关于跨国婚姻的看法

Cross-cultural Marriage

With cross-nation communication becomes increasingly prevailing, quite a lot of young people hanker for a marriage or at least a relationship with foreigners. Even I myself have ever expected to marry a white husband holding the simple thought that I could then bear a mixed-race baby with blue eyes and high IQ. By the way, my spoken English could also get improved at an accelerating speed.

However, when more and more divorce cases in which couples from different nations are involved are exposed to the public, the feasibility of cross-cultural marriage is being thrown into doubt. Reasons against such kind of combination can be analyzed in the following aspects: First, language.

After wedding, one of the couple would leave home and move to a new city where his/her soul mate lives. Here comes the problem. If he/she cannot use her/his native language freely, how can he/she integrate himself/herself into the social circles of each other? The worst result my be that the marriage is destroyed once the sense of loneliness and despair develop deeper and deeper.

Second, values.

Different understanding of loyalty creates disharmony in the marriage. Chinese society attaches great importance to the sense of loyalty. Traditional Chinese women believe firmly that they should be faithful to husbands till death, thus reckoning on husbands as their mates for life. If their husbands show interest in other women, they will feel extremely indignant and aggressive, some of them may even commit a suicide. On the contrary, most men who are educated in western countries always keep an open attitude toward love, so they’re confused to see their Chinese wives’ violent reaction to such things.

Third, eating habits.

In China, there are diverse ideas and techniques for cooking and it’s pretty normal that a single raw material can be cooked in over six ways. We eat three meals a day and our staple food is basically rice or noodles. In western countries, whether food types or cooking techniques are limited. Their daily life is occupied by various fast foods which provide high calories and fat. Does spending much time in the kitchen mean a waste of time? Not necessarily for us Chinese!

Although cross-border marriage may seem as dreamily beautiful as a fairytale, the tale is based more on romantic imagination than reality. Different culture, tastes, eating habits, life experiences and the like, all these factors resemble strong waves, which may wash the dream away as soon as the weather becomes stormy. So let’s take the cross-cultural marriage rationally!