中外交友观之比较

中外交友观之比较

摘要：本文通过表达方式和不同文化之间的比较，旨在寻找中西交友观的不同。这篇文章通过观点形成的原因，不同的表达方式，以及现实生活所带来的影响几方面的分析，探寻出两种文化之间的不同。

关键词：交友；对比分析；跨文化

abstract：this paper aims at conducting the external express manners and the intercultural analysis to find out any differences of the view and manner of making friends between chinese’s and foreigners’. this paper get analysis the reason why the views have been formed, the specific express manners, as well as the effect to the real life by comparing numerous cases in order to explore the further diversity between the two cultures.

key words: making friends, contrastive analysis,

cross-cultural communication.

the comparison of the perspectives of making friends between chinese and foreigners

ⅰ. the purpose of study

the communication is an important aspect of human behavior indeed rather than an only defined term in our mind. misunderstanding always happens between china and foreign

countries. this paper aims at conducting the external express manners and the intercultural analysis to find out any difference of the view and manner of making friends between chinese’s and westerners’.

ⅱ. the comparison of environment

people get different sense of worth and world, the cognitive style and s series of rules and regulations because they live in different society which owns various kinds of culture. culture forges and shapes the individual communication. in this section, some factors will be compared.

a the geographical environment

the geographical position that china located in determined that china would be an agricultural nation from the ancient times. so the relationship between people is based on the blood relationship. however, the western countries are located around the ocean. that is why westerners carry out the individualism and the parallel relationship.

b the received education

the education here refers to the religion or philosophy which can effect human’s idea. the collectivism or the individualism, the caste system or parallel relationship can be formed with the affection of the philosophy that belongs

to one country.

c the views to selves

in china, if someone does not do like that, he or she must be regard as having no sense of shame. from this point we can explain why chinese emphasize the face and most of them are good at the face-work. in the western countries, the humanism means universal love, which loves all uniformly.

ⅲ. the comparison of making friends

a the manner

in china, the guests will order the dishes rather than let the host or the guest of honor do this kind of things. americans prefer to express themselves directly with the communication rules. moreover, the americans protect their privacy carefully, even the closed friend. germans are only not good at express their emotion. whereas, they think highly of their old friends and old friendship, and they look down upon the person who breaks faith with his friend.

b the attitude

according to jia yuxin’s perspective, the friendship can be divided into three kinds just like the affectivity-based relationship, instrumental type of relationship, the mixed relationship. we can find out that the chinese interpersonal