研究生综合英语：His politeness is her powerlessness PPT课件

5 SUMMARIZE
By 王振鹏
Structure & Main idea
Part I (1-2)
Part II (3-5) Part II (6-9)
Different Conversational Rules by Which Men and Women Play
Status vs.Support
Independence vs.Intimacy
Advice vs.Understanding
Indirect = Powerlessness
question 1.Gee,I really need a few things from the store,but I'm so tired.
question 3.I don't want to see you again.
question 2.Can you come to my home and help me fix my computer?
consulting.
Interview a couple
What is the meaning of "being very polite"
The man said: "Subservience"
The woman said: "Sensitivity" .
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DOES INDIRECTNESS REFLECT POWERLESSNESS?
This pasage is from the book 《You Just Don't Understand》
Deborah Tannen
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WHY ARE WOMEN'S WAY OF TALKING MISINTERPRETED?
Differences between male and female
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Right = Gene
Point 1
1.The reason offered for this is power:The woman doesn't feel she has the right to ask directly.
Point 2
2.The explanation for a woman's indirectness could just as well be her seeking connection.
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3.They don't want to superior,they just want to let everyone get along well with this king of indirect way.
TWO SITUATIONS
Situation 1 A wealthy couple and their maids
Situation 2 Parents and their children
Situation 1
It is cold here. Raising the temperature.
It is dinner time. Having dinner served.
Situation 2 when we are misbehaving...
It is different from Japanese culture.
MADAGASCAR: Indirectness = high statuese
Women：Women: direct style is clumsy and crude
Men: indirect style is regard as better
WHAT THE GUY MEANT
WHAT THE GUY UNDERSTOOD
WHAT THE GIRL UNDERSTOOD
Background Information
Occupation: Academic and professor of linguistics
Published: 20 books and over 100 articles
It means she wanted to go!
Japan: indirectness is an art
1.Determine 2.Accept 3.Several repeated exchange 4.Answered in politely
America: directness is a value
His Politeness Is
Her Powerlessness
LOREM IPSUM DOLOR
1 INTRODUCTION
When they talk...
When a girl talks to a guy
WHEN THE GIRL REALLY MEANT
When a GUY talks to a GIRL
Then parents show up...
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indirectness in different cultures
THE USA MADAGASCAR
JAPAN GREEK
FOUR CULTURES
Greek: indirectness was appropriate Would you like to go to the party?
Women: build relationships. Men: give information,solve problems,show expertise. Women: avoid appearing“superiority.” Men: appearing “superior”.
Women: want to reach consensus and consult. Men: want to get straight and choose without
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Direct = Natural
question
1.Will you please go to the store for a pack of cigarettes?
question
2. I can't go shopping with you, because I want to play games.