7个社交好习惯

There's no question that charismatic people are some of the most successful individuals out there. Professor Wiseman at the University of Hertfordshire in the UK estimates charisma is 50% innate and 50% trained. They key ingredients of charisma are simple actions that, with practice, become a part of your personality and improve your interactions with everyone around you, increasing your overall satisfaction with life. Here are 7 qualities of charismatic people that you can incorporate into your life.

毫无疑问，你身边有魅力的人都基本上都属于最成功的人士。英国赫特福德郡大学怀斯曼教授证实，魅力一半源于天生，一半来自后天。他们列举了提升魅力值的行为，通过练习，使这些行为融入到性格里，来提升与周围人交际的能力，从而提高你整体的魅力值。下面是提升魅力的七个好习惯。

1.Listen Actively

1.做一个积极的听众

When you listen, give them your undivided attention and ask questions. Do NOT check your phone more than once in a conversation – better yet, don't check it at all! A study by the University of Colorado found that active listening helps avoid misunderstandings and opens people up to get them to say more. Actively listening will improve communication with those around you, whether you're working with them or living with them. People tend to remember good listeners as positive people.

当你是个听众时，一定要全神贯注，别忘了问点问题。不要在谈话过程中超过一次查看手机——最好的是，压根就不要看手机！科罗拉多大学的研究表明，做一名积极的听众可以避免误会，同时使说话人说得更多，增强你与周围人的联系，不管是同事或是室友。人们总是能会把好的听众看成积极正面的人。

2.Speak Clearly

2.语言表达清晰

Take your time and think about each sentence. The more you speak with unnecessary filler, the less clear you are. Especially when speaking to more than one person at once, or to a new group of people, practice your approach beforehand. Am I saying everything I need to say? Is everything I'm saying

necessary? Is there a clear objective and purpose to what I am saying?

花点时间想想你要说的每句话。你说的废话越多，语言表达就越不清晰。尤其是在和不止一个人或一群人对话时，一定要先练习一下你的说话技巧。我说的都面面俱到了吗？我说的都是有必要说的嘛？我说的这些话里有明确的主题思想吗？

3.Smile from Within

3.发自内心的微笑

A genuine smile from within shows on the outside: you smile with your eyes and mouth. Not to say you have to walk around with a grin all the time! But when you smile on the inside, people are more receptive when you approach them. The women with a Duchenne smile were more likely to be married and stay married than those who had a fake smile, and were more likely to experience greater sense of personal well-being. When you smile from the heart and follow up with a kind personality, you will get more and give more to the world than you ever thought possible.

真正的微笑是从内到外散发出来的：你的眼睛和嘴都在笑。这不是说你要一直咧着嘴笑！而是当你微笑的时候，要发自内心，这样人们才更能接受你。相对于比起经常假笑的人，有着杜乡式真正微笑的女人更容易嫁出去，婚姻也可以保持更久，还更能体验到一种独属于自己的幸福。当你发自内心的微笑，你会向外界给予更多，同时也得到更多，这会完全超乎你的想象哦。

4.Stand Up Tall

4.站直点

Imagine there's a string running from your navel, through your head and up into the ceiling. It's an old dancer's trick, and works for the rest of us to maintain great posture throughout the day. Good posture makes you appear secure and confident; if you're not feeling that confident today, fake it until you make it! Remember to keep your shoulders down.

想象一下，从你的头沿着背部到天花板，一直有根棍子在支撑着。这是舞者训练的老方法，也可以帮助我们来纠正自己的站姿。好的站姿让你