on authenticity. Like many other popular concepts, different people have different views about authenticity and many people feel very strongly about their own views. Some people might assert that an individual is being authentic if they are being completely honest and participating in the here-and-now, e.g., an honest conversation with a friend, completely focused on cleaning out the garage, etc. There are others who assert that authenticity involves many other features, including, e.g., always being centered with themselves and others, living in a completely integrated fashion with their own values and principles, always feeling complete meaning or sense of purpose in their lives, etc.2.Self-awarenessSelf-awareness自知：Knowing others is wisdom[ ♦♓♎☜❍]智慧, knowing yourself is enlightenment[♓⏹●♋♓♦⏹❍☜⏹♦]启迪.Know thyself [❆♋♓♦♏●♐]你自己... It is the core of authenticity.Self-awareness gives you the capacity to learn from your mistakes as well as your successes从错误和成功中吸取经验教训. It enables you to keep growing.【从错误和成功中吸取经验教训】(1)It all begins with awareness【/awareness/question_tips.htm】Awareness is the first step in the creation process. As you grow in self awareness, you will better understand why you feel, what you feel and why you behave as you behave. That understanding then gives you the opportunity and freedom to change those things you’d like to change about yourself and create the life you want. Without fully knowing who you are, self acceptance and change become impossible.Having clarity about who you are and what you want (and why you want it), empowers you to consciously and actively make those wants a reality. Otherwise, you’ll continue to get “caught up” in your own internal dramas and unknown beliefs, allowing unknown thought processes to determine your feelings and actions.If you think about it, not understanding why you do what you do, and feel what you feel is like going through your life with a stranger's mind. How do you make wise decisions and choices if you don't understand why you want what you want?It's a difficult and chaotic way to live never knowing what this stranger is going to do next.When we want good, solid information, we turn to the experts. So, who are you going to turn to for information about yourself? Who's the expert? –You.Does a friend, a therapist, a minister, your hero, your spouse, your parents know more about you than you? They can't. You live in your skin and mind 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and 52 weeks a year. Day in and day out, n o one’s closer to you than you! The answers are in th ere, perhaps all you’ve needed to solve your riddles is a useful question.(2)Using questions to be more self aware“Let us not look back in anger, nor forward in fear, but around in awareness.”Questions can help you become more self aware. Are you where you live? Are you your job? Are you what you look like? The answers to these questions are only reflections of who you are to the outside world. But it’s just that, a reflection of your inner self. To go below the surface, the questions need to be more meaningful.Think of the questions as being in layers. Each level or layer of questioning takes you closer and closer to the “core of your being.”Example of LayersWhat type of people do I enjoy spending time with?Well...they have to be open-minded people. I really enjoy their company.Why do I enjoy being with open-minded people?Because then I can explore lots of different ideas. I enjoy searching for answers. Andif they’re open-minded, the exploration can go anywhere!What do I mean by “exploration can go anywhere”?I mean I can investigate all the big questions in life like...Why are we here or wheredo emotions come from?How does being with open-minded people assist me in exploring those questions?Well...if they’re open-minded they won’t make fun of my ideas.Why is it important to me that people not make fun of my ideas?Because it feels like my ideas are..well...me. I don’t like being made fun of.Why don’t I like being made fun of?Because then I feel shitty about myself.Why would I feel shitty about myself if people made fun of me?Because they’re not accepting me for who I am!Why do I feel shitty if others don’t accept me for who I am?Because it means I’m not OK.H ow does others not accepting me mean I’m not okay?Hmmmm.... I guess it doesn't have to mean that.As you can see, the further down in the questioning process you go, the more you can tap into why you do what you do and who you are. It will take time for you to go through all the questions if you keep digging down each layer. Feel free to refer back to this example when answering the questions.3.Self-masterySelf-mastery自我控制: When you know yourself, you can master yourself.You can keep your ego[ ♓♈☜☺]利已主义, 自负in check, take responsibility for your behavior【为自己的行为负责，By Stone】, adapt to change, embrace[♓❍♌❒♏♓♦]拥抱new ideas, and adhere to your standards of integrity [ ♓⏹♦♏♈❒♓♦♓ ]正直and honesty under all conditions.Self-mastery is the key to true self-confidence自信.Self-confident people contribute the most to dialogues【自信的人对对话的贡献最大。